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[njjen3953]

Where did your tickling fetish start?

For me and several others I have spoken to, being tickled was a merciless, and sometimes abusive part of childhood.
I, personally, have transformed this abuse into a HEALTHY part of my adult life and sexuality.

How about you? Was there a particular event that triggered your desires to tickle or be tickled? Please be sensative in your responses.

Thanks,
Jen

 

[qjakal]

The event...

I think the event that triggered it was "birth"... Sorry to hear someone "overtickled" you as a child, Jen. There's a few people who don't seem to know where the "line" is when it comes to dealing with other humans. Glad you've channeled it into something positive...Q

 

[QBWeaver]

I can't relate my interest in tickling to any one event. I do remember my Dad tickling my brothers and I when we were little kids and I do remember being absolutely hypnotized by any tickling in cartoons or movies like the Three Stooges. All I know is I remember that back to about age 3 or 4.

 

[Helena]

Jen,



I am glad that you have found someone to comfort you and give you what you need.

I am sorry that you were abused when you were younger.

I think you are very brave to let people on this forum know about something that is very hard to talk about.

I am a lee, and I have never been abused from tickling, but I have been treated badly in a relationship...so I think I have some trust issues.

I am in a relationship with someone now. I think sometimes I have trouble letting go completely because if I did, I'm afraid of what I might do... I tend to keep my feelings inside. Tickling with my partner helps me release some of what I feel inside...plus laughter is good for my health in general.

 

[Dave2112]

Jen, I'd like to comment about your experience, but without knowing all the facts, I don't want to comment on something and sound stupid. (Not that you have to tell me or anyone else, for that matter.)

I'm just glad that you found a way to channel it into something positive.

I was beaten severely as a child, and throughout most of my early teens. Conventional wisdom says that I'd become abusive myself. But my fetish is basically what it is because I DON'T like hurting people.

I can't really pinpoint what started my fetish, but I remember enjoying it even before I knew it had sexual connotations.

The first thing I saw that I knew was cool was Doug Henning's Magic show where he cut Julie Newmar into thirds and tickled her sides for quite some time. I always thought Doug was one of us.....😎

 

[MadKalnod]

I'm with you there, Dave. I actually become physically ill at the thought of hurting a woman as well. Even if she's into certain BDSM scenarios and *wants* me to spank her or suchlike, my Asimovian programming takes over and I look just like Robby the Robot in Forbidden Planet when he was ordered to shoot the Captain: I freeze up, tremble violently, and blue lightning arcs around my head until my brain melts into unrecoverable slag.

I believe that it's also at least partly due to my upbringing: My father's the kind of guy who can only feel big by making others feel small, and tends to explode at the first person he sees whether they had anything to do with his frustration or (more likely) not. As a result, the imperative to avoid hurting others is deeply ingrained, precisely because I know what it's like to be on the receiving end so well.

I further believe that my fetish/deviancy/whatever can be traced back to another childhood experience. Since I spent so much time being afraid of my parents, I look back at the occasions when they tickled me while I was very small as some of the only times I could be positive that I felt loved by them. That, I think, is why I like tickling now, not as a control or domination fantasy, but as a gentle, playful way to let someone know that I love them. (Or, are at least infatuated with them.)

I'm sorry if I've brought anyone down.

 

[Strelnikov]

I'm with Q - I've always thought tickling was neat.

My childhood was normal. Had one uncle who liked to tickle us kids, but that didn't get me started. I don't think he was "one of us". He was an alcoholic and, I've found out since he died, a mean drunk at home. He beat his wife and kids until the oldest boy whipped his ass. I don't think he was very happy with his life - hope he's found peace.

Strelnikov

 

[njjen3953]

Thank You All

I want to thanks all of you who have showed concern for me and to those who shared their experiences. I know how hard it might have been to write about a painful past and hope that you have healed as I have. We must all stick together.

If anyone else cares to share, please see the compassion that this wonderful community has.


Happy Thanksgiving. I give thanks to you all.

Jen

 

[dvnc]

Here's where I get to feel a bit out of the norm again. Ma was abused as a kid, and 'cause she thought it so messed up, she NEVER abused me. I can count all 3 times she came to blows with me, and not only didn't she harm me, but she ended up the worse for it. I used to feel worse about her THINKIN' about comin' t'blows than I ever did gettin' my due.

OTOH, I did get a million talkin'-to's. Comparatively, I'll take those over the other end o' things.

I've mentioned in other threads that I've had this kink as long as I can remember. I've always had a fascination for tickling. Feet were just nearer to me when I was small. Since I got bigger, I'll tickle anywhere that's available, if I've any positive sentiment for someone.

That brings up a question... Nah, I'll start a different thread. There. Started it.

Hope y'all enjoyed Thanksgivin'!

dvnc

 

[TicklingDuo]

I can't think of a time before liking it. It was always just there. However, as mentioned on another thread, there was a time when I was afraid of it as a result of an abusive experience. Like Jen, howeer, I've overcome that and learned to enjoy it again.

Ann

 

[Maria_Rose]

Thank you Jen

Jen, thank you for coming out with this. I thought I might have been the only one. I was always kind of fscinated with tickling, and it was innocent enough when I was very young, I would even say I asked for it to be done. However this did change, when I started getting mature, and I realized that the tickling (it was done by my father at the time) was not as innocent as I had once thought. It became intense, abusive, and a horrible way to get the reactions he wanted. I don't know that he ever meant it to be sexual, or even abusive, but it was. I went to various adults for help and they would not take me seriously. I got responses like "he's just playing" and "no one likes to be tickled, its normal". But I knew not everyone had nightmares about it, and felt the fear that I did. Sometimes I still have flashbacks from that time, and I have to really trust someone to let them touch certain spots. I hope I have made it into a positive thing, I really do. I feel positive about it when I think of doing it with someone I am attracted to. But I do feel that the fascination arose from some really traumatic experiences. That's the reason why I can't actually say the word "tickle" out loud in front of my family, or even strangers. To be perfectly honest, I taught myself not to be ticklish for a long time, and just in recent years have I started to open up again. Organizations such as TMF have definitely helped me feel like a "normal" person again. Thanks again Jen, that took a lot of courage.

 

[Dave2112]

Maria, I don't know you that well, but if there is ever ANYTHING I can do, just drop me aline. I'm sure that goes for Jen and a host of others here. I for one am glad you found your way here. I wish I had something more to say, but for the moment words escape me. I'm sorry for what you had to go through, but hopefully you can turn it around into something positive. We are ALL here to help whenever you need it.

Thank you so much for sharing--Dave2112

 

[qjakal]

Schizo Tickling & Ticklers...

Hmmm...you may be on to something with your "Force" Dave...representing good and evil. It seems there are ticklers.., and then there are sadistic nasty people masquerading as ticklers...as a true 'ler I'm insulted by these people who misuse the power inherent in tickling. It's not that i have anything against pushing the limits of the situation, but there should be some type of consensual behavior going on if there is to be a happy result(eventually...don't be thinking 'ol Q is soft on those 'lees..😉 )These sad tales of abusive tickling are beginning to depress me... Q

 

[njjen3953]

Maria.

Please e-mail me. I hear you loud and clear and would like very much to talk to you.

Jen
[email protected]

 

[Dave2112]

You are 100% correct Q, and this is another reason why I perk up my ears and listen when you have something to say. I respect your opinions a lot.

There is a "Light" and "Dark" side to everything. This goes with tickling as well. No matter how ruthless or sadistic tickling can be between consenting adults, tickling for the sake of subjugating someone, especially someone in no position to challenge your authority, is wrong. It's not even tickling in the straight sense of the word anymore...it's just plain abuse.

I'd say more, but I've been out tonight and I always tend to get emotional when I've been drinking. I wanted to wait until I was a bit more clear-headed to respond to this, but as someone who has lost a child I have one thing to say to ANYONE who would subject one of them to ANY kind of unwanted advances, especially if they have any kind of sexual overtones.

DIE.

(Ok, sorry. I'll feel better tommorow and I'll probably wind up apologizing for this, but right now I'm just pissed. Again, my apologies.)

 

[njjen3953]

I'd say more, but I've been out tonight and I always tend to get emotional when I've been drinking. I wanted to wait until I was a bit more clear-headed to respond to this, but as someone who has lost a child I have one thing to say to ANYONE who would subject one of them to ANY kind of unwanted advances, especially if they have any kind of sexual overtones.

DIE.

(Ok, sorry. I'll feel better tommorow and I'll probably wind up apologizing for this, but right now I'm just pissed. Again, my apologies.)

Dave,
No need to apologize for feeling angry. You were totally justified. I would really like to talk to you more about this. Perhaps even offline.

Jen

 

[Dave2112]

Thank you Jen. I got your IM last night, but my IM function was off. I'll drop you a line and get hold of you later today or tonite.

Got a funeral...WEDDING...yeah, that's it...a wedding to go to today, so I won't be back 'til tonite. Thanks again, Jen

 

[TicklingDuo]

Maria

I could have been the one who wrote that post! It all sounds painfully familiar. If you ever want to talk, feel free to e-mail me at [email protected]

Ann

 

[njjen3953]

Ann

Please feel free to contact me as well. I think we could all identify with eachother at some level.
I believe that our best support comes from loved ones and strangers that can relate.

We are ALL survivors.
Jen

 

[TicklingDuo]

actually Jen...

I don't consider myself a survivor. I consider myself a VICTOR. That comes from a seminar I attended. They consider that, while we are still being abused, we are victims...while we're still alive and able to struggle we're survivors...once we get beyond it and are able to truly LIVE, we are VICTORS. The abuse hitory no longer has an effect on my life...other than to be able to be there for others who are still struggling. I even wrote a prayer book for survivors.

If ANYONE wants to contact me off-list, feel free...either via e-mail or IM (though you'll have to let me know your SN so I can open them to you). If anyone is interested in the prayer book, don't hesitate to le me know. I'll e-mail it to you.

Ann

 

[qjakal]

Loss...

So, is this what binds us all together as humans? It seems we have all suffered losses...a sister, a child, a parent...all gone too soon...too many....too young. I just responded to jordan on the Guilt/Religion thread regarding loss and tragedy, and now I find it running through some others. Damn this time of year...it always sneaks up on me, and it never lets me be. TMF for all...we have such baggage, and even the big strong ones amongst us need to lean at times. I'll be pretty cynical until January....long sad unfunny story. Some other time. Q

 

[njjen3953]

Re: Loss...

TMF for all...we have such baggage, and even the big strong ones amongst us need to lean at times. I'll be pretty cynical until January....long sad unfunny story. Some other time. Q

It's a great thing that we are able to lean on eachother. It shows that, despite the little flame wars here and there, we all have big hearts. We are a very strong and caring community.
Q, try to stay in touch when you are building that new Q cave. It will make the season a bit easier.

Jen

 

[qjakal]

Hmmm...

The Q cave is a source of some frustration as well as potential joy...I'll email you a pic of my latest project on it Jen...I call it "the Great Wall of Mt. Sinai". It's about 12 foot high and 125 feet long right now... Q

 

[ktickler]

Oh Boy...

I always get disturbed by posts like. It is so alien and disturbing to me to even think that adults can abuse of their children. It just makes me feel insure as a future parent. "Will I become an abusive father for no reason?" "Will I know that I am doing it?" "Is it behaviorally or genetically based?" "Do you learn to do it or is it part of who you are?"

It just scares the hell outta me, as you can see. I would never violate or abuse my wife and/or children. However, I have seen the nicest people doing it to their family and they do not even realize their are doing it when confronted, and that makes me feel insecure.

Anyway, I am glad to see that you gals and guys have been able to overcome a traumatic chilhood experience and use it to your advantage to enjoy tickling as much as you do now. I am happy for all of you and wish you the best for the rest of your natural life.

If you ever want to "talk", just drop me a line and I will do my best to help you with what I know. Some times, a simple mindless conversation is all is needed to go through a rough time.

Bye,

Knight Tickler

 

[Slappy McGee]

wow, sooo much of interest in this thread..... well might as well jump right in over my head....

first of all... knight tickler... there are several warning signs for one who is abusive... first of all, if you were abused yourself you are more likely to abuse someone in your life... even if you don't want to, people learn by modeled behavior.... however, this is not necessarily destiny....

if you are simply in touch with yourself, and an introspective person, you likely will not get to the point of abusing someone...

abuse is a pent up feeling of hurt or anger let out in a burst... much like lightning in a thunderstorm is pent up electricity in the sky looking for the ground....

simply put.. if you have issues, it is YOUR responsability to seek help for those issues before they get out of hand and explode into violence. if you are aware of great emotional pain or anger in your life, and do nothing about it, you are doing yourself and your loved ones a disservice.

and thats all I have to say about that.


as for the original topic of this post... early experiences.... I can't remember when I started liking tickling... I know when I was pretty young I wanted baysitters and older female friends in the neighborhood to tickle me, but having a brother who was around my age, I kept it pretty quiet because I didn't want him in on it.

as I got older, I becme aware of my foot fetish in middle school, but only later (late high school) did I realise that I wanted to tickle too.......

my first real strong memory or wanting to tickle someone was when I came over to one of my female friend's house and she had her feet up on the couch and another guy was tickling them... another girl asked her if it was torture and she said no she loved it......it turns out i got to tickle her feet many many times after that 🙂 ahhh the memories.... but anyway... thats how I realised my love for tickling, it just grew out of that... a bit at a time...now I have a full blown tickling fetish, foot fetish, and growing bondage fetish... alot of which has been developed by the online stuff I have found...

gee thanks online community... I wouldn't be half this kinky without you!!

as eric cartman would say "I love you guys"

slappy mcgee