Can It Remain Dormant?

[Katie Pants]

I know there have been a lot of questions about whether members have always been the way they are or were converted by a partner who was a lee or a ler. Personally, I've known I was this way (a lee) since I was about four years old, and in general people who have had this for life also discovered it as young children. In fact, most members seem to have had it for life and have known about it for a very long time.

My question is about my boyfriend. When I told him about my little fetish, he not only accepted it, but embraced it rather enthusiastically. The first time we tried it out, he seemed to be enjoying it just as much as I was. He now believes himself to be a ler. He says it is now impossible for him to even think about sex without incorporating tickling, and he says it just wouldn't make sense anymore. We're trying to decide if I somehow converted him, or if it was always there and it just took him a long time to realize it. On one hand, he never noticed it before he met me, which is unlike my childhood where I was very aware of it. On the other hand, he accepted my preference with uncanny ease and unthusiasm. The first partner I ever told accepted it, but never actually understood or responded to it. Furthermore, his new desire is now independent of whether I'm actually there and asking for it. He reports lying in bed at night and thinking about me, and feeling a strong urge to tickle me.

I guess I want to know what all of you think about this: if his nature somehow lay dormant until I brought it out, or if I actually changed him somehow, or if it's just because I like it and it would eventually go away for him if we weren't together. If any of you were converted by a partner, or if you just discovered your love for tickling a little late, please share your story! He's a bit confused about himself right now and any input at all would be helpful.

 

[Flatfoot]

Maybe it could be a Pavlovian response. 😕

Perhaps you've got him to associate tickling you with sexual thoughts. When you say he's awake in bed at night with these urges, that's the first thing that comes to mind for me.

 

[myth77]

Well first of all congrats, I think that is wonderful. I don't know if I have any really helpful responses to this. A good question would be if he has ever tickled anybody at all before you, just casually, and how did he feel about it. If he's never ever tickled anybody at all for any reason before you, then it might be specifically about you bringing it out in him. I think for those who don't know that it is an actual perfectly normal "kink" to have, they might have a better time repressing any urges or thoughts toward tickling. I was in my early 20's before I actually started to think about it on a regular basis. Before that, I simply didn't think about it at all unless it came up in conversation, or I would see someone being tickled, and then I just felt what I thought was a weird fascination with it, after which I quickly suppressed it, thinking I was abnormal to dwell on it. So I guess a good way to start exploring whether it was always there or whether it is more specifically brought out by you (in either case, it's a major WIN😀), is to find out if he'd ever tickled anyone casually before, just for fun, and ask him to really think about how it made him feel.

I wish I had more insight, but I have only come to terms with being a Lee myself in the last 5 years or so. Anyway, I hope you guys have a lot of fun😀!

 

[poopies]

After reading the title, I thought this thread was going to be about herpes 😀

I'd say you've introduced him to something that he finds very fun and enjoys, and as Flatfoot suggests, it could be a case of classical conditioning.

 

[KrazieDog]

Congrats Katie. You've got a best case scenario on your hands being with someone from the "vanilla" world. First and foremost, the guy loves you and is accepting this thing that makes you happy and turns you on. That's a winner by itself. Beyond that, he's really gotten into it, and furthermore it's tying into his sexuality. That is awesome hon! It could have been something he always kind of dug, it could have been something that he associated with being intimate with former girlfriends even if "playing" or "sessioning" wasn't the end game, it could have been something in cuddling or horseplay that got gears turning for him.

OR he may not have been into it at all before you. Tickling really is fun, for a LOT of people, even if it's not a sexual thing. So you enjoying tickling is easy for him to enjoy, but its also intimate/erotic for you, and because you turn him on, it, and its effect on you turns him on. Now it's something he is associating with his own sexuality. Jackpot! Don't try to over think it Katie, just be glad. You sound like you are in an awesome situation. Good on you girl. 🙂

 

[luce22]

I kinda had the same thing happen to me. I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years and he's the only partner I've ever confessed this side of me to. He's actually the only person who knows period. We used to have tickle fights all the time before I told him, but it was always "innocent." When I did tell him, he completely accepted it, and told me he loves tickling me because it's such a turn on for me. It didn't do much for him at first except it was a way for him to get me in the mood. He'd also let me tickle him sometimes because he knew I enjoyed it. And one day, I was tickling him, and when I move my body closer to him I realize that's he's hard as a rock! We cant explain it but sometimes it's a turn on for him to be tickled, and it's ALWAYS a turn on for him to tickle me. He says he's never liked it before so we dont know? Maybe something he associated with a good consequense over time? I just enjoy the fact that I'm lucky to have someone to share my fetish with.

 

[Gadilici]

It could be. I've birthed a couple Ler girls (odd since they were my lees) who didn't know they liked it. I've talked to others who said they just one day were talking to someone who brought it up, and it was just all kinds of exciting to think about.

So yeah, it can be dormant. Just waiting for someone to give it life.

Christopher

 

[the tickleshow]

Nice job! I have known I was a 'ler since I was a kid, but never knew it was a fetish others had until I was in my early 20s. I've introduced many to being a 'lee and a few have remained "converted". My wife became a convert when we were dating, but since we got married in 2005, she has grown to not only dislkie but LOATHE tickling. She has even suggested I get psychological help for my "problem". Not a good time right now. I guess her conversion didn't stick

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[Phineas]

People don't always know if they're into something until they try it. And with this thing of ours, it never occurs to them to try it until we bring it up.

I've never had a girlfriend react badly to my fetish... and I've never dated someone from this community.

 

[Gadilici]

My ex wife was like that, 'Show.

Christopher

 

[milagros317]

I think that you converted him. If it had always been there, he would have felt the urge to tickle women before he met you. 😀