death of a friend, here we go again....

[steph]

(Sighs) So I just found out one of the gals I work with died last night of a heart attack~I'd guess her to be around 32 maybe? It's especially sad as she leaves behind a new baby (her first!)

I'm sharing not for sympathy (her family's going to need that) but as a friendly reminder. With all the chaos juggling work, family life, etc., it's easy to take the people around us for granted I think. Don't forget to take a moment and let them know that you care...Because as one of my friends always says, "Ya just never know..."

Love to all,
Me

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Been through this. It's the finality of it all...the person's gone, you're never gonna see him/her again.

32's too young...

 

[steph]

Ya, I agree hon. The place is like a morgue around here~everyone's red eyed and pink nosed and hugging each other. I was actually relieved to get to leave to do rounds this morning. All the drama at the hospital was a nice distraction from being sad.

XOXO

 

[featherfingers]

Sometimes you wonder why life ends so soon for one person yet someone else can live to be 100. With what we know about death... the fact that it is the one thing we all have in common, sooner or later, you'd think there would be more love in the world. One thing I do know; whether you're rich or poor, black or white, gay or straight, Democrat or Republican, death will come a knockin' at your door.
Sorry about your co-worker's death, Steph.
I don't want to sound morbid but since we are on the topic, if one of us TMF'ers passes away, how will the rest of us find out about it. I mean, if we only know each other through the Internet, then what? I'd hate to find out one of my TMF friends died. Should we just assume the worst if they haven't logged on in six months?

 

[shdwcoder]

Steph,
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sometimes you never know who's going to touch you in a place you didn't know you could be touched. A good reminder to make sure those who are important to us know they are, every day. Keep your chin up.
Karen

 

[naveltkltr1350]

One thing I do know; whether you're rich or poor, black or white, gay or straight, Democrat or Republican, death will come a knockin' at your door.

well said Frankie. I got friends in all those categories.

 

[giantfan121262]

Steph:

I'm so sorry to hear about you loss. When things like this happen it really puts it into prespective. Appreciate the people you encounter in your life because you never know what is going to happen. Treat them as if this will be their last day on Earth, because, like you said, you never know.

My deepest condolences again

 

[ticklkitten]

Oh babe....

(big hug to all my buddies) a reminder to let the ones I love know how I feel... thank you guys for being so wonderful!

 

[SmileyTkls]

Steph, I can sympathize with your situation somewhat, as my paternal grandmother died on Monday, 3 days after a stroke on Thursday. While she lived a good long life to 96, she will still be missed. Both she and your co-worker are good examples of why we who remain should live our lives as if we weren't far behind them. 😉

Smiley

 

[TickledToDeath]

32!!!!!!!!!!?????????

😱 My sincerest condolences to you and her family!
Amazing that age takes no part in when your number comes up to exit this existance.

What you said about taking the time to tell someone you care, cause you just never know are words of wisdom and should be taken seriously.

Woulda shoulda coulda is NOT something one should have to live with regretting that one should have could have or would have if only... is an inner torment that lingers for a lifetime and could definitely be avoided quite simply.

TTD

 

[steph]

Thanx so much friends~Y'all do make me smile

Here's the 411 as I know it: LaTanya's mom died when she was just a kid (presumably of a heart disorder) She herself was in good health but did test positive for possessing the gene that might predict the same thing (her baby has had multiple heart problems since birth.) I'm kind of in the anger stage of grieving right now. Hopefully by the time her baby grows up, they'll have better technology...

Her husband is high school sweetheart and reportedly a fantastic guy, as is his mom, who LaTanya felt very much was a great substitute for her own. Her best friend is in the cubby next to mine, and although LaTanya and I were frequent lunch mates, this is much harder on everyone else, I'm trying to stay strong for their sake, they need it.

Bless you all for being so amazing!

XOXO

 

[Coffee]

Steph,

I am sorry for your loss. If you want to talk let me know.

Coffee

 

[crydun]

my condolences Steph. After almost losing my dad on Friday, I can sympathize with your situation. If you need me, I'm here.

 

[BigMan]

Here is a little quote that I like to refer in these instances.

"I am not dying, not anymore than any of us are at the moment. We run, hopefully as fast as we can, and then everyone must stop. We can only choose how we handle the race"

 

[kis123]

This is a toughfie.....

It's hard to adjust to a loss of someone so young and with someone with so much to live for. We have no idea what God's plans are and why things are the way they end up. I stopped blaming God for my problems after my stephfather died two years ago. Sometimes things are just the way they are, nothing more, nothing less. My heart extends to the family and I hope all works out.

The woman who baby-sat my kids just had a hysterectomy at 75 years old. It wasn't pretty, but she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer and the surgery alleges that she is cancer free post surgery. I hope she's okay because my daughter is devastated by the news. She's barely functional. I know she'll be okay, but my kid isn't convinced.

Sometimes, there's no health issues or problems at all until the woman has a baby. Then all of the dirty health issues come out. I know, because that's when I got diagnosed with chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia with my second birth. And that took a lot of research on my part to get that done. My condolences to the family.

Let me know if there's something I can do to help.

 

[steph]

Thank you all for being such thoughtful sweethearts.

I'm doing a little better today, the big financial Kahuna had a grief session to anyone in the building who wanted to attend~I didn't because I thought too much examination might make me feel worse but I'm glad they offered it. LaTanya's best friend is still out, she's taking it really hard (understandable.) We're blessed enough to be a pretty tight bunch~a lot of us are friends outside the workplace too so there's lots of support.

It was a beautiful rainy day here today and I tried to lighten the mood by wearing pearls with combat boots and giving lots of hugs.

Thanks so much everyone~I love you all!
XOXO