I've discussed this issue quite a bit with some friends of mine recently, so I figured I'd throw it out here and see what sort of opinions people come back with.
To those of you who engage or have engaged in D/s relationships, to what extent to you combine that sort of relationship with your romantic relationships? Or do you not combine them at all? Just going from my circle of friends in the community, I would say a slight majority of them don't believe in mixing the two, but that lines often get blurred anyway.
When I first met my girlfriend, she told me she either has a significant other or a Dominant. She doesn't have one person who fulfills both roles, and she doesn't have both simultaneously. I've since scrambled that all to hell.
She's still my girlfriend before anything else, but she's also collared to Me as a formalization of the unique way our personal energies interact. While she's not contracted and we're not 24/7, the energy exchange we have also isn't just something that comes out behind closed doors in intimate moments, it's way more fundamental than that. Although the extent to which it emerges is connected to the specific situation at hand, it's always there to some extent. Other than a couple of rather rigidly minded sorts, most I've talked to seem to understand that, even if it's not what works for them.
What say the rest of you? How do you go about finding the balance?
To those of you who engage or have engaged in D/s relationships, to what extent to you combine that sort of relationship with your romantic relationships? Or do you not combine them at all? Just going from my circle of friends in the community, I would say a slight majority of them don't believe in mixing the two, but that lines often get blurred anyway.
When I first met my girlfriend, she told me she either has a significant other or a Dominant. She doesn't have one person who fulfills both roles, and she doesn't have both simultaneously. I've since scrambled that all to hell.
She's still my girlfriend before anything else, but she's also collared to Me as a formalization of the unique way our personal energies interact. While she's not contracted and we're not 24/7, the energy exchange we have also isn't just something that comes out behind closed doors in intimate moments, it's way more fundamental than that. Although the extent to which it emerges is connected to the specific situation at hand, it's always there to some extent. Other than a couple of rather rigidly minded sorts, most I've talked to seem to understand that, even if it's not what works for them.
What say the rest of you? How do you go about finding the balance?