Being open about tickling

[ugthredbootle]

I am very new to this and I’m not sure even if I have successfully posted this reply to the thread discussing being open about tickling. Having read all the other replies I was quite saddened to see how many of the experiences mirrored my own. At 47 years of age I am probably older than most of the subscribers to this site and therefore my feelings of guilt have lasted considerably longer. I have had a fascination for women’s feet since I was a child and it has lasted into adulthood. My particular fantasy revolves around tickling the stockinged feet of women who are restrained, either in stocks or something similar, and tickling them to the point of torture. (Oddly enough, bare feet or socks do nothing for me – only those clad in nylon). As a child I used to like watching magic shows where a woman would be sawn in half because they were invariably placed in a box with their feet sticking out of one end, and I would imagine myself tickling them. As a very young teenager one of my earliest bouts of extreme sexual arousal was when I was around my best friend’s house one day and his sister (probably about 14 at the time) was indulging in some horseplay with us. I recall she was wearing dark tights (pantyhose in the US) and my friend suggested we grab her and tickle her. He held her down and I tickled her feet – I can still recall her screams and laughter to this day. My years of embarrassment mean that even divulging these details to understanding fellow ticklers is very awkward.

It was not until the arrival of the Internet (not that long ago by my point of reference) that I suddenly discovered that I was not the only person on the planet with this fetish – you can’t believe what a relief that was to find out. I have never divulged my fetish to anybody else as it always seemed so “weird” and I am scrupulous about security (erasing file histories on my PC, etc, hence the ridiculous e-mail pseudonym). I wish I knew where it came from and how I “caught” it because, to be honest, I wish I could get rid of it. The irony of this fetish is that I can never satisfy it because if I feel I want to tickle someone to point of torture, then if I care them I wouldn’t want to put them through it – catch 22!

In all other respects I am an intelligent, sensitive member of society who is made to feel like freak by this damn fetish...

 

[TickleCrazy]

ugthredbootle, I'm no youngster either. I can really relate to your post. Having kept my tickle-fetish secret from my husband all of our 11 years of marriage until only 4 months ago, I can tell you this which might be encouraging: The extremity of my fantasies has lessened as my real-life tickle experience has accrued. They're not less arousing, just more realistic. So with tickling experience you may find your desire to torture lessened. Or you may find a partner whose desire is to be tickle-tortured. Hey, life is short.

An intelligent, gregarious Brit recently started an e-mail group with the aim of developing a circle of ticklephile friends specifically in the UK. I'm a Yank so I just lurk there, but you (and other Brits here) may want to participate. I'm sure they'll welcome a nylon-foot-tickler.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/theuktickleloversgang

 

[Solemate1]

I can relate to so many of you... I too have been in and out of the "closet" for some time now. Like someone wrote before me,
you have to use common sense and discretion when your baring
your soul to someone. I do believe that society is becoming more open to a lot of things-we live in an "anything goes" world!
I have also noticed that people are more into exploring things
than they used to be. I'm just glad that there are others like me out there...it's been kind of a lonely journey until now! Forums
like this are long overdue!

 

[markf]

im still relatively young, i guess, at 23. this combined with access to the internet for some time means i feel confident to bring up my fetish sooner rather than later.

im single and when im with someone and we're getting intimate i say how attractive there feet are and see what sort of responce i get. if good it can lead to toe sucking and then of coarse tickling.

if the responce is bad well i tend to leave it. these relationships tend not to last too long!

i find it's better to be up front, you never know. they could have the exact same fetish or even something else slightly different. if you don't buy a ticket you will not win the lottery.

if they don't like it then perhaps there not for you.

 

[ugthredbootle]

Dear Ticklecrazy,

Just wanted to say thank you for your kind words of support and encouragement - they mean a great deal.

UB

 

[TickleCrazy]

You're welcome, UB... here's to tickle-satisfaction in 2003.

 

[FingaDancer]

Tickling isn't the Problem.....

I, unlike so many others here, am not at all ashamed about my tickling fetish. I tell everyone; even my co-workers that I enjoy tickling as a form of both fun and foreplay...haven't gotten any weird reactions from that. What I keep in the closet is my strong, "BIG AS TEXAS" Foot fetish. Only my wife, my aunts, my grandmother and a few...very few acquaintances know about it because they are the only ones who have experienced my the sensation of my fingers, tongue and teeth on their feet from the time I was four till now at 31.

Tickling appears to be a mainstream thing because so many people engage in it, although not for the same pleasurable effects that we all crave. Try finding a mainstream person who has sucked someone's toes, licked someones soles, or even tickled someone's feet silly. Hell, with all the "closet" ticklers and foot fetishists in this community, it kinda makes you wonder just how many people we see and interact with on a daily basis that are in the closet as well. Think about it for a second. I could come to your town sit down right next to you at a restaurant and never even become aware that I have written to you on the tickletheater site. There may be more of us than we ever dared to imagine. This is quite fun...don't you think...keep the thread alive!

 

[Whacked Out Me]

Told my girlfriend and never looked back...I even went to the next step; I converted her.

Scoff all you like, it can be done!

 

[ticklygirl]

about 3 months ago i had a long talk with my mom, im 25 shes 45, and told her everything. she already had a good idea of my love of tickling since i was a little girl and that im bi. i thought i was hiding it ,at least a little when i was younger, but when i think back at all the times i tickled my friends and family to get them to tickle me i understand now how obvious it must have been. my moms pretty feet were a favorite target of mine and id sneak up and tickle her feet so often, usually to have her grab me and tickle me back. she told me she watched me tickle girls and boys all the time and saw my face when i was tickled and that she knew something was up long ago.
now that she knows its a huge weight off my shoulders, now we actually talk about it which is very exciting. besides my mom. my older brother knows now too, and he tickle tortured me all the time when we were younger. and a few lovers ive had over the years. when in my late teens i was very shy about it but years ago i decided not to hide it, i love to much and its a big part of me.
the girl im with now i converted into a huge bondage and tickle person and im so glad i was open with her right in the beginning.

 

[vryticklishfeet]

closet tickler?

this is actually a very good topic to discuss,, as for myself i have had a tickling fetish since as long as i can remember,, going way back to earliest childhood,,and even back then i felt a bit strange about it to me it was exciting even at that age,, i remember feeling that warm feeling in my tummy everytime i tickled someone,,as i got older around dating age it was very awkward, i thought i was the only person on this planet that felt the way i did,, i feared ridicule so i would hide my fetish and would only indulge it in sneaky ways such as slipping in a lil tickle while giving a foot massage or if someone was barefoot around me and there foot was close to me i would reach out and tickle playfully but not long enough to make the person wonder about it,, i have the feeling that my first girlfriend knew and im sure she did because of all the attention i paid to her feet,, she was great because she figured it out on her own and used it to her advantage she knew it was a magic button she could push at any time to excite me so i really had it made with her,, as the years passed i would generally endulge the fetish on the sly not trying to let people know that it really really turned me on,, the big change in my life was meeting my best friend jerry,, he was an awesome friend and we could talk about everything,, at first i told him that i had a foot fetish,, he said he could relate although he didnt have one he did like pretty feet on the girls he dated ( doesnt everyone? " lol! as i got to know him further and seeings how he was my drinking buddy as well i started to feel comfortable enough arround him that i shared my tickle video collection with him and told him of my love for tickling,, he diddnt understand how anyone could obsess about tickling but he figured " everybodys got something" soon it was common knowledge,, he had " outed me" lol! what are best friends for? next thing ya know everyone in town knew i had a tickle fetish, but the cool thing was there was no hard core ridicule,, at all! sure there was some good natured teasing which was way cool with me but other than that there was an exceptance,, sometimes at clubs i wouldnt be there 2 hours before i wound up at some girls table with her foot in my lap with me tickling her,, it was great! 99 percent of people i tell about my fetish from that day forward excepted it without much fanfair and most women find it to be cute and sexy! i realized that i had made it into something huge! in my head and that it wasnt that big of a deal to people at all,, now if i am talking with new friends and the subject gets to what turns us on i will tell them about my tickle fetish straight up no hesitation,, i feel that a huge weight had been lifted from my shoulders,, people dont care, many find it cool some dont think about it at all even right after you tell them,, and even the one guy in a million who will tease you loses interest moments later so stop hiding,, dont be afraid : ) be honest about this thing that makes you very unique!! you have something that makes you creative and individual,, rejoice in your being different,,with most women i have found it to be a deal maker,, it makes them look at you in a different light,, and im telling you its always been a positive thing

 

[SithRebel]

I pretty much keep it hidden in real life. There’s a yahoo club I have all my stuff on, but it’s not open to the public. So, it’s kind of hidden on the internet too, unless you know where to look. I’ve told a couple of girls about the tickling and they weren’t weirded out about it, nor were they interested. So, I just made my comic strip character ticklish as hell. 😉

Take care,

J.

 

[Blackstar216]

First, I'll say this. To all of those who have openly shared their fetish (if you even want to call it a fetish for yourself), and have had nothing but the best of success, GREAT! Congratulations and i hope it continues to work out without even one negative word.
BUT!!!!!!! Remember. Things are drastically different for different people in different places. Generally from net interactions, the further west you are in the US, the more accepting and more open minded people seem to be about these things. Again, that's generally, not everyone.
Over on TMF, I saw all sorts of unclosted people WRONGLY criticizing closeted people for no real reason at all except to make themselves feel better about being out about it. I really hope that doesn't happen here. For every success story, there's a person who's been shamed for coming out about it. For some people it can work, for others, it won't. Some really want to, some feel just fine about it discussing on line.

TickleCrazy - I sure do agree with you! My gf recently tickled my most ticklish spot and I couldn't stop it. Well.......it sure does put fantasies into perspective, just like you said. It was truly overwhelming.

I'm closeted enough (only my girlfriend and those on the net know). I will never tell my family, even though I suspect that one of my cousins is one of us. I will never tell those who aren't close enough to me that I wouldn't trust my life with them. That's just me though. Everyone should do what they feel comfy doing.

 

[Blackstar216]

Hwoods!

That's funny! I'm the exact opposite! I'm definitely more likely to be veeeeeeery open about my love of pretty feet than I am to even SAY the word tickle in front of anyone I know. Took me TWO YEARS to mention the tickle fetish to my gf. Took me two DAYS to let her know that I loved pretty feet. After all, it'd end up in her benefit! Key is to tell it like it really is. Not as if you're going to see feet, and turn into a bloodhound, crawling on the ground to sniff, suck toes! Just say it's no different from liking shapely legs or a nice smile 🙂
I usually don't come out and say it, but I will often compliment a lady friend's feet if they look nice. And then if they do ask, I will tell, but I'll explain it while i'm at it. After all, would a lady rather have her breasts ogled, or have someone compliment a nice pedicure? Put it like that, and you'll hear a lady say "You know, I think you're right!" 🙂

 

[goofytickler]

This thingie is a little old, but I will post my comments in here anyways.

I used to be closed about it, then I said "Hell with it" and just told people. I am single right now, but a lot of friends know I am the way I am. I think that, when you tell someone, you should make sure that, just because you are attracted to tickling that doesn't mean it is your life. Most people think your some kind of sex fiend of your into tickling/bondage/whatever, but in reality most of us are just normal people.

I mean, they are attracted to sex, I am attracted to tickling. Doesn't mean we can't live normal lives.

Ya, I dunno why I said that...lol...::

But, ya, i'm as open as one can be about this sort of topic.

There's my opinion

 

[Drago691]

mhm

Though I read how great it is to be open about, truth is I prefer not to be open about it really, i'd rather not have my family or friends talk about it, bringing it up just makes me feel awkward :\
They don't have to know about it anyway, it's none of their business, so i'll just leave it that way.

I will tell it to any gf's of course 🙂

 

[BrendanTkl]

Generally, I've found that if people ridicule you for your fetish, then they'll ridicule you for just about anything. Don't associate with them, they're not worth it.

Funny. My wife knows about my tickling fetish, and has even been reminded of it with all the hype surrounding Sarah from Joe Millionaire (we're both fans). She doesn't want any part of it -- at least not yet. But I'm hopeful.