deleting

[Ler&Lish]

really excited when i finally joined this

but it just hasn't worked
nobody to talk to dont feel a part of it, deleting my account

felt alone with my fetish before but now i feel more alone with it because i know there are others out there but i just dont connect

not gonna find somebody
not even a friend
no point

i say this because if others are already feeling bad, i want to let them know this can make them feel worse

 

[TheGerbilSystem]

Hey man not to make things worse but I'm pretty sure it's like impossible to delete your account here. Sorry.

 

[Mrcool]

Yeah id say, if you truly want to leave just well leave, accounts can't be deleted

 

[Sensualswitch10]

I would suggest giving it more time. You've only been a member for one month, and a quick look at your profile shows you have 12 TMF friends. Make sincere posts and just be patient. It's your choice if you want to leave the forum, but as others have said, the moderators won't delete accounts. I've seen similar threads to this one where TMF Jeff himself has chimed in and said he doesn't delete accounts. Good luck to you either way.

 

[rdhd]

Then again, you've only been for about a month - it takes time to develop relations with others. On TMF especially. If you meet someone in real life one day, and don't suddenly have a deep relationship, do you blow that person off? Hell, some of us have been here for years, and don't have any "deep friendships" or whatever, but we still show up, see what's happening, maybe touch base with someone. Gosh, some things take time!

 

[Mrcool]

I just realized somethimg, if this is about me stopping my responses to your thread, that has little to do with you, I didn't like you trying to get me to continue that little conversation, it was fun at first but it got old fast

 

[sadi]

I hope for the BEST for you Ler&Lish, and that you do find fellow like-minded people, regardless the medium (only in real-life; on here; on another internet website; something else I can't think of at the moment 😛 ).
Nothing worth having is gotten with no effort. Or... something like that, but it's those things that are worth it that tend to require more time in order to obtain. I'd say to keep trying, as it's only been a couple months. In a school/job/club, or any 'other' place in real-life, do you expect to make such hardy, long-lasting friendships so easily, so quickly? Strength takes time to lay a solid foundation with which to build on.

I'd say keep trying, but all the BEST, no matter your choice! I hope you feel better about your inclinations, soon! 😉

 

[FeatherEndeavor]

Nothing worth having is gotten with no effort.

Exactly. Anything worth while is gonna take time. You should do what works for you but I'd say just wait a little longer and see how it goes.

 

[FoePaw]

I feel where the OP is coming from. He's made a decision that this isn't the place for him, and one could argue, as with all new endeavors, that perhaps more time is needed to really know for sure. But maybe he already knows all he needs to to make the right decision for him. Or maybe he's just fishing for sympathy. Who knows what's going on from just one post.

I will say that I remember how I felt when I first searched tickling online... I was relieved to find I wasn't alone with this kink/fetish/quirk/whatever. But I have ALWAYS felt like an odd duck around here. I don't want to step on any toes... everyone likes what they like and that's (mostly) fine... but I'm WAY more conservative than so many here. I thought surely with a community this big, I'd find more common ground. Maybe the common ground is there, but it's just too hard to find through this means. For me, it HAS been disappointing to not find the connection I'd like among the very people I had high hopes of finding it with all those years ago. I HAVE given it time... more than plenty... and come up mostly empty-handed. There's been some good moments mixed in there, but they've always been short-lived and not taken hold. That's the nature of trying to connect online though. We don't really care about each other. But I don't think this medium lends itself to that anyway. Yes, some of you have made worthwhile friendships here, but that is the exception. I don't know what the right combination is of temperament, personality, humor, writing ability, etc. to make a connection here. But I don't have it. And maybe the OP doesn't have it either. Maybe just like the things you have to know to be successful at a chosen career, there are specific things you have to be good at in order to succeed at connecting with people online. Seems reasonable to me. All we have are the words you typed. That's it. No inflection, no pacing, no funny voice when it's supposed to be funny, no facial expression to help convey meaning and intent. Just the words, and how WE read and interpret them. SO much room for potential misinterpretation and confusion.

So... frustration by the OP is understandable. I've felt it for years. But there's obviously something I get from continuing to come here. Perhaps I have a hard time letting go of the hope that maybe one day the connection I'm looking for will happen. And 'connection' is different for everyone. What we're looking for here is very specific to us, and where we're at in life, and who else we perhaps already have in life with us. And getting all those pieces and parts and nuances to work together for the outcome we're hoping for is a tall order.

If it seems like it, I didn't mean to hijack the thread and make it about me. I just can appreciate where the OP is possibly coming from, and thought maybe hearing from someone else who has felt similarly might help in some way.

 

[Rickytickly]

I think it takes time, that's for sure, and much of it is luck; being in the RIGHT place, at the RIGHT time. Maybe it's not for me to say, because even though I've been on and off this site for a while and haven't posted much, until now, or been going into the chat room, until now, you gotta let everyone get to know you, I think. I've been on other sites too, and especially with something like THIS, there are reasons people are going to be wary and cautious. But take some time, develop trust. I don't think you have to be particularly charismatic. Just be yourself. But give it time and let everyone know who you are, I think.

I was told by a few that the Fetlife site was my best bet to make the connection I want. Possibly. But then that would be INSTANT, similar to a DATING site, which I don't find this to be, not really. I think this is more like a community of friends with the same interests. You could still find something instant here if you're lucky. But personally, I'd sooner get to try know people as friends, get my feet wet and all that, no pun intended. I was on a dating site before, and all they do is just look at your pic, pop in and ask; "What is your profession???" Blah. Phooey! I can't be bothered with all that. Here you can just relax and post about...ummm....feet. Or, silly stuff. Like....tootsie rolls. Or....weird fetishes, CANDY fetishes, yeah, THAT'S IT! Like being wrapped up in cotton candy and tickled to death by a dominatrix while she makes you sniff her stilettos she's been walkin' 'round in all day.

I rest my case, briefly....

 

[duderino84]

really excited when i finally joined this

but it just hasn't worked
nobody to talk to dont feel a part of it, deleting my account

felt alone with my fetish before but now i feel more alone with it because i know there are others out there but i just dont connect

not gonna find somebody
not even a friend
no point

i say this because if others are already feeling bad, i want to let them know this can make them feel worse

I know how it feels. it happens and unfortunately things don't pan out. I even went with a member from here to university (think she's married now); personalities clash.

don't let it get to you, celebrate the common ground and forget about the issues. hey, people haven't totally burned the bridge with me and I've reached 22 page debate threads with members.

find people you get along with. then see if they're down with tickling. it works, with occasional success.

with growth struggle will occur. keep it in mind.