Dating as a tickle lover

[ticklechambers]

What are people's thoughts about dating as a tickle lover?
Do we limit ourselves to finding someone who shares our fetish?
Do you/ have you settled for someone who doesn't like tickling?
Has anyone found happiness with someone who doesn't indulge in their fantasies?

 

[Bothersome]

There would be a lot more unhappy couples in the world if nobody found happiness that had nothing to do with their fetish.

I have a long list of things I look for in a girl when dating, and sharing my fetish definitely isn't a requisite on that list. That being said, I did find a girl that shares my fetish, and I love it.

 

[MrMidnyte]

Technically I didn't limit my dating circle to just people who shared my fetish. What I found out though was that they hated tickling, or that they tried to tolerated it only to turn my advances away after dating a few months. So settling sucked for me.

 

[voided9]

When I was in high school, I dated guys that I knew were open-minded and they were all willing to indulge my fetish, they even seemed to enjoy it, because I let them tickle me back. When I was a senior, I dated a guy a few years older than myself, and he was into trying new things so he really liked my fetish but I wouldn't say he was one of us. He enjoyed it and it turned him on, but he wasn't interested in watching videos or meeting others within our community. The guy after him, HATED my fetish but didn't make it clear until we were engaged, but he also turned out to be an abusive prick anyways. Then I FINALLY made it back to my original high school sweetheart, my husband Zac. He LOVES the fetish and definitely shares it as his own, and is the best tickle partner in the fucking world.

So basically, I was always looking for someone who was ticklish and open-minded, even if they didn't have the fetish themselves. I figure if you wait until you're with someone for a long time and are too nervous to tell them about your tickling fetish, that often leads to unfulfillment. =/

 

[RdmNm]

What are people's thoughts about dating as a tickle lover?

Is there any other way?

Do we limit ourselves to finding someone who shares our fetish?

No, but it sure is nice when such people can be found. Usually, I introduce my women to tickling and they usually enjoy it.

Do you/ have you settled for someone who doesn't like tickling?

I've tried dating women who don't like tickling and it never works out. BORING!!!!!!!! I just move on to the next woman if I find someone who dislikes tickling. As far as I'm concerned, tickling is a requirement for chemistry and compatibility. If she doesn't enjoy it, then I'll find someone else who does.

Has anyone found happiness with someone who doesn't indulge in their fantasies?

Speaking for myself, the answer is no...at least not in the long term. There are just too many other women out there who would love to indulge in my fantasies and also enjoy them. There simply isn't sufficient reason for me to settle for a woman who doesn't also enjoy tickling. I have found lots who do and expect to find more in the future.

 

[anderson1129]

I would love to meet a woman that shares the fetish. I have never told anyone that I dated that I like tickling. I don't have the confidence to. Have always felt that I would be looked at as strange and that it would be a relationship killer. Thinking it might be time to change that since I still haven't found happiness yet.

 

[ticklehound]

All I care (from a tickle lover standpoint) is that she's cute & reeeally ticklish!

Now, of course, for my sanity, I'd want her to be open-minded, intelligent, witty... and great-in-the-sack!

Let's just say I've found plenty the 1st line... not-so-much in the 2nd line

 

[imirritated]

I've found, if you aren't creepy about it, EVERY girl is convertible to the tickle side.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

At this point I have absolutely no desire to pursue a relationship with someone who doesn't share an interest in tickling with me. He doesn't necessarily have to be from the forum or even share the fetish initially. But he has to have an interest in kink and be willing to explore tickling with me. And then he's gotta get good at it. Along with everything else that I enjoy.

I figure that I'm in a place in my life where I can afford to be picky. I'm not in any big hurry to rush into the arms of mediocrity.

 

[Aboundtime]

How I see it is that partners get turned on when the other person is turned on. I wouldn't limit myself to people who share my same fantasy. Then the odds of finding someone would really be slim pickings. Every time I tell the person that I have a foot/tickle fetish and the reaction is not as I have expected, I always follow up with, "Hey it could be worse, there are people with scat fetishes." They lighten up and the conversation continues. Sometimes, they are curious about how it works and want to try it out themselves. Moral of the story, if they really like you, they'll be willing to meet you half way.

 

[beerisgood]

I find some of the responses re converting quite interesting. Not sure I'd get much out of tickling/being ticked by someone who wasn't really into it, and was just doing it for me.

I mean, its nice that they'd try it, but I like the idea of a tickle that loves it and hates it in equal amounts.

 

[Sodahead]

If a girl likes me and isn't turned off by me being a loser, then she is a keeper. I couldn't care less if she has a tickle fetish. Besides, I still prefer sex over tickling

 

[Aboundtime]

I still prefer sex over tickling

 

[cjjericho84]

Hi, really interesting post. In my experience tickling must be part of the relationship from the off. You must be open from the begging. If not then you will end up like me 🙁 my girlfriend who I have settled down with is 100% vanilla and her feet aren't even ticklish 🙁 . I love her with all my heart and we have a gorgeous son together and life is great. But you will find yourself urging for some tickling action and you will be on the laptop every night looking at tickling.
🙁

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

I believe that there are some people that are datable outside the fetish for me but I had to admit along time ago that I love to tickle. So she has to love to be tickled and is ticklish. She doesn't have to be as involved in community if she doesn't want but I am sure it will happen anyway if she likes it. But to meet someone already in it of course would be great.

 

[gigglemakr]

The most fun relationships I have had in recent times have been with women who love to be tickled and (in one case anyway) tickle back (which I'm ok with even though I am mostly a ler). Some of these past connections have fizzled for a variety of non-tickle-related reasons, but as I look ahead it seems that I must find a woman with a love (or at least a "like") of tickling or else there will be something very important missing, not to mention a hostility to tickling. I'm pretty up-front now in my profiles on vanilla dating sites, but the responses there are few and far between. I've had more luck on phone lines but the danger there seems to be that you find a lot of "pay to play" girls. I don't pursue those; but I have had the most fun with people I've met by phone, even though it takes quite a bit of time to find them. Strangely enough, TMF has not worked for me except for people I have met at NESTS. So I don't know what the future holds, but I'm hoping to have a lot of fun trying to find out. I'm still optimistic; but any suggestions from TMFrs will be welcomed.

 

[ticklechambers]

partners get turned on when the other person is turned on.

My experience agrees with this 🙂

 

[ticklechambers]

I still prefer sex over tickling

fair enough... personally i dont think i could choose between the two! i think i must have them both!

 

[Mane'o]

All depends how important tickling is on your list of priorities in a relationship, possibly influenced by the sort of relationship you are seeking - long term or short term.
I'd say the chances are good that people on this forum put tickling higher on that priority list than most. However, the higher it is on your relationship priorities, the more your relationship pool of possible people will shrink.

 

[torturoustickle]

It depends on how strong your fetish is. I admit I would find it hard to not have any tickling in a relationship. That's just the way I'm made. It wouldn't have to be the be all and end all, but some tickling fun would be necessary. 🙂

 

[tickmankyle1]

At this point I have absolutely no desire to pursue a relationship with someone who doesn't share an interest in tickling with me. He doesn't necessarily have to be from the forum or even share the fetish initially. But he has to have an interest in kink and be willing to explore tickling with me. And then he's gotta get good at it. Along with everything else that I enjoy.

I figure that I'm in a place in my life where I can afford to be picky. I'm not in any big hurry to rush into the arms of mediocrity.

I have to agree with Skipadeedoodah first for me is honesty cause I find it hard to find that and people want to be with you for lies and the wrong reasons. I don't expect them to be into it 100% but just respect my love of it.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

At this point I have absolutely no desire to pursue a relationship with someone who doesn't share an interest in tickling with me.

This. People insists you shouldn't do this, but fuck 'em. I'm not giving up the tickling, shit's just too great.

 

[porcelaindoll2]

I personally have never went the vanilla route. I knew I was way too kinky for a vanilla and didn't want to deal with the drama of oh my god how/when will I let them in on my secret(Man if we all could have gotten/still get 100 bucks for every time a thread on this subject pops up). Everyone I've dated has been off of here or FetLife. Now most of the people I dated off of Fet(Including my current boyfriend) had lots of fetishes we both shared, but didn't have a tickle fetish or become open minded to it until they dated me and I enlightened them ;-).

 

[ISUmark]

Ive dated plenty of women that arent into tickling. IF they know I like it they usually let me indulge in it. Ive even converted a few into liking it, but not to my extent. One thing I will say though, is that I will not date a woman who isnt ticklish. Its just the way it is. I can deal with ones that dont like being tickled, because usually when they find out its a huge turn on for me, they are willing to let me do it enough, but if they arent ticklish at all, im goin the other way.

 

[tickleshotel]

yes any potential romantic partner must at least enjoy tickling or being tickled or both...I consider myself pretty tolerant but I was in a relationship with someone who at first when we were engaged told me that he doesn;t have a problem or issue with tickling but when the relationship fell apart due to lack of tickling or shared interests,i made a promise to myself not to ever again get involved with someone who doesn't share the love of tickling and being tickled ..