Asking gf for the first time

[mcmunagle1]

Hello all,

Has anyone ever had any experience in telling a fairly new gf about their fetsih? I've told mine that tickling turns me on and I like to have my nipples and armpits tickled lol but not that I like to be tied to the bed and tickled. I worry that she might think I'm a bit crazy with my like for bondage and tickling.

 

[nonodonttickle]

she probobly will lol

 

[PixilatedPixel]

It all depends on how "new" the relationship is, and how comfortable you two are about talking about what turns you on, in and out of bed.

You already let her know that tickling turns you on, so that's a big step. Introducing bondage can be tricky, but just make sure she knows its all about both of you having fun, and see where it goes. See if there's anything you can do for her in "return". 😉

Good luck!

 

[mcmunagle1]

Hello

LOL nonodonttickle,

Well its not as bad as asking her to pee or poop on me or anything 🙂.

I know she's ticklish I just can't help but wanting to tie her up and sensually tickling her a tiny little bit past her limits.

 

[sadi]

Well since you already introduced the fact that you were turned on by tickling, depending how often you guys stay in your room, you may care to 'accidentally' leave some bondage out - ie. cuffs, rope (tied to bed), etc. and take it from there if she comments on it. Or you could try to get her in trouble some way, and punish her by tying her up or something like that.
I don't know to be honest, just my opinion is all. I think the 2nd option may work out better though.

 

[mcmunagle1]

Hi

It all depends on how "new" the relationship is, and how comfortable you two are about talking about what turns you on, in and out of bed.

You already let her know that tickling turns you on, so that's a big step. Introducing bondage can be tricky, but just make sure she knows its all about both of you having fun, and see where it goes. See if there's anything you can do for her in "return". 😉

Good luck!

Thanks for the advice. I think your right. I could also just get drunk and tell her everything about my fetish? But introducing bondage slowly is what I'm kind of trying to do. She asked if I had any sex toys and I mentioned handcuffs and she said "oh"....not sure in what tone. But I'll wait until she knows me well and see's I'm normal before letting her know this stuff. All of you here I'm sure would understand. Haha, I'm slighly drunk and must work tomorrow morning...shit. 🙁

Maybe I should get drunk and tell my gf about my bondage/tickling/fetish?

 

[sadi]

Thanks for the advice. I think your right. I could also just get drunk and tell her everything about my fetish? But introducing bondage slowly is what I'm kind of trying to do. She asked if I had any sex toys and I mentioned handcuffs and she said "oh"....not sure in what tone. But I'll wait until she knows me well and see's I'm normal before letting her know this stuff. All of you here I'm sure would understand. Haha, I'm slighly drunk and must work tomorrow morning...shit. 🙁

Maybe I should get drunk and tell my gf about my bondage/tickling/fetish?

All depending on what kind of relationship you have, and what her personailty's like, doing that could end up generally being a 50/50 thing. But hey, if you're already too drunk to care, then just whatever you feel like. :super_hap

 

[the_jimmy_james]

Best policy...

Come out and say it. Don't be timid at all. Tell her straight and let her know you're serious about it.

As for your last post, I kinda disagree about with the part about letting her see that you're "normal." Let her know now. This is who you are and it's important to you! It's also not weird. Never feel like you're strange because of your interest.

Ever.

 

[TyrantRaveAB]

Best policy...

Come out and say it. Don't be timid at all. Tell her straight and let her know you're serious about it.

As for your last post, I kinda disagree about with the part about letting her see that you're "normal." Let her know now. This is who you are and it's important to you! It's also not weird. Never feel like you're strange because of your interest.

Ever.

i second that.

 

[dalekfire]

Mmm. The bondage thing. A good (and safe) way to ease that in could be...

If you and your girlfriend like to flirt cutely a lot, try, like, tickling her 'n stuff, and when she resists, playfully capture her wrists or pin her down or something. If she seems to like it, that's your que to playfully introduce some cute way of restraining her wrists or something...like a neck-tie, or a shoe-lace...or something. xD If she likes that...well, then spilling the beans about your bondage interest may be a bit easier. Then she can better understand, instead of, "Oh lookie at my handcuffs! What do you think of 'em? 😉"

But hey, like everyone said...all depends on how she is and how close and trusting you two are.

Good luck! ^_^

 

[duck171]

I told my last one in kinda a cool way. We went to the local "adult" store just browsing for fun. I led her to some hand cuffs and other bondage tools and asked if she would like to try that. She said that it looked like it might be fun and wouldn't mind giving it a try. We ended up buying some stuff and all was good till we broke up. I find it harder to relate the tickling part of my fetish, I've never been thought thought weird or whatever for suggesting bondage.

 

[FeatherDaemon1]

I would just make sure that she was into it first. Just don't show up with all your toys and freak her out with them. When you confide your feelings to her she needs to understand that the new activities are not just for your sake but for both of you. Tell her that you want it to be fun for the both of you. Ask her if there are any new kinks that she would like to add. Get her creative input on the subject.

Good luck!

 

[firewindwater1]

I was real lucky. I told my gf about my "interests" with the expectation that she would run screaming into the sunset, instead she loved it. Now she wants me to choose which shoes she wears, because she thinks i know what looks good on her feet 😛

 

[hidden]

Best policy...

Come out and say it. Don't be timid at all. Tell her straight and let her know you're serious about it.

As for your last post, I kinda disagree about with the part about letting her see that you're "normal." Let her know now. This is who you are and it's important to you! It's also not weird. Never feel like you're strange because of your interest.

Ever.

I third that. The only thing that is "normal", is that everybody is unique...

Hello all,

Has anyone ever had any experience in telling a fairly new gf about their fetsih? I've told mine that tickling turns me on and I like to have my nipples and armpits tickled lol but not that I like to be tied to the bed and tickled. I worry that she might think I'm a bit crazy with my like for bondage and tickling.

I am crazy....and my wife likes that. If your gf likes you, she will be ok with you being crazy too...lol.

My personal advise is to tell her. It can be in a straightforward serious way, or in a funny creative way. Either way, it will make things much easier from the get go. To ease the situation, you could also ask her what crazy kinky things that she likes. Also, if you let her know that what you are going to tell her is embarassing to you, then she may be more open to your feelings and may be more understanding of your fetish.

In any case, good luck and stay brave!