Constructive NEST Discussion

[billylee]

Years ago I read a story about a guy and two women playing poker, where the loser was tied and tickled. The guy lost (and won, I suppose). Ever since I have wanted to be that guy, but said nothing - even at NEST last year. My fear is that wanted to be 'lee will be seen as unmasculine. I saw Lee and a two other women tickle Jamie at NEST last year, and stood ten feet away jealously watching him get the business, but it seemed okay because he had not requested it.
Plus, of course, if it even did happen I might be oh so sorry that I wanted to be lee in the first place.

Billylee

 

[tommytikl]

To Billylee,
I have been tickled silly as a lee and I don't find it unmasculine in the least. Trust me at NEST you will not be seen as unmasculine or a sissy...actually you will probably be seen as a hero!! or at least evoke jealousy because you are being touched all over by many women!!! BONUS!!!

 

[milagros317]

My biggest fear before going to my first gathering (which was SBG2) was that everybody else there would know each other, and I would be isolated. While the first part was largely true, I was made to feel very welcome, invited to participate in scenes, and experienced the joy of being the lee for four women simultaneously.
NJJen sure does know how to host a gathering. 😀 😀

 

[njjen3953]

and I’ll bet you a ten spot right here and now that if you don’t want to be “ignored”... you won’t be! 😉

Hey Tracy,
Can you make the same bet with me?

That, believe it or not, is always a concern of mine before a gathering, especially when attending with a partner. I have always stated that the agreement between my partner and myself is that if someone wants to play with me, I will likely say, yes, but I would appreciate you asking my partner first.

Once all agree, we negotiate what is allowed and what are limits and what safe word will be used.


I am not sure if people find this protocol intimidating, but I do find that I rarely get asked.

I would love some feedback on this.

 

[njjen3953]

NJJen sure does know how to host a gathering. 😀 😀

Why...thank you kind sir.

 

[TickleCrazy]

This thread has been fascinating reading. Attending a gathering will always be a fantasy and never a reality while I'm happily married. To put myself into a ticklish situation with someone other than my husband would be infidelity. My husband is not a born ticklephile but has learned the art of tickling to please me. Imagining what it might be like to be tickled by a true ticklephile, my greatest fear is finding it *so* far superior to my honey's tickling that I might become dissatisfied with him. I just wouldn't let that happen.

 

[RChello]

I think the new people will find that the NEST attendees are a great group of people,,, and yes there is of course play at the NEST but usually between those whove attended many, or groups of people whove know each other for quite a while outside the NEST or online ...but also besides that, there are many who just enjoying talking,,, actually meeting other people who enjoy our interest. And of course watching the activities, if they wish,,,theres usually a place for people to just talk and mingle away from the activities,,, a very laid back atmosphere,,,most of the more lively tickling activities happen away from the NEST that weekend at the hotel where others are staying🙂

 

[Spotman C]

As one of the the lucky attendees of last years NEST, I felt compelled to weigh in on this one. I was dying to get there so I asked the wife, who was a more than little nervous last year, what she felt.
She said that her biggest fear was not having her limits respected.She was not into the sexual aspect of tickling until she met me and, for her, tickling is only sexual when it is with me. She was willing to keep an open mind about a tickling demo as long as she wasn't going to have to deal with a room full of "horny men". The only reason she went was because she knew that I wouldnt let anything bad happen to her.
Now, having stated her fear, I have to explain how it turned out. We are both NEST attendees for life.

All tickling was done in a safe non-sexual atmosphere between friends in the spirit of sharing a special bond we all felt. She did do a demo and she was totally impressed with the whole experience. I was the proudest guy in the room when everyone clapped when when we were done.Even at the get together the night before, everyone asked if she was going to do a demo, but there was never a rude comment or suggestion from anyone. We were invited to several private parties but were never pressured.In fact, our only regret was that we got an invitation to drop by Max's afterwards and we had to snub him. Sorry, buddy, but the wife was so worn out that she insisted on something to eat.Hope we get another one this year.
Spotman C