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Can you imagine being homeless?

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Consider a donation gift this year in the name of those you love; the gift of compassion.

WASHINGTON - Hunger and homelessness increased in many of America's largest cities this year, with growing demand for emergency food supplies for families with children, the elderly and even people with jobs.

Requests for food assistance by families with children increased by 18 percent and requests by elderly persons increased by 13 percent during the past year. Overall, nearly three out of four cities reported an increase in food assistance requests.

The study found:

_Families with children comprise 40 percent of the homeless population, single women 14 percent and unaccompanied youth 5 percent.

_Thirty-nine percent of the adults requesting emergency food assistance were employed.

_Requests for shelter by homeless families alone increased by 15 percent.

_People remain homeless an average of five months — longer than before, in most cities.

More than half of the cities have to turn hungry people away, with more than 14 percent of requests for emergency food assistance going unmet.

"The report is full of bad news, but solutions are there," said Michael Lennon, chief executive officer of Home Aid America, a group that helps homeless people get jobs and housing.

"The building industry is doing well, but as prices go up, housing costs go up," he said. "It's good for people who own homes, but hard on people who are renters."

"This survey underscores the impact the economy has had on everyday Americans," said James A. Garner, president of the U.S. Conference of Mayors who oversaw the study.

Most of the cities expected that requests for emergency food assistance and shelter would rise again over the coming year, the study said.
Food needs for the poor grew in nearly nine out of 10 of the surveyed cities.

By SIOBHAN McDONOUGH, Associated Press Writer
 
Very nice thought, button. I hope many already have plans to respond to the needs around them. One of the best Christmas Eve's I ever spent was with family friends who invited homeless people into their home for the night and gifted them with shelter, two hot meals and warm coats, etc. If you ever have the opportunity to serve the poor in your area, I highly recommend it. It gives you a whole new prspective and appreciation for all the good things you have...even if it ISN'T as much as "the Jones's".

Ann
 
You know Ann, you're right. We should help these people. However, i would like to add this: It is a shame for the resources we have, that no one should be homeless, hungry, jobless. A shame that a few individuals controls who has what
 
Agreed. We have enough resources to feed the world. Nobody should be in need. I'd rather have just what I need and see everyone else have the same than be rich and see poor all around me! The system stinks!

Ann
 
There was a WONDERFUL story on our local news the other night about a woman who lives just 20 miles from us.

She owned a small 'Mom & Pop' style IGA grocery story for over 30 years. Because of the bigger supermarkets moving into the area, she could no longer compete in the food market and was forced to close the doors to her store for good earlier this fall. In her closing days, she had a "50% off everything" sale to try to sell out her remaining stock. While a lot of it did go, a lot of it also remained.

So after the store officially closed it's final time, she brought in a few of her employees, and they set to work pulling everything off the shelves and putting it all into shopping carts. Then she had her cashier scan and tally every single item in the store that remained. A total of over $30,000 worth of food. After they tallied the bill for all the remaining food, they bagged it all up in grocery bags and lined them all up near the store doors. Then she did one of the most heart-warming things I have heard of anyone doing in years....she called the local salvation army and told them to bring a truck.

She donated every last item of that $30,000 worth to our local food pantry.

And this is not a woman of means, mind you. One who merely made enough profits from her store to get by, and now has closed the doors on her one source of income.

Rarely have I ever been so touched by the actions of one person. Our local food pantry is well stocked for this holiday season, and fortunately, no one will be going hungry in our area this christmas, thanks to the heart-felt gesture of this woman. A woman who understands the TRUE meaning of the holidays....the joy of giving.

God bless her.

Mimi
 
Not to be a grinch...

TklDuo-Ann said:
Agreed. We have enough resources to feed the world. Nobody should be in need. I'd rather have just what I need and see everyone else have the same than be rich and see poor all around me! The system stinks!

Ann

I used to feel this way also Ms Ann, until I got a birds eye view of the participants in the system. There is a group classified as "hard core unemployable" that exists and lives in this fashion by choice, not due to a systemic failure. It's larger than you might imagine, and is comprised of a variety of personality types.

Opportunity exists, but sometimes it needs to be pursued and sought. Anyone looking for work in this area has dozens of entry level jobs to choose from, and if they are healthy enough to swing a hammer or carry a bit of weight they'd make a comfortable wage.

Not to say that there doesn't exist a % who need a helping hand once in a while, and I think our communities here do a decent job.....

Q
 
I agree - I feel ashamed of our system when I read how many billions are spent on ____________ (fill in the blank), and then see so much need, right here in our rich country.

Until the balance is righted, there are people like Mimi's lady (inspiring story, Mimi, ty!) and some really good organizations who work hard to help.

My best friend loves to lavish gifts on her kids; but she also keeps track of how much she spends, and then gives each of them a check in that amount as an additional Christmas gift, for them donate to any charity they want. In effect, she's teaching them how to care for their fellow humans.

Great thread, guys!

~Rose~
 
One thing you can do, especially if you're skeptical about who your donations go to, is to adopt a family from a local charity. I, and several co-workers and friends, adopted a needed family for Christmas last year. What this involves, is buying them decorations, providing gifts, and Christmas dinner (this is best done in a group..) or whatever that specific family needs. You can meet the people you're helping in most cases. This puts a face to your "donations." We did meet the family we helped, and some of us even spent Christmas eve with them for awhile. We had fun, and felt like we made a difference at the same time.

tbbw
 
Q, except that...

if you go back and read my post again, you'll see that this thread is NOT about "hard core types who live this way by choice".

My post is about those who are struggling to survive, and have fallen through the cracks of society.

Button

p.s. Mimi, thank you; your story has given me a little more hope in human nature. :redheart:
 
ticklishbbw said:
One thing you can do, especially if you're skeptical about who your donations go to, is to adopt a family from a local charity. I, and several co-workers and friends, adopted a needed family for Christmas last year.

How do you really know, though? The woman I work with, she did this with the company she worked with in the 1980s, through an agency. The night she and her co-workers came over with the gifts, food and decoratons, the mom was gone, leaving her 2 kids at home. They told the small contingency that their mother had gone off Christmas shopping. If she was Christmas shopping, then what was the point? If she was actually in a bar somewhere or hooking, then there were problems that couldn't be fixed in this way. And either way, for her not to be there seemed pretty ingrateful and robbed the group of that feeling we strive to get in doing something for someone else.

Why there's even a guy in Dallas who was poor, but not homeles as I understand, who is a lottery winner. He still uses the cardboard "Homeless, please help" sign because while he has to pay taxes on his lotto winnings, he gets $50,000 a year, in cash, tax-free for standing with his hat out. He's old and has no other family, so he has very little else to do.

There are people who have fallen through the cracks, but what's the test? As far as our resources, here's mine - I'm a college grad living near poverty level because I'm living that other old chestnut "follow your dream". Some pay well, some don't, and that's assuming you make it there in the 1st place.
 
Oddjob0226 said:
How do you really know, though?

All you can do is be careful in who you donate or invest time with. There's always going to be someone who abuses the system and/or our trust. However, for everyone one who abuses the system, there are dozens who truly need and appreciate assistance. Everyone has to follow their own heart, but I refuse to let a few "users," keep me from helping, whether it's Christmas or any other time of the year.

tbbw
 
i'm of 2 minds

on the one hand, it has always been a deep fear of mine that i would be homeless, esp. with kids.
because of this i always donate to charity, have given to panhandlers, etc. i even offered money, food, and shelter to a woman who was holding a sign by the road side.

the other side of my personal coin is that this is as it should be, a personal decision by me to donate. i am against the idea that it is the duty and responsibility of america to feed the world. to hell with the world. if food won't grow in the desert, then move dumby!

i give freely, but don't tell me i should, or that i have to, i'll decide how much and to whom i give.

steve
 
Re: Not to be a grinch...

qjakal said:
I used to feel this way also Ms Ann, until I got a birds eye view of the participants in the system. There is a group classified as "hard core unemployable" that exists and lives in this fashion by choice, not due to a systemic failure. It's larger than you might imagine, and is comprised of a variety of personality types.

Opportunity exists, but sometimes it needs to be pursued and sought. Anyone looking for work in this area has dozens of entry level jobs to choose from, and if they are healthy enough to swing a hammer or carry a bit of weight they'd make a comfortable wage.

Not to say that there doesn't exist a % who need a helping hand once in a while, and I think our communities here do a decent job.....

Q

There's some truth to what you say. There ARE those who simply refuse to work out of laziness and the attitude that society owes them something. I don't think they should get a penny. BUT.... In some cases, the decision to not work is forced upon them by the way the system is set up. You spoke of the myriads of entry level positions available. Sure. Anyone can "get a job". The problem is that many of those positions don't pay enough to live on and offer no benefits.

Think about this little fact. A mother and father, both working full time for minimum wage, can choose between a roof over their heads, something to fill their bellies or getting any needed medical attention....rarely more than one. It's worse if they have any children. Often, these people choose to remain unemployed because it's the only way they can take care of their families. They've made their choice based on what the system has to offer them...which isn't much. I simply can't bring myself to fault them for that.

I've worked in food pantries, soup kitchens and relief centers all over the place. Yes. There are a number of those who are simply lazy and abusing the system. (I went to school with a few who seemed to have that in their genes.) But, the vast majority of those I've seen would give anything to get a DECENT paying job and be able to feel like they contribute again...first to their family and then to society. They give freely to one another, help one another whereever they are able and are genuinely good people.

I guess it's a matter of what you've seen and that can vary from place to place.

Ann
 
ticklishbbw said:
...I refuse to let a few "users," keep me from helping, whether it's Christmas or any other time of the year.
TicklishBBW and Ann, thanks for saying it better than I could!

That's not a problem for me anyway - I give through my company, (which matches my donation,too!) to United Way.

One guy I work with plays that tired old tape of "people who live off the system...they could pull themselves up by their bootstraps...etc",

and it seems to me that that's just an easy way to avoid reaching into his pocket.

Bless you generous compassionate folk!

~Rose~
 
I work for a company whose our biggest client is The National Urban League, so through them I've become well aware of truly needy folks who are the "good people" type who fall through the cracks that government and private agentcies don't fill. Not to mention my poor sister who married a man who loved drinking more than his 2 kids and all she went through with that. I just dropped off my Toys for Tots donation 2 days ago as well as my canned food donation at the apt. complex office earlier in the month. I just wish that the picture was sometimes clearer....
 
I like the approach that my uncle used to take.

one of his daughter’s friends came from a hard-luck home. her mother was a good person who made bad choice after bad choice... and her father was nowhere to be found. 3 Christmas eves in a row, he went to their house and left a Christmas’ worth of presents on their front porch. he never left a note. that little girl believed in Santa until she was a teenager. and as far as I know, never knew where those presents came from.

I’ve known plenty of people who know how to ‘work the system’ but have never known a single child who didn’t deserve to be forgiven their parents’ sins.

and that goes for the other 364 days of the year too. 🙂
 
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