chat room decorum

[footworshiper]

I'm sure not many of you know this but I am MsTootsies boyfriend; and she and I have visited this site and its chatroom for some time now (very sad admission is that I have not been actively involved within this group as I should- I'm sure it'll be in next year's New Years Resolutions), I've not been on the chatroom itself for a wee while cause of an arm injury and a subsequent operation.

Cutting to the chase, this is in response to a few remarks Christina (MsTootsies) has mentioned to me recently. It appears there are a few somewhat rude characters entering the rooms, I do not know the nature of why they were rude but basically I think those in the room should be able to stick together in a friendly manner and maybe start ratting out these impolite people- especially if its more of a mistake then impolitenes, becomes an education then.

I don't mean beaking the "no personal messages without asking first rule", that rule is usually bent to be a private message with a polite beginning. I confess to having bent that rule myself a few times. I more so mean rude behaviour when unwelcome in what has always been a friendly room.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Rude peeps in the chat room? Unfortunately, it goes with the territory. What you do is make a positive impression on your own accord, and many good things will come your way! You'll find out how warm it is when everyone in the chat room greets you upon your entrance, and the assholes will cease to matter...😀

 

[Mitchell]

I understand exactly what you mean by this FW. I should tell you that by the way, I greatly enjoy chatting with Ms Tootsies, and think she is a super person. Getting to the point you make, I would say that a high percentage of TMF chatters, about 90-95 percent are generally good people whom I enjoy. Then there are the other 5-10 percent who can be annoying and downright rude. I have come into contact with a few rude girls on here, and also some rude guys. What I do is to just try to avoid such characters by placing them on ignore, and/ or refusing to talk to or pc with them. This usually solves the problem. That would be my best advice as to how Ms Tootsies should handle it. Either refuse to pc with whatever rude individuals she encounters, place them on ignore, or, if they are really aggressive, talk to a mod. I know the mods have said many times that in any large group, there are bound to be some people who we dont like, this is just the way of the world. I hope my advice helped, because it has worked for me. Perhaps if Ms Tootsies tries it, it can work for her too.

Cheers and good wishes to you both,
Mitch

 

[TicklishSinner]

Unfortunetly where people are there will be assholes and i am sorry Ms. Tootsies has to endure it but being female on this web site she will have to put up with it, but she seems like a smart gal, so best of luck fighting the assholes off

 

[Roseblossom]

It appears there are a few somewhat rude characters entering the room

I giggled when I read your message cos I hear this from every newbie.

In fact when I was a newbie last year I posted about it:
[http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=30360]

The good guys are in the majority. Creeps get ignored or laughed out of the room for the most part.

Hope your arm gets better so you can join us in the chat. (Hiya, Toots!😛 )

~Rose~

 

[drew70]

Can you be more specific as to the nature of the "rudeness?" Your description is rather vague, certainly too much so to warrant any "ratting out." Are we talking sexual innuendo? Propositioning? Insinuations of questionable parentage? It's important for the rest of us to know what we're up against.

 

[Limeoutsider]

Unfortunetly where people are there will be assholes and i am sorry Ms. Tootsies has to endure it but being female on this web site she will have to put up with it, but she seems like a smart gal, so best of luck fighting the assholes off

When I first started going to the chat room, no one bothered me because they all assumed I was a guy, maybe having a SN that advertises that fact that your F is what gets you noticed, and not necessarily in a good way

 

[Roseblossom]

The fact that she's a woman, with a woman's nickname

isn't the problem. 🙄

 

[His Divine Shadow]

As previously said, they are unavoidable. Ignore the worthless bums, or, if they continually harass you, PM a mod or Myriads and they'll get it straightened out. 4Pawz is a good one to ask, as I believe she is a Chat Mod as well as a regular mod.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

"It's important for the rest of us to know what we're up against."

What do you mean "we", Drew?

 

[drew70]

I mean "we" as in the subjective first person plural personal pronoun, Knox. "We" as in "the rest of us" who participate in the chatroom, or perhaps even those considering participation. I think the "we" part was pretty clear to most, Knox. What wasn't so clear was exactly what behavior he qualified as "rude." For all we know, "rude" could simply mean that somebody used foul language in her presence. It could mean that somebody made a legitimate request for private chat. Or it could mean any of the things I mentioned previously. We really don't know, do we? If we're to start "ratting out" such people as footworshiper suggests, don't you think we should have a better idea as to the nature of the crime?

 

[footworshiper]

I think my first post might have been a little too harsh, probably too much emotion and not enough thought. And yeah it was vague, I apologise. Mostly because I have not pushed to find out specifics, ultimitely its not my place to pry too much.

What I do know however is it was definitely not any kind of sexual advancement, that was cleared up. Im making a guess itll be more along the lines of basic harrassment, especially because speaking to her yesterday or something like that the subject came up and I discovered she did not know the ignore button was there.

Thankyou very much everyone for the support and advice! Most kind.

 

[The Sean Man]

Keep in mind, rude people in chat rooms would never have the stones to act that way in public. It's easy to be an asshole when you're not looking someone in the eye, and instead hiding in a dark room behind a computer.

The Sean Man

 

[QtipSoftness120]

People are Assholes in real life and online so just learn to deal with it and Move on and ignore them. that simple!

 

[drew70]

When I first started going to the chat room, no one bothered me because they all assumed I was a guy, maybe having a SN that advertises that fact that your F is what gets you noticed, and not necessarily in a good way

Lime brings up a good point. In the old chatroom there was one chick who was antisocial to the point of agoraphobia. She didn't want any attention drawn to her, and absolutely hated anybody trying to initiate conversation with her, no matter how polite or friendly. So what does she do? She comes into a tickling chatroom with the handle "LongRedNails" and wonders why people keep trying to talk to her. 🙄

There's nothing wrong with a feminine name to let people know you are female. A woman should be able to do this without harrassment. But if she deliberately chooses a provocative name like "hot&hornygirl" or "throbbingclitgirl" it stands to reason this will attract the more unsavory element.

 

[tkl_beth]

I sometimes think I should have chosen a less obvious SN when signing up. There used to be a guy who constantly PM'ed me when I went in the chat room which got really annoying but most people are OK 😀