DILEMA! Would you date somebody who is not ticklish?

[nice.1]

I ask this question because I'm starting to have feelings for a girl but she is barley ticklish and I dunno if I could have a girlfriend who's not ticklish. However there is a good side of it we are extremely close and she knows about my tickle/foot fetish and we openly talk about my foot fetish. She also had very pretty feet and they're slightly ticklish maybe 4 out of 10. The good thing about her feet not being ticklish is that she allows me to play with her feet. So I just want to know peoples opinion what they would do in my situation!?!?!

 

[DharmaMember77]

If she is cool with discussing about your foot fetish and letting you indulge in it than I say go for it. Getting to satisfy your foot fetish and not your tickle fetish is better than nothing at all.

 

[Desparting297]

Although we all like to have our desires satisfied so the first thing we think to ourselves is oh shit I need someone ticklish otherwise my life is not complete. Not necessarily true. Sometimes the bond you have with that person in a relationship becomes more important and you concentrate on the life you have together. I was in a relationship in the past where I eventually told my then partner about my tickle interest and although he didn't exactly like it, it didn't change how I felt about him. Being with him was more important to me than anything else so in the end it doesn't really have to be a total loss if you end up with someone who's not that ticklish like you want. But you've got that opportunity to be able to fullfill atleast one fetish of yours that's important to you so concentrate on what you have.

 

[Deleted member 2452]

oh hell no!

steve

 

[milagros317]

Yes, as long as she would be willing to tickle me. 😀

 

[maniactickler]

If shes hot, maybe short term dating, but dont get serious with a non ticklish woman. youll regret it!

 

[marcusb]

I tried doing it. Epic fail. I've come to the conclusion that someone I date has to be ticklish... or it simply does not work.

 

[big bill 77]

I have been in a similar situation she would let me do whatever else I wanted to do involving one fetish but she only had two ticklish spots and she hated being tickled so we agreed no tickling and still had a great relationship. We did eventually breakup but it had nothing to do with tickling. I would go for it just go slow so that if it is not working you can stay friends

 

[ArchNemesis]

You're a guy. Make Mr. Wiggly happy first, everything ele will take care of itself.

 

[FeatherEndeavor]

It depends on how strong your tickle fetish is. Can your desire for her overcome your desire for tickling? Can your connection with her be stronger than what I'm assuming is a big part of your life since you're on this forum. Me personally I'd have to be with a woman that is ticklish and likes to be tickled. And I think you have similar feelings or you wouldn't have started this thread. I couldn't do it but you might be stronger than I am as far as that goes. So ask yourself is she an important enough part of your life to give up another important part.

 

[nice.1]

Thankyou for everybodies feed back! And I'm starting to think that I wouldn't be able to do it in the long term sense. After a while I would just get frustrated that I wouldn't be able to satisfy my tickle fetishwith my own girlfriend and would eventually go out and find somebody else to satisfy it. Even if it is just tickling another person it could still lead to something else. And even though she indulges me with my foot fetish my tickle fetish definitely out weighs it and no matter how nice her feet are they will never become more ticklish.

Does anybody else have an opinion on the matter? Please I would like to hear it!

 

[me4o]

Well, if your fetish is stronger than your feelings for her, obviously it won't work out well. But then again, you have to decide if you'd like to spend time with someone you really like and is a nice person, or you just need to satisfy your tickling needs. I personally wouldn't have a problem dating a girl who isn't all that ticklish if she makes me feel happy and complete as a person. Good luck pal, hope you make a wise decision you wouldn't later regret 🙂

 

[Captain Satan]

Well, if your fetish is stronger than your feelings for her, obviously it won't work out well. But then again, you have to decide if you'd like to spend time with someone you really like and is a nice person, or you just need to satisfy your tickling needs. I personally wouldn't have a problem dating a girl who isn't all that ticklish if she makes me feel happy and complete as a person. Good luck pal, hope you make a wise decision you wouldn't later regret 🙂

^^ This, agreed. Sure our fetish is important to us all and whatnot. But if you find the right person, the fetish becomes obsolete and you just want to please them any way you can and be with them.

 

[evilwomanhehe]

I pondered this myself--and thought, no, I can't do it. But, then again, I haven't had a relationship in quite a long time. If the opportunity arises--my initial thought will probably stay.

Just remember--there is always that "one" spot 🙂

 

[jhop220]

Don't allow your fetish to control your overall feelings towards a person. Not being ticklish shouldn't be a reason to not be in a relationship with someone. If you feel strongly towards the person then you can make things work out.

The thing I have found out with non ticklish women is that those soft strokes across their feet, stomach, breasts, arms, legs, ect...tend to be highly erotic and can enhance sex to a good degree.

Not saying sex should drive your direction in a relationship, but the ticklish factor is a sexual factor for you. Sure, you maybe frustrated by not getting the reaction but if you truly have feelings for her then you will adapt properly.

You cannot allow the fetish to control your relationships. Sometimes life makes you adapt and if that is what you must do then do it.

 

[rhiannon]

Does anybody else have an opinion on the matter?

My opinion: sex isn't everything. In every long-term relationship I ever heard about, after a while sex becomes less and less important. Other things take over, that you get along well, that you have a connection, that you can laugh together and trust each other.

Plus, you have absolutely no guarantee that you will ever find someone who lets you indulge in your tickling fetish. I know more than enough people who never found someone. Do you love her? Are you able to have satisfying sex with her despite the tickling? Then go for it. If you don't love her, then don't, but don't make the decision about one facette of your sexuality. It shouldn't be.

Imagine yourself old and grey with arthritis in your hands, unable to even DO tickling. Can you picture her by your side? If so, go for it. If not, don't.

 

[mabus]

Let's look at this from the mathematical perspective, how I many times look at life:

-How pretty is she compared to others girls, other grils in your life, and how attractive is she to you?

-How pretty are her feet compared to other girls?

-How accepting are the girls in your life to your foot fetish AND tickle fetish, and they not only let you indulge, but can talk to you about it?

-How ticklish are the other girls in your life, and how pretty are their laughs? (they may be ticklish, but scream like a banshee, and you may like to hear a real laugh, for example.)

-How handsome are YOU, and do other girls want you, are there other options out there for you?

How is she on other things in life?

I saved the most important question for last. But the others are there to put all this in perspective.

Basically, you may be in a "the grass is always greener" mode, and will look back and spend your whole life kicking yourself for giving her up over something that may seem small looking back.

Ou may end up wih someone who is wonderfully ticklish, but is such a mean bitch, looks down on you, etc. etc. you may NOT WANT to ever tickle her, because you're to busy being pissed off.

You may find someone who IS ticklish, but never LETS you tickle her.

As someone who went through a bitter divorce, and regretting never being loved in life, there is SO much more to any long term healthy relationship than one sexual interest.
Yes, it's DAMN important, and if the other things suit you and complete you, trust me, the tickling will be even better, but if you end up with someone later who judges you negatively because you have a fetish, as many guys and girls here have the unfortune of happening to them, life will truly suck. If you have someone who doesn't respect you, dosn't like your family, your friends, is controlling, etc. etc.

So before you show her the door, really evaluate your life and see if you're not making one massive mistake.

And to those whom said he SHOULDN'T date her, elaborate - how so? What are your experiences, was it she just wasn't ticklish, or where there other issues that melded with that one?

 

[stockytickler]

She sounds amazing. In fact, from the sounds of her, she might enjoy helping you tickle a ticklish woman's feet for fun, and then taking you home for intimacy. rowr.

 

[Leo tickles]

In the past, I'd say a relationship is more important. But think about it for a second. You CHOOSE who you are with for specific reasons.

Nobody is going to be perfect, but if tickling is something major to you, no matter how good your relationship could be, something will always be missing.

That in mind, it's not an easy choice to make. Shallow one way, unhappy the other. Me personally? I'd probably find a way around it, or try to, but if nothing worked out I'd cut ties. I wouldn't choose a partner that doesn't fulfill something that important to me.

 

[Destro]

I dated a woman for quite a while who was not ticklish at all. She was very attractive. She used to be a foot model, so she had exceptionally beautiful size 7 feet. She loved being tied up. She loved having her feet played with, kissed, etc, etc. whatever you wanted to do. Yet, there was always a sense of unfullfilment every time because of her lack of ticklishness. We eventually broke up but it had nothing to do with the tickling issue. I stayed with her for as long as I did because of other qualities. You must determine just how strong your tickle fetish is. If it is really strong, you will find that you will never be totally satisfied no matter what she lets you do. And once you become committed to her, how do you satisfy the fetish? If you seek to satisfy it somewhere else it will lead to problems and that really wouldn't be fair to her.

 

[Kittycupcake]

I would, but then again tickling is a relatively new thing to me...Although. I know if I was somehow unable to full-fill my partners tickling desires, I'd want him to be happy and satisfied and find a tickle-buddy to deal with that side of things with. I wouldn't be happy with him doing anything sexual but if it was just limited to tickling and he was really missing out, I'd be happy for him to get it out his system, as it where, every once in a while. Plus if I couldn't be a lee, I'd help him find someone who could and help him tickle them silly!
Like some of the others have said, if it's that important to your partner and you love them, you find a way around it that both of you are happy with.

 

[Emishticklish]

Excuse me for maybe sounding shallow, but absolutely not. There are hundreds of thousands of beautiful women in the world why should I settle for the one who isn't ticklish?? I've been down that road and the sex Life was terrible.

 

[Dino Turtelli]

Its not a major priority that she be ticklish, but it would be nice. My last girlfriend Jenn was extremley ticklish, but my 2 girlfriends before that were not & it was frustrating, becuz then I couldn't "punish" them LOL like I said its not a priority, but it would be nice.