Converting A Non Tickler

[PocketKings0174]

Contrary to popular belief, there are people in this world, albeit silly people who do not have a tickling fetish. What has been the success rate of people dating someone who was okay with their fetish, or even keen to explore it? What is the best way to come clean? How accepting do you think the average female would be?

 

[LD_Tickler]

Your average female?

Probably not very accepting. Think how often you mock weird fetishes when you hear of them.

The average female who's in a relationship with you? Very accepting. I dated a girl who knew I had a fetish, but didn't know what. Knowing that she still pursued me and started dating me, and when she found out that it was tickling, wanted to accommodate me all the time.

It's not something you should share with everyone around you. But in the context that it matters, it's rarely a problem.

 

[PocketKings0174]

Everyone makes fun of sex, fetishes, and anything else taboo . Just because you mock something doesn't mean you're totally against it. But it isn't something you want to tell everyone.

You seem confident in most girls accepting it. It's good to know.

 

[LD_Tickler]

Everyone makes fun of sex, fetishes, and anything else taboo . Just because you mock something doesn't mean you're totally against it. But it isn't something you want to tell everyone.

You seem confident in most girls accepting it. It's good to know.

No of course not. But if in conversation you mention like, I dunno, a spitting fetish to a friend of yours, she'll probably mock it and be generally dismissive of the idea. Does that mean she fundamentally opposes and hates people who spit to get off? No. But she has no interest in accepting the fetish, so why would she be anything but aloof?

If on the other hand, the girl is say, dating a guy who likes spitting, she has an interest in it as she has an interest in him. So in that context, she'll be far more likely to accept it than to just be dismissive.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I just blurted it out one day to my fiance - after we'd been together 3 years - and I didn't really explain to him the depths of it - that it went past "hi poke me in the side and make me giggle" until two years AFTER that. However, he was totally accepting and willing to learn more about it. He even joined the TMF and is pretty active!! We've gone to a gathering and will be attending more gatherings and munches in the near future 😀 So yeah - converting him went pretty well.

That having been said, I'm a 100% lee. Which means I'm essentially saying, "Will you do this to me?" which is MUCH easier than "Can I do this to you?" We've discussed how he would have reacted if I'd been a ler, or a switch - and while he would still support me being active in the community and going to gatherings, etc...he wouldn't want me to tickle him. So I think lers have it harder when it comes to recruiting.

 

[PocketKings0174]

It seems fairly common sense about the doing this to me being easier than can I do this to you. I'm just afraid of meeting someone, falling for them, and losing them over one of my kinks haha.

I don't think I've heard any horror stories like that though on here yet. I just hope the next girl I get involved in has some kind of fetish so we can explore both. Preferably, I'd love a girl who was into tickling, but they are all in hiding 🙁

 

[xionking]

Contrary to popular belief, there are people in this world, albeit silly people who do not have a tickling fetish. What has been the success rate of people dating someone who was okay with their fetish, or even keen to explore it? What is the best way to come clean? How accepting do you think the average female would be?

Honestly, my success rate has been about 75%.

-Xionking

 

[-Hari-]

Contrary to popular belief, there are people in this world, albeit silly people who do not have a tickling fetish. What has been the success rate of people dating someone who was okay with their fetish, or even keen to explore it? What is the best way to come clean? How accepting do you think the average female would be?

I find the best way to tell them, is to drop a few hints and then when it feels right, just tell them, if they really like you they tend to accept most things about you to an extent.

you may find most girls will happily take the roll of a ler, they tend to find it cute and alot of fun, and think about it, if they find you attractive then whats better than watching you squirm about?

Gettng them to lee is harder, but if they give you the chance you have to make it enjoyable for them and take into concideration that they dont like it like you do, so throw plenty of pleasure in there 😉

So far ive told every girlfriend ive had and its always gone well 🙂

The "average girl" really isnt that judgmental if theyre into you.

 

[sean901]

What is the best way to come clean? How accepting do you think the average female would be?

You've got to do the tickle test first i think.
Just a cheeky tickle every now and then, see how she reacts, if she doesnt pull away imediatley, and you get a smile and a 'huhhhh, dont do that, im soooo ticklish', then your off to a good start. If she just pulls away and looks at you like your an annoying pet or something, then I dont really see how you could take it further.
Phase 2, pounce on her when she least expects it, and tickle the bejesus out of her, to the point of tears almost. If she kicks you in the face and breaks your nose, then just run out of the room and jump out of the window.
Other wise, just keep launching surprise tickle attacks every now and then and maybe she'll just figure it out.

 

[PocketKings0174]

Thanks for the advice dudes. Any ladies have anything to say?

 

[Mephistopheles]

You've got to do the tickle test first i think.
Just a cheeky tickle every now and then, see how she reacts, if she doesnt pull away imediatley, and you get a smile and a 'huhhhh, dont do that, im soooo ticklish', then your off to a good start. If she just pulls away and looks at you like your an annoying pet or something, then I dont really see how you could take it further.
Phase 2, pounce on her when she least expects it, and tickle the bejesus out of her, to the point of tears almost. If she kicks you in the face and breaks your nose, then just run out of the room and jump out of the window.
Other wise, just keep launching surprise tickle attacks every now and then and maybe she'll just figure it out.

Well, my strategy was just tickling her to the point of near death in between of passionate lovemaking when I spent a night with a woman. If she doesn't threaten to pack her things and go home she's OK with it.

 

[chicago]

Most of the guys I've dated I've ended up having to convert them. When I was younger, I'd just hint at it, be a smart ass and get myself into situations where it'd be easy to get tickled, etc.

Now, although I still get shy about it, I just tell them point blank that I'm into being tickled and no one's had a problem with it.

I think if I were a 'ler, it'd be a bit more difficult to find guys that were willing. Then again, guys will do a lot of silly things to get laid.

 

[sasaxrah]

Thanks for the advice dudes. Any ladies have anything to say?

Obviously I like tickling, so I'm going to respond more generically. Let's say someone is interested in dating me and they have "x" fetish. If I really like them, I want to make them happy and for them to make me happy. Introducing it as something you are excited about would help. Easing them into it helps. But most of all, if it's a relationship, then I want that person to be happy. If I find out there's a particular thing that really turns their crank, I'd want to accommodate, provided that it's safe for me and doesn't involve shit.

If someone you are dating doesn't have this attitude that they want to make you happy (with good reciprocity, of course) then they are probably not worth dating, in my humble opinion.

 

[daryl]

I have actually been very successful in my life in this area, up to and including my marriage. it may sound cliche, but what is SHE into? You need to know that and make a real effort to get into that and do what she likes. From there, you can start working in what you like and don't be overwhelming about it. Be open and honest, but start slowly and make sure that she is really enjoying. Bit by bit, her liking will likely grow.

 

[Mephistopheles]

If someone you are dating doesn't have this attitude that they want to make you happy (with good reciprocity, of course) then they are probably not worth dating, in my humble opinion.

Well, I'm pretty much open to everything but if someone I was dating said she would really love it if I would shit in her mouth I would say "no thank you".

People have limits and for some tickling is off-limits. That doesn't mean they're not worth dating imo, it just means that you have to make a choice on how important you find tickling in your life.

 

[Artoo]

I just tell them flat out. Most people I've told have found it interesting, if a little odd, and some of them have consented to try it out.

 

[Kalamos]

So I think lers have it harder when it comes to recruiting.

Recruiting is actually easy.
Real problem starts when they realise they'd love to accommodate for your fetish - but they simply can't take it, or put up with it.

 

[PocketKings0174]

Everything I've heard seems to be encouraging so far, and it's what I was hoping to hear. Hopefully one day it will go smoothly for me as it has for many of you.