Dating sites. How to meet women for potential tickling

[Jejxenbdujxdbuehcbejdev]

Hello fellow ticklers!

I'm here to help you with that age old question "How do i meet women, or men, who are into tickling?" Well I can tell yo that I have been very successful in finding many women who are not only curious, but deep into our fetish through online dating sites! You literally have a world of women at your fingertips ( pun intended ) all you have to do is know THE RIGHT WAY to introduce your fetish without it coming on as creepy.

This technique is geared to foot tickling, but if you are into other body parts you may be able to tweek it for your needs.

Here's my step by step formula. Disclaimer! this has worked for me, it may or may not work for you, but nothing ventured nothing gained!

Step 1. Get yourself on a dating site. (Don't do this if you are in a committed relationship with someone who would not understand. this will only lead you down a dark path of arguments and bull shit.)

Step 2. Write a NORMAL profile and put up a NORMAL pic or two of yourself. Under no circumstance are you to mention your fetish. You don't want to automatically alienate any potential tickle partners by coming across as "perverted".

Step 3. Start contacting any potential partners you are interested in! Simple ice breakers like "I love your smile!" or "I see you are into ( insert hobby here ) whats that like?" anything to get your potential interest to write you back.

Step 4. Once the person has written back, keep the conversation light to build trust and confidence. Don't go for the "are you into bondage?" question right away, for obvious reasons.

Step 5. Now that you have established a rapport with this person you can ask several questions to see if they are potentially into your interest of tickling. Consider the persons job, if they are on their feet all day you can open with. " I'm sure after 8 hours in heels you are more than ready for a foot rub" or if they spend most of their day sitting you could say something along the lines of " I practice reflexology, the benefits of a good foot rub are even more evident after a long day of sitting." Questions like this will help establish if they are into having their feet touched. If so, you are half way to your goal!

Step 6. Ask the question! If your potential new friend has responded positively with a yes, i love having my feet touched! then respond with the question. "Are you ticklish?" Don't be embarrassed to ask, this is the only way to know for sure. they will either respond, YES, No, or why do you ask? the first two are definitive and you can carry on the conversation in whichever direction to find out more. The third can simply be answered with "I just want to be cautious, if your feet are too ticklish to rub i don't want to make you uncomfortable." you will then get the yes or no answer, but now you are certain of weather you can proceed!

Step 7. meet and see what happens! If there are sparks and chemistry then the potential for tickling is going to be much stronger. If things fall flat, no worries! you have an ocean of other potentials to choose from. Have fun, stay dillagent and see where it leads!

 

[pimpfoot]

While I agree with most of this .... I personally have had the best luck online being honest and upfront. Obviously wait until the proper moment. But women respond to confidence, and if they like you.....they will be open to your fetish. Its all about how you present it.

 

[chicago]

Yeah way better to be yourself and just let em know up front when appropriate.

 

[sonnymadler]

Yeah way better to be yourself and just let em know up front when appropriate.

That's what I thought too. We were in fact chatting in the room yesterday about online dating, and OKCupid apparently has a pair of tickling-related questions (out of a thousand other random ones), and while you answer that, one suggested adding in your profile that you like tickling. You can of course try it out of course just to see if it would work, but...I can't help but think that it would backfire on a guy's profile as opposed to a woman mentioning it.

 

[moose]

R people still using swipe left app?

 

[chicago]

That's what I thought too. We were in fact chatting in the room yesterday about online dating, and OKCupid apparently has a pair of tickling-related questions (out of a thousand other random ones), and while you answer that, one suggested adding in your profile that you like tickling. You can of course try it out of course just to see if it would work, but...I can't help but think that it would backfire on a guy's profile as opposed to a woman mentioning it.

Forgive me if i find that a bit sexist.

 

[sonnymadler]

Forgive me if i find that a bit sexist.

What I meant was that the creep factor could possibly be higher if a guy mentions on his dating profile that he's into tickling. Or am I overthinking it?

 

[chicago]

What I meant was that the creep factor could possibly be higher if a guy mentions on his dating profile that he's into tickling. Or am I overthinking it?

Well i think youre assuming most women are close minded and judgmental while making me feel like women have it easier, in your mind, based on probably superficial things.

In my opinion, its how you present yourself and approach the subject with someone

 

[sonnymadler]

Well i think youre assuming most women are close minded and judgmental while making me feel like women have it easier, in your mind, based on probably superficial things.

In my opinion, its how you present yourself and approach the subject with someone

Not necessarily in the way you described it there, but just from my personal experience, and from what I've read online, both parties move on to the next profile too quickly after just a few messages, if any at all. Whether or not that's a big city thing due to an overcrowded environment, I've no idea why it's like that. Maybe it's different in less dense areas...idk.

 

[chicago]

So im confused. You said it would backfire on a man but not a woman, now its both parties?

 

[sonnymadler]

Bottom line: you'd have better luck in the real world than online, because you've a better chance of presenting yourself for who you are in the flesh than just a picture and text. That's all I meant really.

 

[chicago]

I can definitely agree with that.

 

[IrvingKrebb]

I think as soon as you start to get even a little intimate you've got to broach the subject, scary as it may seem. In real life or online, once you start with the sexy talk it's time to get things out in the open. You'll never get what you want unless you ask - some of the best advice I've ever received.

 

[Wolf]

I think most women who've done any online dating are going to see through the questions pretty quickly and realize there's an agenda at play. That would apply to any guy who starts peppering them with questions about specific body parts.
Like most have said, it's just a lot easier and productive if you just broach the subject when it's appropriate, rather than all these "clever" schemes people keep dreaming up to talk about what they want without just saying what they want.

 

[ticklish2011]

nice ideas lol

 

[duderino84]

Well, of course I have to weigh in a little....

Step 2. Write a NORMAL profile and put up a NORMAL pic or two of yourself. Under no circumstance are you to mention your fetish. You don't want to automatically alienate any potential tickle partners by coming across as "perverted".

Why not just leave it at "I like making women laugh"? Shit, I never knew a woman who didn't like the idea of being happy. Just be a regular dude.

Step 3. Start contacting any potential partners you are interested in! Simple ice breakers like "I love your smile!" or "I see you are into ( insert hobby here ) whats that like?" anything to get your potential interest to write you back.

I usually go with asking about their occupation. Simple, efficient, conversation starter. Asking what a person does earns some points, especially if you get them to open up about why they do it. Books, movies, music, you know, the whole shebang. I thought I'd have something in common with a woman who makes guitars. She wasn't interested in talking however; 3 or 4 word replies repeatedly indicate you're not worth the time to them.

Step 5. Now that you have established a rapport with this person you can ask several questions to see if they are potentially into your interest of tickling. Consider the persons job, if they are on their feet all day you can open with. " I'm sure after 8 hours in heels you are more than ready for a foot rub" or if they spend most of their day sitting you could say something along the lines of " I practice reflexology, the benefits of a good foot rub are even more evident after a long day of sitting." Questions like this will help establish if they are into having their feet touched. If so, you are half way to your goal!

Step 6. Ask the question! If your potential new friend has responded positively with a yes, i love having my feet touched! then respond with the question. "Are you ticklish?" Don't be embarrassed to ask, this is the only way to know for sure. they will either respond, YES, No, or why do you ask? the first two are definitive and you can carry on the conversation in whichever direction to find out more. The third can simply be answered with "I just want to be cautious, if your feet are too ticklish to rub i don't want to make you uncomfortable." you will then get the yes or no answer, but now you are certain of weather you can proceed!

Let THEM discuss footrubs. I know a woman right now who has openly told me "I need a foot rub". I told her "you know what's generally included in a foot rub coming from me?" and she's cool with it. Schedules haven't convened yet, but when they do, we'll find out. If you're going to discuss tickling, make it sound like it'll be a regular part of relating, not some request or a deal; you're compromising your own opportunities by letting someone else make the decision.

And for once I'll agree with Wolf. It's clear what you're there for, being you joined the site. Cut the shit, let things happen, maybe you'll enjoy yourself.

 

[pshort20]

Yeah interesting thread and responses. I personally have had great luck on OKCupid. Infact, I'm talking with a girl as we speak who just revealed she's super ticklish but its "awful and fun" I'm asking her some follow up questions now. My approach is usually to bring it up eventually in as normal a way as possible. Just the natural flow of an ongoing convo. It seems to always work very well. Whether she ends up being ticklish or not

 

[Rt72]

The craft of the master is not imposing dominance... but winning submission!... I love it

 

[ISUmark]

Yeah interesting thread and responses. I personally have had great luck on OKCupid. Infact, I'm talking with a girl as we speak who just revealed she's super ticklish but its "awful and fun" I'm asking her some follow up questions now. My approach is usually to bring it up eventually in as normal a way as possible. Just the natural flow of an ongoing convo. It seems to always work very well. Whether she ends up being ticklish or not

Natural flow of conversation is the sweet spot that a lot of people look for but not a lot find. It seems in the grand scheme of things...after a courting period and getting to know each other that saying something like"yea I kinda like to tickle" fits a lot better in the flow of most conversations as "I practice reflexology." For us its about finding out the information we need without being fuckin weird about it.
1. Is she ticklish and where
2. Does she hate to be tickled and if not can she at least TOLERATE a little tickling.

Its not hard to figure this out through regular conversation. Its just that WE as a community tend to put such a larger emphasis on this information that it feels like Mission Impossible to find out when in actuality regular conversation and being a human can accomplish this knowledge easily.

 

[Wolf]

Natural flow of conversation is the sweet spot that a lot of people look for but not a lot find. It seems in the grand scheme of things...after a courting period and getting to know each other that saying something like"yea I kinda like to tickle" fits a lot better in the flow of most conversations as "I practice reflexology." For us its about finding out the information we need without being fuckin weird about it.
1. Is she ticklish and where
2. Does she hate to be tickled and if not can she at least TOLERATE a little tickling.

Its not hard to figure this out through regular conversation. Its just that WE as a community tend to put such a larger emphasis on this information that it feels like Mission Impossible to find out when in actuality regular conversation and being a human can accomplish this knowledge easily.

Exactly!

It's being all bound up about it that makes people go through all the ridiculous cloak-and-dagger BS.
Most "vanillas" are a hell of a lot more open about it (and harmless fetishes in general) if people would bother to ask.

 

[IrvingKrebb]

being a human

This just about says it all.

 

[Alliekat]

My advice, for what it is worth would be to meet a woman you like and get to know her. Once you fell comfortable and equally important, she feels comfortable with you, then try to introduce tickling and/or other kinks into your sex life. Most successful relationships are far more dynamic than having a fetish in common.

If meeting someone for the sake of tickling them is your only goal, my guess is both you and them will feel let down in the end.

 

[IrvingKrebb]

My advice, for what it is worth would be to meet a woman you like and get to know her.\

Yup. So, so far we've got: Be a human being. Meet a woman you like and get to know her.

 

[Mitchell]

I agree with Irving.

I think for both sexes, both male and female, whether, ticklers, or ticklee.

One should meet someone first, and get to know them at least somewhat, maybe where there's been some intimacy, say, physical activity, even if just.. kissing.. or a bit more.. before the subject is mentioned.

Depending on the person.. some people could be put off. if someone says.

Are you ticklish? Or. "I like to tickle, be tickled.. or play with feet".

Some people might just be like.

"WTF"?

I've had women ask me very personal, even sexual, questions , far more personal, then tickling, or feet, in real life, and get.. snippy, or be like.

"Why are you talking about this".

When I've talked about tickling, playing with feet, etc etc.

I'm by no means saying that I think ALL people are like this.

I will say, that, if there has been any form of physical activity, the subject comes up, and the person is completely closed minded.. more so than.

"Let's get to know each other better before we tickle one another, or before you play with my feet".

And she were to say.

"I would hate it if you tickled me, or played with my feet".

That woman would not be the right fit for me as a partner, either short term, or long term.

Maybe this is just me, but this is how I see it.