Ticklee1973
TMF Master
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- May 4, 2005
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Sheesh, I didn't even have to read through this whole thing but this struck me. Whether the kid is yours or another man's child, the child(ren) will come first. So unless you are never going to have kids, then I would say deal with the fact that the kids are going to come first and that's the way it should be. If you can't deal with it and you will not be good for the child(ren) then what's the point. I mean I was a single mom for 8 years. Never thought I'd get married or date anyone seriously until they were grown up because to me they come first. In those years I met many men who didn't exactly like that I put my kids first but they respected it. Yes, it's difficult to find a man to come into that kind of situation and make the best of it but they are out there. This is exactly why I never anticipated finding anyone (not to mention three kids are alot to take on). If it's not your thing so be it, don't bother with it but you perhaps may miss out on finding your "soul mate." And in today's world, finding someone that doesn't have a child seems to be hard if you ask me, even in your 20s. But what the hell do I know, lol, I'm just the mother of 4 beautiful kids and a husband who loves all of them (including the 3 stepkids) as his own.
