cutting?

[PainTrain]

anyone z else struggle with thisd??


it's tought sometimes .. although, nothing else feels beter ]



rush of SOME type of feelingd when its necessary

 

[isabeau]

you mean like cutting yourself? i know someone who does that, or did.. he told me it always sort of calmed him down after.. why do you do this?

 

[tulipangel]

Hun, PM me please! I can relate! 😡

 

[HeavenlyTickle]

Hun, PM me please! I can relate! 😡

Same here. Feel free to chat if you need to.

xXx

 

[stloldg]

I know a 17 yo girl that started to cut herself, stressing over her life. i would love to know more about this

 

[steph]

It's kind of a bizarre disorder Izz. Mostly we see this in teens and young adults. In turning their pain against themselves, they feel like they're gaining some kind of control over it. Cutters actually feel better after doing this but it's dangerous and a sign that the person is in extreme pain. Some people turn to drugs and/or alcohol to numb their hurt, cutters slash their arms or their legs usually. It's easier than going to therapy and/or finding a doctor to help them face whatever it is that's haunting them.

Grem~Whatever is in your past that's bothering you enough to make you do this, I'd feel a lot better if you sought some help for it. You can PM if you want to talk more.
XOXO

you mean like cutting yourself? i know someone who does that, or did.. he told me it always sort of calmed him down after.. why do you do this?

 

[slap'n'ticklee]

Yes, I know of someone who does this and she is only 15 and she confides in me and I have recently found out that her twin brother does it also. I feel absolutely useless and it breaks my heart that I can't give them both good advice, only that I'm here for them to listen and let them open up.

Just wish I could do more as I hate it when friends are hurting.

 

[Strider]

I've got some experience with this, as pretty much all my girlfriends have done it to some extent or another.

 

[Goodieluver]

Get tattoos, theyre safer

 

[drew70]

What if this were "two consenting adults" doing this to each other? Should we still be concerned?

 

[Goodieluver]

What if this were "two consenting adults" doing this to each other? Should we still be concerned?

Two adults slicing pieces of epidural tissue off each other are u asking?

 

[BLUE_THUNDER]

a disturbing trend

while in general i say to each their own, cutting can be dangerous and will certainly scar you, and from what ive read about it , it is becoming a growing trend among the young adult crowd now. personally i dont think it is an appropriate response to a problem, but im an old man now (32) and a byproduct of the 80's , back then we got drunk and stoned to deal with our issues. but first and foremost, you need to figure out what that issue IS, only then can it be dealt with. just my 2 cents worth. peace......BLUE_THUNDER

 

[kis123]

What if this were "two consenting adults" doing this to each other? Should we still be concerned?

Yes we should be concerned, but unfortunately there is NOTHING you can do about if they are of the age of consent! You cannot make them stop unless they want the help. They have the right to do it whether you or I like it or not!

 

[drew70]

Two adults slicing pieces of epidural tissue off each other are u asking?

Yes, that's exactly what I'm asking. Would this be something that warrants an intervention of some kind? Or do we just shrug and say "Hey, we have no right whatsoever to question what two consenting adults do"

 

[steph]

Well, the issue presents both emotional/psychological problems AND physical risks. One the first level, what if the other party tires of it and they don't want to "play" anymore. The dynamic of the relationship changes.
Your physical risks are a whole other can of worms. What if your knife isn't sterile? An infection that enters the bloodstream can kill you. Or, you could sever an artery. Either way, my two cents is alone or partner, this is risky stuff. I could go more into it but lunch is almost over.
Dr. Steph here, signing off...
XOXO

Yes, that's exactly what I'm asking. Would this be something that warrants an intervention of some kind? Or do we just shrug and say "Hey, we have no right whatsoever to question what two consenting adults do"

 

[BellaRisa]

Good article

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-harm



One important thing to note is that this cutting is a type of self-injury, usually but not always amongst stressed and hurting young people, that is a result of negative emotional issues from which the cutter is seeking relief though the distraction of pain; it's considered a problem because it's a sign that they need helping coping and they would stop if they could. While they find momentary relief there is no real satisfaction or fulfillment.

This isn't to be confused with other types of cutting, such as the kind edgeplayers enjoy, or the ritualistic scarification that people from other cultures (parts of Africa for instance) perform on themselves and others as part of their religion and/or lifestyle.

Bella

 

[steph]

Right. thanks Bella. I assumed this was what he meant.

XOXO

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-harm

This isn't to be confused with other types of cutting, such as the kind edgeplayers enjoy, or the ritualistic scarification that people from other cultures (parts of Africa for instance) perform on themselves and others as part of their religion and/or lifestyle.

Bella

 

[BellaRisa]

Right. thanks Bella. I assumed this was what he meant.

XOXO

(hugs) I figured you and most folks reading this know the difference luv, I just wanted to clarify for some that sometimes whether an activity needs concern depends more on the motive and physical/emotional aftermath than the activity itself

Bella

 

[steph]

Well, that was better explanation than I gave, more thorough anyhoo...

(hugs) I figured you and most folks reading this know the difference luv, I just wanted to clarify for some that sometimes whether an activity needs concern depends more on the motive and physical/emotional aftermath than the activity itself

Bella

 

[drew70]

Either way, my two cents is alone or partner, this is risky stuff. I could go more into it but lunch is almost over.
Dr. Steph here, signing off...
XOXO

I couldn't agree more. Self injury is just as crazy and dangerous as mutual consenting injury. There are better and far more healthy ways to deal with whatever emotional issues that lead one to seek out such physical abuse.

 

[Strider]

self-injury =/= bloodplay

 

[steph]

Well, sometimes people weren't ever taught good coping skills, sometimes they were but became so ravaged by life's disasters that they forgot somewhere along the way...The human mind is SO complicated.

And bloodplay is a whole different realm, IMHO...Responsible adults know the need for HIV tests, dental dams if you're getting really crazy, etc. No judgements, but not not my style, even if I do have a distant sick fascination...😉
XOXO

I couldn't agree more. Self injury is just as crazy and dangerous as mutual consenting injury. There are better and far more healthy ways to deal with whatever emotional issues that lead one to seek out such physical abuse.

 

[Aachen1983]

I never cut or injured myself willingly. My voices used to convince me to hit myself hard in the sides (I bruised ribs doing this) and to take scissors and make small cuts on my arms.

 

[Goodieluver]

Yes, that's exactly what I'm asking. Would this be something that warrants an intervention of some kind? Or do we just shrug and say "Hey, we have no right whatsoever to question what two consenting adults do"

It does warrent intervention cuz if theyre older and can directly effect society since they live in it, then its a problem. I dont want to risk a car accident cuz someone cant find a better outlet for the "horrible worldy pain" and then end up wrecking due to it and harming me or a loved one. Thing too is you couldnt charge them cuz theyre "mentally unstable" by law

 

[Mimi]

I love the assumptions and stereotypes made by people who don't know anything about the topic or the people who do it, but assume they do.

I am a cutter.

Bet none of you who think you know the mindset of one who does that saw that one coming! I'm not going to go into personal details as to why or how long, but I just wanted that tossed out there as an example that you don't have to be off your rocker or severely mentally or emotionally damaged to be among the ranks who do. It's just one of many ways of dealing with stress and emotions. Some punch walls, some throw things, some just scream and swear. I don't do any of that. I deal with it my way. Leave your assumptions and judgements at the door, please.