I've met folks from SF, the peninsula, Silicon Valley, Santa Cruz, LA and surrounding regions, San Diego, and the Sac and Fresno regions of the central valley.
Married one of 'em.
It's a lot easier if you socialize. Forums like this can work, but they require a greater effort and make for different involvements than meeting IRL. It's why I originally organized munches out here. It's how I met so many people.
To each their own. 🙂