Curiousity killed the cat

[rhiannon]

Is it still Non_Con if we had intercourse after?!?

If they're still willing to have sex afterwards, you can't have pissed them off too bad.

May I ask how you'd react if you tie someone down and tickle them and they get seriously distressed or mad about it?

 

[ticklemepls]

it depends on the relationship with the ler.... my ler and i are together- as a couple-he also happens to be my dom.... we have no safeword- it stops when he wants it to (and he gets to do it whenever he wants to) and i love it that way... something hot and exciting about having no control over the situation- he knows my limits and I know i can seriously stop activity if I absolutely need to by communicating with him, but I like him being in control... call me weird i guess

 

[Phineas]

Is it only Non-Con if I didn't "know" my victim beforehand?

If she was coming on to me like a freight train, is it still wrong to take a willing, but-doesn't-know-it-yet "victim" into my realm w/o disclosing every-fucking-thing to her and making her sign a contract?

The lines are getting awfully blurry.

It's non-con in the strictest sense of the word, in that she didn't consent beforehand. BUT, that doesn't necessarily make it wrong.

I think where the disconnect comes in is that most of the people here who discuss non-con IRL deliberately go out of their way to put their target into a situation where they can't consent; either by ambushing random strangers on the streets, using social pressure to trick someone into complying, then going beyond what might reasonably expected (like with the Renfaire videos - say what you will about the tickling, not one of those women consented to having video of the ordeal spread across the internet and, in some cases, sold), or making up stories/lying about their intentions, like the idiots who hang around nail salons and tell women they're "art students" or "research assistants".

And, when you question their motives, they go off on some entitlement rant about how they should be able to get grabby with whomever they damn well please and you should just shut up about it, because they didn't actually rape anyone so it's totally OK since she didn't outright Mace him so she must have enjoyed it.

THAT is what most of the "Morality Police" get pissed about. Experimenting with someone you just met and have a reasonable justification for pushing boundaries with is not.

Speaking personally, I like to make things as clear as possible beforehand, even if it kills the mood; because in my younger days I had plenty of experiences where someone I thought was completely on-board with things decided after the fact that they weren't, or acted completely willing when in fact they weren't, and it's extremely embarassing (and/or dangerous) to get confronted by people who make it clear in no uncertain terms that if you touch X again, you'll have a few broken fingers for your trouble.

 

[proud2tickle]

ticking strangers no.
tickling people u just know through other friends or work, no.
tickling good friends, i dont think u need to ask to. if they are friend and the comfortable with u and u tickle them and they dont ask you to never ever do it again..... well play ball
in a relationship with someone same thing.
its not hard just think of people and how u interact with them normally. almost every girl who i am close enough to hug because we are friends and they sit on my lap at parties and such i am probably going to tickle them and if they dont like it and ask me not to again well i am not going to tickle them again... that has never happened though

 

[tj77]

I am curious about something.

I guess I was raised to treat a woman's feelings first with respect so I don't really pursue my tickling desires without discussing it first to those that don't know I have it. Although, I notice that isn't the case with all men on here. They seem to believe that if they feel like doing something to a female (like grab her or a body part) even though they aren't friends with her...she should just get over it or go with it. I've even read some say that they are against safe-words because its up to the male tickler to decide when he is done.

I may be old-fashioned which is why I post this question.

My question is: What leads you to believe that this is okay?

If that's old fashioned we need more old fashioned people. My gf and I place respect and trust at a high level. And if one says no, that means no.

 

[ticklemepls]

ticking strangers no.
its not hard just think of people and how u interact with them normally. almost every girl who i am close enough to hug because we are friends and they sit on my lap at parties and such i am probably going to tickle them and if they dont like it and ask me not to again well i am not going to tickle them again... that has never happened though

you would 😛

 

[proud2tickle]

LOL i love u manderz!!!! funny thing about that last comment i think my handsome good looks let me do whatever i want!!!!!!


(disclaimer: i am really really really professionally good looking)