Do Any Non Switch Lers Receive Aftercare?

[Soles_Scream]

I’m interested to know if any of the Lers that don’t switch here receive aftercare and would like to know what that looks like?

I see aftercare as an intentional act that someone does for the other, so perhaps my definition is off. Feel free to correct me there as well.

 

[natscott6282]

why would we need after care ?

 

[duderino84]

why would we need after care ?

Well, I might be rather turned on after a session, and maybe it would finish smoothly if someone aftercared that. ... 😁

 

[Morning Scifi]

Well, I might be rather turned on after a session, and maybe it would finish smoothly if someone aftercared that. ... 😁

I've never heard it been used in that context, but that is a great euphemism. 😀

 

[peach-girl]

I think aftercare for both lees and lers is really important. Regardless of whether or not you're the one being tickled, sessions can still be physically or emotionally exhausting. I always enjoy a nice cuddle after a session just to come down from the endorphins 🙂

 

[aberdeen]

why would we need after care ?

That's a really good question! There are some LERS that get so into the intensity of the tickling session that they encounter the same mood swings of their LEE....

All LEEs need some degree of calming and comforting after an intense session....To help them come down from the tickling highs of the adrenaline rush and to reinforce calmness and a feeling of safety as they enjoy the endorphin 'bath' that happens after an intense session...
Some quiet time is appropriate...(physically, so they know it's over and can refocus on coming back down from the super intense experience)....Giving water and maybe light snacks is also welcomed by many.

LERS are probably not in need of the same degree of aftercare, but some do need time afterwards to calm themselves after an intense session...
Like all of our discussions about the psychology of tickling...It's an individual characteristic and depends on how we are each 'wired'.....No right or wrong...Just depends on the person and the situation and how your mind and brain perceive and process the session you've just finished.

 

[aberdeen]

I think aftercare for both lees and lers is really important. Regardless of whether or not you're the one being tickled, sessions can still be physically or emotionally exhausting. I always enjoy a nice cuddle after a session just to come down from the endorphins 🙂

Great comments!

 

[duderino84]

I've never heard it been used in that context, but that is a great euphemism. 😀

What can I say, it sounds so brash if I'm direct about what I want 😅.

 

[duderino84]

I think aftercare for both lees and lers is really important. Regardless of whether or not you're the one being tickled, sessions can still be physically or emotionally exhausting. I always enjoy a nice cuddle after a session just to come down from the endorphins 🙂

I never got that entire concept of "snuggling". Like maybe it's me, but I had a partner who preferred to like lay on top of someone for a "snuggle"... meanwhile I get "trapped dog" feelings like I was being smothered.

Lying next to a partner, however, is a whole different option.

 

[peach-girl]

I never got that entire concept of "snuggling". Like maybe it's me, but I had a partner who preferred to like lay on top of someone for a "snuggle"... meanwhile I get "trapped dog" feelings like I was being smothered.

Lying next to a partner, however, is a whole different option.

Different strokes for different folks 🙂

 

[Soles_Scream]

I don't consider it aftercare per say, but I do hope a clear indication that the lee had a positive experience after we separate or the following day.

 

[sammyanderton]

I personally love aftercare. Holding the person you have just tickled into a sweaty mess in your arms, cuddling, kissing, gently removing hair stuck on her sweaty face as you are comforting and making sure she is alright is amazing. Do that everytime with my Lee and for us it brings us closer and gives a deeper connection.

 

[yinzer]

The idea of aftercare is completely new to me, both for lee and ler. I can't say I've ever thought of it. I did have a great experience at Donatella Den with a mistress who is no longer there. She suggested we lay together, basically side by side with with legs wrapped together, after I'd tickled her feet in the stocks. It never really got that intense, and I continued to tease her a little with gentle tickling while we lay together, but we mostly just relaxed and talked that way at the end and it was really nice. As far as I know she wasn't particularly into tickling, as a ler or lee, and I don't know if she suggested this as a kind of after care or what the reason was, but I thought it was a great idea.

 

[sman9000]

Well, I might be rather turned on after a session, and maybe it would finish smoothly if someone aftercared that. ... 😁

Lol @duderino84 !

 

[tickle_prince]

I feel whatever role your in, its an important factor for after the secession

Aftercare just helps with reflecting and just calming my adrenaline down, I just need that time to process and settle myself down. Especially when in the tickler mood, it doesn’t have to be much, I find myself just having a cup of tea after, to just sit with the person who I have just tickled, and chat and reflect or help with their aftercare is process enough for me. But I do think even in the role of tickler it’s Important to just give yourself a bit of after care, doesn’t hurt anyway 😁

 

[SirTristran]

I always provide aftercare for my lees if that's what they like. I consider myself one very snuggly individual and a good hugger. Hairstrokes, foot rubs, hugs. Whatever they prefer.

 

[tickle_prince]

I always provide aftercare for my lees if that's what they like. I consider myself one very snuggly individual and a good hugger. Hairstrokes, foot rubs, hugs. Whatever they prefer.

It’s amazing how many people under estimate the power of a good hug, the positive vibes it can have on a person, truly underestimated,

 

[theteam]

In general my focus after a session is the aftercare of the lee/lees. So normally I just carry on and make sure that they are well taken care of, within their needs at that time. That being said, those that enjoy cuddles, snacks or meals after, I've partaken in those as aftercare too. For me, eating after a session is important as I start to feel some drop otherwise. Not usually straight away, but a few hours later I'll feel the effects.

If it's been an intense session, group session where there's multiple scenes/lees, I'll feel the effect of drop sooner. So make sure I have a snack on standby if I can't eat something more. Same as at an event, whether tickle event or general kink event, sometimes I'm sessioning multiple times, doing demos, doing group play and can't just sit down and eat a full meal afterwards. So usually a snack I've brought with me for myself and the people I've sessioned with, usually helps until the event is over and I can go get food. For some reason fast food always tastes so much better after a session 🤣

At times I've been offered a massage afterwards and that's been nice. That certainly helps a lot as well 🤔☺️ Always nice when I've been offered aftercare. Not something that happens, but lovely when it is. Otherwise I just take care of myself 😊

 

[Soles_Scream]

why would we need after care ?

I don't think I need it personally. However, it was something I read elsewhere so that was what prompted the question. I will say that I do look for an indication that the person in the lee position didn't regret the experience. If I don't get a clear to me indication of zero regret, then it f***s with my head. Having said that, if they do have regrets, I'd like to know that too so I can do my best to make amends. The latter hasn't been an issue that I'm aware of, hopefully it never has been regardless of me being privy.