Ashamed of our fetish

[fordtech30]

I have noticed allot of members or even heard stories about how people keep so quiet about this fetish of ours. I know it's not your everyday fetish, but lets think about this. What really is. Just because someone gets turned on by looking at a nudey magazine does that make them normal?

I posted a story awhile back about how my mom found my movies once. It was embarrassing yes, but once I started to find more people like me, I realized that I'm not alone.

Then I began to tell people, well...girlfriends about my fetish, and they were actually very receptive to it. I came to find out that if someone really cares about you they will want to learn more about you.

I have heard of members that are so embarrassed about this that they don't even mention it outside of the forum. I don't see the big deal about it.

It's almost like they are ashamed. Purhaps the reason it seems so embarrassing to some people is that they treat it like an embarrassing fetish. When actually it's quite normal. Just look around and you'll see. lol

I would just like to say to all my brothers and sisters of the forum to be proud of who you are. We all have a fetish yes, but it doesn't make you any less normal than the next person. And I think you will find more people receptive to it than you think.

Thank you all.

You Guys Rock

 

[Raystanz333]

*applause* That was a great post.

I'm going to be honest with you and say that sometimes I DO feel ashamed. Well maybe not so ashamed of my fetish as much as I'm ashamed over how much I desire it. If that makes any sense.

My sexuality and fetishes do not define me as a person, but they do have very great control over me. I simply could not quite imagine being in a relationship that didn't indulge this fetish. This upset me somewhat.

I go around telling quite a few people I have a fetish for tickling in fact and never feel ashamed or embarrassed, regardless of the way they react to it. In fact it can be very amusing 😉.

Perhaps I just think about this too much. But it would seem to me that most of the world couldn't quite understand the levels this fetish might have for some of us. For instance I don't need to have a sexual tickling experience, and have enormous satisfaction and fun playing with non sexual tickling.
But if I had a girlfriend who didn't like my fetish, I doubt she'd be just fine with having different women tickling me so I can get my yee has.
What if I still love this girlfriend? It would be very frustrating.
Lucky for me, I'm not actually in this situation though 😉

But the idea of all this frightens me a bit. I feel more like my fetish is a little limiting. But hell...I will never be the least bit sorry for having this fetish. 🙂
I love it!

 

[waitin2btkled]

Ashamed, in the beginning for me yes. Common fetish, maybe not but, once you understand what it means to have a fetish, things start to fall into place. You begin to start realizing how common it is to have a fetish more and more.

The way I would describe having a fetish is having a kink that turns you on but you never talk about it. There are so many people out there in their 20s & 30s either involved or at the very least interested / intrigued by it that i have personally seen.

Also - things will never be boring in the bedroom for you in the future. Understand that any "kinks" you might have, will always keep things alive in the bedroom.

That is a very big deal cause when your spouse is looking to do things with you either different or to spice things up, there is your in.

Those are some of the things that opened me up. Viva la tickle!!!!

 

[xionking]

No shame.

-Xionking

 

[starburstz91]

Well, my thoughts on this...

I'm not really ashamed of my fetish. I feel that I am unique, because I have this weird quality of myself that turns me on. I don't really see what the big deal is either, but in reality, there is a such thing as assholes in the universe. They're the people who turn you down, make you feel out of place from everyone, and bring down your confidence. It's the opposite of people cheering you on: The more they do it, the more it grows. Same with the people who bring you down: the more they do it, the worser you feel. That's always be though; I've had some real dicks know about my fetish and poke fun behind my back, but then again, I say "ehh fuck em".

I don't know. I think me liking tickling is weird, but funny, and it brings new excitements into my life. It lets me learn how the world can treat you, and to understand people with the same bashful issues. Maybe people aren't "ashamed" per say, just nervous about it. About people. About their reputation. Whatever it is that seems to matter.

That's just me though. 🙂

 

[LD_Tickler]

Well, my thoughts on this...

I'm not really ashamed of my fetish. I feel that I am unique, because I have this weird quality of myself that turns me on. I don't really see what the big deal is either, but in reality, there is a such thing as assholes in the universe. They're the people who turn you down, make you feel out of place from everyone, and bring down your confidence. It's the opposite of people cheering you on: The more they do it, the more it grows. Same with the people who bring you down: the more they do it, the worser you feel. That's always be though; I've had some real dicks know about my fetish and poke fun behind my back, but then again, I say "ehh fuck em".

I don't know. I think me liking tickling is weird, but funny, and it brings new excitements into my life. It lets me learn how the world can treat you, and to understand people with the same bashful issues. Maybe people aren't "ashamed" per say, just nervous about it. About people. About their reputation. Whatever it is that seems to matter.

That's just me though. 🙂

Yeah I pretty much agree. I'm not ashamed of my fetish, but I don't want people to know about it unless there's a good reason, for example, a girlfriend.

It's weird, it's not normal, but whatever. We pick out the good parts and move on.

 

[meangry]

I'm not ashamed of it because it doesn't control me. It's an aspect. And an aspect I don't feel needs to be public. It's not embarrassment; it's common sense. I don't feel as if there is anything to gain by running in the streets, telling my sexual proclivities.

 

[chicago]

I'm not ashamed of it because it doesn't control me. It's an aspect. And an aspect I don't feel needs to be public. It's not embarrassment; it's common sense. I don't feel as if there is anything to gain by running in the streets, telling my sexual proclivities.

This.

 

[thegame99]

am i ashamed? NOPE ... tickling for me is a turn on yes, but overalll tickling is just an aspect of my life, there is also a foot fetish that i do have that i entail alot into my relationshiop, i told my girl friend about it and she actually doesn't mind it which is awesome, but nope i didn't tell her about the tickling one because i would MUCH rather engage in sex then tickle her... do i like tickling? yes, but i would much rather be having sex with her all night because i like that alot, tickling to me is just a side thing to whack off to here and there to change things up a bit....

cheers to all

 

[milagros317]

I'm not ashamed of it because it doesn't control me. It's an aspect. And an aspect I don't feel needs to be public. It's not embarrassment; it's common sense. I don't feel as if there is anything to gain by running in the streets, telling my sexual proclivities.

Exactly. Sex, even plain vanilla sex, is personal and doesn't need to be broadcast to the world at large. 😀

 

[tommee]

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Hmm, how should I put this? Ashamed of my fetish.... no. I do have some guilt from a few occasions of crossing boundries that I can look back now and see as inappropriate, but at the time I could get away with it becuase it wasn't a

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stranger or without consent, the problem was that though it seemed harmless I'm pretty sure that if from the beginning the women would have known my only interest was to play with there feet and and nothing else they probably would not have gotten involved with me. For the most part only those who know me on a intimate level are aware of my fetish, I have never flaunted it, but I have been known to be a bit bold if an oppurtunity to get some tickling in comes along. I have came a long way as far as getting a better understanding of this fetish of mine and this forum has helped a lot, thanks to all of you!

 

[rhiannon]

I'm not any more ashamed of it than I am of anything else that has to do with my sexlife. People knowing about my sex life also know about my fetish.

But I used to be ashamed when I was younger, because it just is not normal. Normal would mean everybody likes it, or at least the broad majority. 🙂

 

[Tinkerhead414]

I have to say that I am quite reluctant to divulge my passion for tickling. Not so much with my foot fetish, but definitely with my tickling fetish. And the reason is because tickling for me isn't purely sexual. It's a huge turn on, but it is also a fun activity that one would do with a family member, or a small child. It's a different scenario based on who I am ticking and for what reason. I'd rather not be seen as a pedophile or something, by someone who doesn't fully understand my fetish.

But also, I don't feel like it's anyone's business but those I choose to tell.

 

[goddess_nemesis]

I'm not ashamed of it because it doesn't control me. It's an aspect. And an aspect I don't feel needs to be public. It's not embarrassment; it's common sense. I don't feel as if there is anything to gain by running in the streets, telling my sexual proclivities.

I'm not ashamed or embarrassed by my fetish for tickling. It's intimate and personal, and no one but my boyfriend needs to know. Two of my friends know but it was a moment that brought us closer and I trust them with that knowledge.

 

[Musicroxmysox]

I'm not ashamed of it because it doesn't control me. It's an aspect. And an aspect I don't feel needs to be public. It's not embarrassment; it's common sense. I don't feel as if there is anything to gain by running in the streets, telling my sexual proclivities.

Same here. Meangry really did say it the best.

 

[foney]

I'm, not necessarily ashamed of my fetish... but i would be embarrassed if someone found out about it (my family doesn't know of my fetish, and the way they talk about related fetishes such as feet, probably never will).... one thing i don't really understand is when did objects one the opposite sex's body, such as someones bum (lol) become appropriate sexual turn ons?... while our fetish is relatively thought of as weird

 

[Dialon]

Well im not ashamed of my fetish, but nobody i have ever known has this (that i know of) so i really have no indulgance to tell anyone. If someone finds out good for them, but i dont care to go out of my way to tell someone (unless its necessary).

 

[rhiannon]

one thing i don't really understand is when did objects one the opposite sex's body, such as someones bum (lol) become appropriate sexual turn ons?... while our fetish is relatively thought of as weird

Somewhen during the Stone Age! It is all about the differences between the genders! Men are turned on by breasts and rounded buttocks because they don't have it. Women are turned on by broad shoulders and slim hips because they don't have it. Feet are just feet. Doesn't matter if male of female! 🙂

 

[ticklejunkie]

We had this debate on the UKTF recently. I must admit it's something I'm extremely guarded about for several reasons: Firstly it seems to me most people associate tickling as something you do to young children, and as someone mentioned earlier I would hate for those people to misunderstand the intentions of my fetish. Also I would find it very difficult to be with a bunch of people with 'normal' interests who decided to gang up on me in terms of mocking my interests. My current gf knows, which is already a big step for me, as for other people outside this community, that may be awhile...

 

[c7_assassin]

Hmm...

I think part of it is that this fetish is still fairly unrecognized. People know about rubber masks, cuffs, spanking, peeing on each other, furry costumes, stuff that's a lot more 'deviant' than this, but it gets talked about. They never did a Sex and the City episode where Samantha dated a tickler, you know?
And unlike those other fetishes, tickling is something everyone's experienced in their lives. It just happened to have a more sexual effect on us. That's a little embarrassing to admit.
So 'ashamed' isn't the right word, but I do keep it a secret. Until the world is ready...

 

[ViperGTS]

Here's the way I see it. Since I turned 18, I have not been ashamed of my tickling and bondage fetishes, or even really shy about them. When I meet new friends or are socializing with people, if sexual topics come up, I am not going to avoid talking about them - they are a part of my personality, albeit a personal and, to some, private matter.

If someone dislikes me because of my fetishes, that's their loss - first of all, it's no one's business but my own unless I want to talk about it, and second of all, if someone is closed-minded enough to judge me at all letalone based on my sexual preferences, they have no business being my friend to begin with.

 

[martymoo4u2]

I don't see it as being ashamed. It is more like a don't ask don't tell sort of thing. I do most of my watching and listening here online instead of in my real life. I see it as an erotic thing that turns me on. I live in Maine and we don't seam to have alot of tickle fetish freaks here or so it seams. I have had this fetish since I was surfin the net back when I was 7 or 8. It's a way I like to dominate and be dominated in my own little world. Laughter is one of the greatest things givin to us and it doesnt surprize me that some get turned on by it. Many get turned on by other things like crying, legs, breasts and such so Laughter is awesome and what better way to bring it out but with tickling which can be defined as a controled laughter. Thanks guys.

Martymoo