Can a long distance relationship work?

[primetime]

Interesting replies. For those you have had long distance relationships work, how did you manage to make them work? How did you cope with being apart physically?

 

[Bothersome]

Interesting replies. For those you have had long distance relationships work, how did you manage to make them work? How did you cope with being apart physically?

The same way you cope with being single. Physically, that is. (Of course, minus the random flings with people. Obviously you can't do that.)

As for making them work... you shouldn't really try and 'make' something like a relationship work, I don't think. I would think that if you two really connected that it would work on it's own. Yes, there are going to be hardships that you'll have to work through, but if your relationship is a boat with a hole in it, and you have too small of a bucket... you're going to kill yourself trying to keep that thing afloat. No. Either it's going to float, or it isn't.

Or maybe I'm just being idealistic. I just don't think that it should be forced.

 

[kis123]

Interesting replies. For those you have had long distance relationships work, how did you manage to make them work? How did you cope with being apart physically?

In a word........."commitment."

If you choose to commit to the relationship, most of the work is already done. We talk to each other every day at least twice/day. We're not on the phone for hours on end, but we just want the other to know that we're thinking about the other.

I also keep myself busy; it's been said that an idle mind is the devil's playground. I've been tempted but have avoided disaster by keeping busy with family, friends, and business interests.

If you really want something to work, you'll make it work.

And Bothersome has a point; it shouldn't be forced. However, nothing in usually equates to nothing out.

 

[DontAskJusTckle]

If substantial character is defined by one's ability to refrain from sexual activity, then I shudder to think how you view the rest of the human race. Contrary to popular belief, people indulge in it quite often.

I don't know where you're getting that "definition" but I know it didn't come from me. I never defined substantial character at all and certainly not in those terms. I'm saying that substantial character is demonstrated when a long distance couple refrains from screwing around outside of their relationship under the weak excuse of "needs."

 

[locker669]

Ask your friend how many hours it would take for him to drive to see his gf (assuming your friend is a guy and is in a relationship with a woman). Then ask him how many women he could meet in those hours that lived closer to him.