Can you get more ticklish?

[Kittamaru1]

*laughs* Oh, THANKS Camel... glad you have such high expectations of us men...

 

[TickleKay]

Exactly!

Yes, exactly. It's a large diference between a female's approach and a males- well okay, not all males. I know one or two- well maybe just one- that can talk you into a dither or even an orgasm long before you're very touched, they know headspace inside and out. Any male who can think like a woman, well that's just a gift for us. And it sets the perfect layer to build any scene on: bdsm, tickling, you name it.

The motto instilled in the group I play in is "get the mind first and the body will follow". I learned what they meant my first time out 🙂

Point being, males have it a bit easier in this field as you said Princess.

In her case of not being ticklish, well my gut tells me it was the male tickler's approach. If the goal is tickling, then the pressure is on right from the start. leave it to be more spontaneous.

I remember Ticklegal telling me that many years ago she had this same problem for a while, shutting down or preparing for the tickling, which in itself stopped her from being ticklish and letting go. The she met a top who talked her out of that, without tickling even being the main goal that night, and BOOM- she was off the scale ticklish. It had nothing to do with her feet or bondage. It had to do with that guy being able to get to her inner psyche.

My advice is don't give up and become more frustrated. Bide your time, we'll help you find the right top and tickler for you and when you least expect it, you'll be screaming bloody ticklish murder.

🙂

Kay, I couldn't agree more--you beat me to the punch!

It's a mental thing for women...always. Men can look at a picture or a porno or even just a nice set of...whatever...walking by, and they are turned on enough to get off. Women need less of the visual stimulation (or, in this case, physical) and more mental stimulation...

I don't know about you, hon, but if someone uses "tickle talk" on me the right way, I am a giggling mess long before their fingers ever make contact.

Remember to breathe and make sure that the gent who is tickling you is someone whom you trust--otherwise it will intensify your inability to relax.

You'll figure it out...

 

[Camel26]

Hon, I've lived with enough guys, straight, gay, and everywhere inbetween...it doesn't matter what you go for, it takes visual stimuli for you men moreso than for women...it's no slam on the male gender, it's just a general trend I've noticed...

The only high expectations I have are for the gentleman who is tickling the young lady who started this thread...I know he can do it if he works on the emotional/mental aspect of the experience...😀

 

[TickleKay]

Don't give up! We'll help ya!

Hon, I've lived with enough guys, straight, gay, and everywhere inbetween...it doesn't matter what you go for, it takes visual stimuli for you men moreso than for women...it's no slam on the male gender, it's just a general trend I've noticed...

This is true what Camel says, and no slight towards guys. I'm not saying guy's knuckles drag on the ground. Tickling, sex, the way we chew food, we just differ from guys.

To be fair, not all guys take the easy visual road in my opinion. Some guys are very into this and understand and very much share the woman's approach (they don't have to be Gay) because they too approach it from that standpoint of mind and inner self first. They truly know about headspace and how to create something special, and revel in the creation of that "something deeper", longer, and much more satisfying without it being a race to grab the feather.

I wish you could join my group and see what I mean. It falls flat in a post.

Anyway, best of luck and don't give up!!

 

[Camel26]

I've got a live in ler, darlin'...my girlfriend of 4 years...and as she's in grad school for a masters in one of the many incredible fields of psychology, and she's just an amazing partner in general, she's got the "headspace" thing down to an art...

Mind and inner-self...gets me every time!!! 😀 😀 😀

 

[TickleKay]

Mind and inner-self...gets me every time!!! 😀 😀 😀

I with ya!

:super_hap

 

[Kittamaru1]

*laughs* I'd like to think myself a bit above that Camel. I won't deny the mind over matter thing - I practice BioFeedback, controlled breathing, and pulse control to keep my asthma under check without medication. I have learned over the short years of my life (being just 19) to translate anger into laughter and shrug off pressure and insults as easy as compliments.

Yes, there is a rush when looking at a beautiful girl... trust me, me and my girlfriend both know this. It is the element of control that separates the gentlemen from the rest and I work hard to keep that control... which is why handing it over willingly to her is such an intimate moment for me and one that I have never shared before her. I trust her not to take advantage of my weakness to tickling and, in return, I grant her such respect. Keeping my... hm... sexual desires under control is difficult, I will grant you that. However... I made that mistake once before. I let my desires overwhelm me and it cost me the relationship and very nearly her friendship... thankfully it didn't cost her anything more than that. Nobody outside of a close knit group of our friends knows and there were no physical ramifications.

I won't make that mistake again... I'll wait for when the two of us are ready and, God willing, I will settle down and raise a family with her.

... then again, I try to follow the Code of Chivalry and my family line hints at tracing back to the Knights Templar so I could just be weird 🙂

 

[Kittamaru1]

Yes, exactly. It's a large diference between a female's approach and a males- well okay, not all males. I know one or two- well maybe just one- that can talk you into a dither or even an orgasm long before you're very touched, they know headspace inside and out. Any male who can think like a woman, well that's just a gift for us. And it sets the perfect layer to build any scene on: bdsm, tickling, you name it.

The motto instilled in the group I play in is "get the mind first and the body will follow". I learned what they meant my first time out 🙂

Point being, males have it a bit easier in this field as you said Princess.

In her case of not being ticklish, well my gut tells me it was the male tickler's approach. If the goal is tickling, then the pressure is on right from the start. leave it to be more spontaneous.

I remember Ticklegal telling me that many years ago she had this same problem for a while, shutting down or preparing for the tickling, which in itself stopped her from being ticklish and letting go. The she met a top who talked her out of that, without tickling even being the main goal that night, and BOOM- she was off the scale ticklish. It had nothing to do with her feet or bondage. It had to do with that guy being able to get to her inner psyche.

My advice is don't give up and become more frustrated. Bide your time, we'll help you find the right top and tickler for you and when you least expect it, you'll be screaming bloody ticklish murder.

🙂

I will admit, though, that I can't even begin to do something like this.

However, if you or camel are willing to teach the delicate intricacies of forming such an emotional connection, I would be honored to learn them.

I have to admit- i didn't think of the psychological aspect at all. I've chatted with Lee a few times and shes always seemed, if anything, ready to jump in and laugh her head off. I'll have to remember this for future reference... even those that WANT to be tickled may be apprehensive about the actual event.

 

[TickleKay]

I will admit, though, that I can't even begin to do something like this.

However, if you or camel are willing to teach the delicate intricacies of forming such an emotional connection, I would be honored to learn them.

I have to admit- i didn't think of the psychological aspect at all. I've chatted with Lee a few times and shes always seemed, if anything, ready to jump in and laugh her head off. I'll have to remember this for future reference... even those that WANT to be tickled may be apprehensive about the actual event.

Headspace a.k.a. going under is something you really have to watch and learn from a person who excells at it. I know a lot of people will tell you they're so good at it, but that isn't really the truth. Well maybe in their mind they're great at it, so it's the truth to them. Everyone's different.

I'm not saying that fast quickies and tickles aren't fun- they are. But this all came about because one girl could shut down her feelings. The only way around that is through what we posted about. There's a lot more to tickling scenes, many more levels attainable, some really deep if one cares to explore them.

Learning headspace and how to create such or slip into such intensifies playtime and make the session so much better. I must admit I'm still shocked that more ticklers don't pick up on that. Those in to BDSM learned it a long time ago. Still it's great to hear that some guys out there want to learn it and make it better for themselves and their partner(s).

 

[Kittamaru1]

You said you offer classes... I happen to be in Philidelphia PA- would I be allowed to sit in on them and observe, or is it Females only?

 

[bwaylee211]

man oh man...so much i did not know..😱

 

[Kittamaru1]

*smiles* if they are willing to teach it Lee I'll give it a shot for ya