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Can a long distance relationship work?

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Just wanted to ask my fellow TMFer's and see what their thoughts are. Can a long distance relationship work? I want to know if there were successes with this, or is it not a good idea? Let's say there is a distance of 400 miles between the parties involved, or even 3000 miles. I know it depends on the people, I'm just curious on what people think.
 
I really think it depends on the couple. Long distance includes a lot of sacrifice.

For me, long distance doesn't and won't work.

A majority of the time it will fail, but it can also prevail. But again, it depends on how determined and in love the couple is and how much work they are willing to put into such a challenging thing as a long distance relationship.
 
Persephone said:
For me, long distance doesn't and won't work.
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Lacking the benefits of a relationship - not just the obvious but cuddling, going to events, eating and shopping together, etc. - would be very difficult for me.

And unless you've been together for a while and have built up some trust, the issue of abandonment always looms large.
 
Being in the military long distance is part of the game.

I take a very basic look at humans assuming that we are more creatures of convenience than anything else. When two people are long distance and one person realizes(consiously or subconsiously) that theyhave potential mates in their vicinity problems will arise. If both people are isolated from potential mates then the survivability of the relationship will increase dramatically. The way I'd view my relationship is different if I were sent to las Vegas long term vs Afghanistan. The better the match between the couple the fewer the potential mates that could sway one person or the other. "Needing" each other also helps. If I'm in Iraq I need my girl for emotional support. She needs me to pay rent. (not the best example) but we'd both have alot to lose to split. I'd have to find a girl willing to put up with my job. She'd have to find a quality guy willing to pay her rent(again poor example but you get my point). If there is nothing binding you two more than just love it's easier for things to fall apart IMHO.

GQ
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Persephone said:
I really think it depends on the couple. Long distance includes a lot of sacrifice.

For me, long distance doesn't and won't work.

A majority of the time it will fail, but it can also prevail. But again, it depends on how determined and in love the couple is and how much work they are willing to put into such a challenging thing as a long distance relationship.
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Well said. I agree completely.
 
I can't speak for myself, but in the few LDR that I've seen, I've noticed that there's a fair amount of deceit that goes on.

It's easier to lie from a distance.
 
Thanks for all the responses. I asked because someone is thinking about a LDR and I told them it would be hard to do. Distance can affect the relationship a great deal. I just wanted to see if there were any successes out there...
 
I've been in mine over a year now and it does present its issues. We have some unique things going on, but we're making the quirks work. He recently did something that bumped my trust down a notch (and not the usual faithfulness stuff either) and it leaves me reevaluating my present situation. But so far things have been good between us.......just this recent issue has me wondering.

And I must admit it really gets in the way of sex. I'd like it more often than I'm presently getting it but when we get together.........let's just say we make up for the distance....:blush:
 
GQGuy,
I hope your girlfriend isn't a gold-digger; if she needs you to pay rent, what would she do if you were out of work and can't pay? If she steps up to pick up your slack until you get on your feet (while still staying with you), then she truly loves you. It's more important for her to love you for your personality, regardless of your income and finances. If she gives you emotional support, that's great. For me, a long distance relationship is hard, but it isn't impossible.
 
Depends. Is there any plan to be together? For example, two good friends of mine went to college 300 miles away from each other. They visited each other every other weekend and knew they'd both move to the same city after graduation. They had a plan, and it worked.

But I tend agree that they are difficult and usually don't work. Then again, most relationships, period, don't work. Every relationship I've ever been in failed for one reason or another, except for the current one.
 
Worked for me. We have been together for 8 years (the first 3 were long distance) and have been living together for 5 years now.

NY and California for us. :shock:
 
Ayla ny said:
Worked for me. We have been together for 8 years (the first 3 were long distance) and have been living together for 5 years now.

NY and California for us. :shock:
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3,000 miles of separation? Thank goodness for frequent-flyer miles! 🙂

Seriously, I'm glad it's worked out for you.
 
E-Dawg said:
GQGuy,
I hope your girlfriend isn't a gold-digger; if she needs you to pay rent, what would she do if you were out of work and can't pay? If she steps up to pick up your slack until you get on your feet (while still staying with you), then she truly loves you. It's more important for her to love you for your personality, regardless of your income and finances. If she gives you emotional support, that's great. For me, a long distance relationship is hard, but it isn't impossible.
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Haha. No. If she was she could do ALOT better than me! Lol. It was just an example of how couples rely on one another for practical things. You know, the reasons that stop people from breaking up even though they aren't in love. The more codependent a couple is the better the chances are that they stay together. Think grandma and grandpa where grandpa made the money and grandma kept the home. If they split grandpa would starve because he can't cook, clean ect and grandma hasn't a clue about getting a job. Hence their 70 year marriage. Now men cook and women work so we don't need each other as much. Add in that we wait longer to have kids, if the love runs out there's nothing to keep couples together. That was the logic I was applying to long distance relationships.

GQ

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They CAN work, but usually don't for various reasons.

I've been in a few personally. I can say with 100% certainty that I'd rather be alone than in another one.
 
Yes, I think it can work. I just moved 1000 miles away from my girlfriend and we're doing fine.
 
It would depend, I think, on the amount of time that the couple does spend together. Physical contact is a key point in any successful relationship, and both parties are going to have various... needs... that are going to just keep building up unless they're fulfilled often enough.

They can work, but as Leo said, they often don't.
 
I think LDR can work, but you need to trust the other person completely. If you don't it won't work. I have tried it once, and don't think I will ever try it again 😛
 
Bothersome said:
Physical contact is a key point in any successful relationship, and both parties are going to have various... needs... that are going to just keep building up unless they're fulfilled often enough.
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I disagree. What you call "needs" are nothing more than desires. If the individuals are of any substantial character, they won't let such things overwhelm them. There are more "solitary" means of alleviating "tension" if you know what I mean. wink wink nudge nudge.

Or too put it another way, the "needs" of the couple outweigh the "needs" of the one. :blaugh:
 
They're tough and they wear on you, that's for sure. For several years, I was in a LDR, but it was only 100 miles that separated us so we did get to see each other a couple of weekends a month. What made it tough was she was going to school full time and working while I was working full time so there was little time in between for our relationship.

One thing to account for are the amount of potential relationship options in your immediate vicinity. The more options you have, the harder it will be to make a LDR work because there will be someone to offer you what the other can't provide. Time.

While in my relationship, I was tempted several times to venture over to the dark side. Por ejemplo, there was another lady that came into the picture and she went out of her way to make time for me while my GF didn't. While I kind of felt like a heel for welcoming the attention, the late phone calls and emails, it felt good and invigorating. That feeling almost sent me careening over to the dark side... and that would have been the biggest mistake of my life.
 
DontAskJusTckle said:
I disagree. What you call "needs" are nothing more than desires. If the individuals are of any substantial character, they won't let such things overwhelm them. There are more "solitary" means of alleviating "tension" if you know what I mean. wink wink nudge nudge.

Or too put it another way, the "needs" of the couple outweigh the "needs" of the one. :blaugh:
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If substantial character is defined by one's ability to refrain from sexual activity, then I shudder to think how you view the rest of the human race. Contrary to popular belief, people indulge in it quite often.
 
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