CONFUSION RAINS in mah Brain.

[anchientstar]

Hello. Yes me again. Honestly someone stop me typing.
HOWEVER I have noticed (since I have recently become a switch, I seem to be leeing way more than I ler these days) theres a VERY fine line for me with tickling and it feeling ABSOLUTELY AMAZING. For me, tickling is literal torture. It's just someone pretty much touching me enough to a point where I don't breathe. Fun times. But the soft, slow tickles, (for me) aren't really tickles at all. Just feels super nice!

Now the issue for me is that obviously, when someone does that to me, gently gliding their nails over whatever, its a turn on and I feel bad about it. Now I know some people will be screaming that doesn't matter and blah blah blah. But I personally have never liked the idea of my tickling fetish and my sexual desires to fuse. Sure it's normal BUT I think its better (for me anyway) to keep them separate. (This also could be due to the fact I have a girlfriend who isn't into this at all). But i'm not sure, what do you guys think? Natural? Should I let these sexual desires drive me in these circumstances or what?

Otherwise HAPPY HOLIDAYS! Enjoy yourselves and keep on tickling!
The star is out. psshhhhhhhhh

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Hate to break it to you, but a "fetish" (or "kink" for anyone who is incredibly specific on the subject) is inherently tied to your sexual desires. Trying to keep them separate is only going to work for so long.

 

[CapturedDoll]

Hate to break it to you, but a "fetish" (or "kink" for anyone who is incredibly specific on the subject) is inherently tied to your sexual desires. Trying to keep them separate is only going to work for so long.

Yep! This is the hand we were dealt.

Lemme put it to you this way. None of us can be completely disengaged from Tickling because in its own way... It's a friend of ours. But a friend that loves you no matter what... Put it away on a shelf for awhile. Be your own Master of control over your mind. That will teach you that someday when you revisit this- you are not here just to accomodate others in their life interests and disinterests, Including your own. We can add, and take away the time put into our passions, curiosities, and ex or de-explorations.

When I was in my 18-19 ages- I didn't want it to feel good anymore either. But thankfully the era I had, I felt healthy about it, took my stance. I let myself have Pride about it. Even with the frequency of the thoughts.

Now, My Gf was though so into oral without the tickling I took it personnally. And ended up resenting our sex life. Pushing her away, And her as a person overall. If you don't accept this earlier, rather than later in life... All you're really doing is wasting time being happy. And you nor your partner deserve lonelyness. That is always a possibility you can't disregard. Sex is a MASSIVE part of us. A comfort. A friend.

#Truth

 

[chicago]

Problems happen when you start kink shaming yourself or trying to repress shit.

Are you not able to share this with your gf or is she not ok with you playing with others?

Best of luck.