Do Men like a "Take Charge" kinda girl?

[Tamia78]

What do you guys think?

I know plenty of guys who like a girl, but are too shy to ask her out. What would you do if SHE asked you out? Is it a turnon? Or do you dismiss her as "too dominant" ?

Personally, I don't see a problem with women asking a guy out. To me, it means she knows what she wants.

--T

 

[isabeau]

i see nothing wrong with a girl being the one to ask a guy out..some guys like that..

 

[Tamia78]

Yeah, but when I suggest that to my male friends, they're like, "Oh no, I wouldn't go out with her if she asked me out." I'm like, what's the difference?

 

[BikerBadBoy]

Take charge girl

Personally I don't like when a girl asks me out. I am a very dominant male and prefer the "chase". I love approaching a beautiful women having always to think of something charming to say, be funny, make her laugh (without tickling her of course) and get her to like me. The chase and ability to charm a women keeps us men sharp and hungry. I prefer my women to be more on the submissive side. When a woman asks me out I say to myself 'I wonder how many other men she asks out?'

 

[natural tickler]

Actually I like that, because that tells me she knows what she wants. I like a woman with initiative, ambition

good question Tamia

 

[BikerBadBoy]

Girl with ambition?

To each his own. I have enough confidence in myself to ask any woman out that interests me. Some say yes, some say no. However, I stick to my point that if a girl asks a guy out it makes him think how many other men she asked out. Again, men are predominantly the hunters.

 

[milagros317]

Speaking for myself, I love take-charge kind of women. Like Mistress Zara, for example. 😀

 

[isabeau]

Personally I don't like when a girl asks me out. I am a very dominant male and prefer the "chase". I love approaching a beautiful women having always to think of something charming to say, be funny, make her laugh (without tickling her of course) and get her to like me. The chase and ability to charm a women keeps us men sharp and hungry. I prefer my women to be more on the submissive side. When a woman asks me out I say to myself 'I wonder how many other men she asks out?'

well some will agree with you and some won't..it's all a matter of taste..but i must say, for me personally, i do like that answer..but thats just my preference....i still see nothing wrong with the female asking the male out..i mean some guys are shy, or maybe hesitant about asking a female out, thinking they might get rejected..

 

[BikerBadBoy]

Women taking charge

I believe deep down, most women prefer a confident take charge MALE.

 

[Tamia78]

To each his own. I have enough confidence in myself to ask any woman out that interests me. Some say yes, some say no. However, I stick to my point that if a girl asks a guy out it makes him think how many other men she asked out. Again, men are predominantly the hunters.

True, men are more dominant most of the time. But I'm talking about the shy ones who always miss the opportunity to ask the woman of their dreams out becuase he's too shy. Is it just his loss? If the woman knows that he likes her, I guess I don't see the problem in her asking him out. Don't get me wrong, I definitely like being the hunted, it's great when guys do the asking. I feel sorry for all those shy guys out there, tho.

 

[isabeau]

I believe deep down, most women prefer a confident take charge MALE.

i know i do...

 

[BikerBadBoy]

Shy guys

I don't feel sorry for the shy guys at all. I mean, have some (you know what) and ask a girl out if you like her. That's my opinion. If it's that important to a man he will risk embarassment his pride, whatever, and ask her out. A beautiful woman deserves to be hunted, gone after, treated like precious treasure. Treasure doesn't seem so special when it falls on your doorstep.

 

[DannyMc]

I ask women out and they ask me out , no difference to me at all . There's no dominance issue to it and no loss of confidence . I figure if we get together that's all that counts

 

[BellaRisa]

When a woman asks me out I say to myself 'I wonder how many other men she asks out?'

Um, not to be a pain, but may I ask what difference that makes? Why would it matter that you weren't the only one she'd ever asked out?

I asked a few guys out in college. To be very blunt, it was because I knew they liked me but they didn't think I would find them attractive (I'm brown and they weren't so they just assumed I'd say no ) It always went well, because after the initial asking-out I let them take over the whole chase/pursuit courting dealie, which is indeed more natural for me

Bella

 

[BikerBadBoy]

Girls doing the asking

Guess I'm beating a dead horse but all I'm saying is women are special to me. I like hunting and I think they "deserve" to be hunted. A woman loves a take charge kind of gut. A guy, who approaches her with confidence, charm, sweeps her off her feet and shows her he cares. Think of something clever to say or do to meet her. She will think you went out of your way FOR HER. It will be appreciated. Women don't need to be aggressive at all. A deserving woman will be approached maybe too much for her liking. Men can sense a woman with class, someone worth going out of your way for.

 

[RobAce]

I like both ends of the spectrum. I have women ask me out, and of course Ive asked out my fair share. Granted it might make you wonder if the woman has done it before....but also the feeling is a lot better to me when a woman you never expected to ask you out, or that you were afraid to does ask you out.
Sometimes women like men that not only can "take charge" but those that can listen, be suttle and take the back seat once and a while.

This isnt the 1960's anymore....women are not objects to be "hunted" and there are probally more than a few that would be a little peeved as being sought out like Elmer Fudd going after Bugs Bunny.
This is 2006, and women have just as much right and shouldn't be viewed as agressive just because they see a man they want to date and ask him first.
And as far as hunting treasure and finding it being better than it being brought to you.....sometimes the best treasure is the one you never were looking for in the first place.

Just my dollar and 2 cents worth.

Rob

 

[Tamia78]

Women don't need to be aggressive at all. A deserving woman will be approached maybe too much for her liking. Men can sense a woman with class, someone worth going out of your way for.

Wow...I'm a little speechless at this one. Who decides if the woman is "deserving" or not? I have no troubles with men wanting to ask me out, but whether I deserve it or not? Or, for that matter whether they deserve ME is a good question.

I do agree with you, tho. Men SHOULD want to go out of their way for a woman they like. Just like women should want to go out of their way to make her man happy.

 

[JPie1]

Actually I like that, because that tells me she knows what she wants. I like a woman with initiative, ambition

good question Tamia

yeah for you Natural!!!! I am quite the strong headed woman....so anyone putting up with me knows they are dealing with that.

I do have to say however that I also like a take charge kind of man and I love feeling of being taken care of.

 

[drew70]

I've had women ask me out and I've had women take me to bed. I liked it because it took all the awkward uncertainty out of the equation. Am I not paying enough attention to her? Am I being too pushy? Am I stalking? It's a lot easier to figure out what she wants when she just comes out and says it.

 

[MrPartickler]

Doesn't matter to me. It's fun both ways. I like the chase and the sense of accomplishment if I ask a woman out and she says yes. But it's kinda exciting to be on the receiving end sometimes, too. (Especially since I get to tease her from then on about how she practically begged me to go out with her! lmao) 😛

Anyway, there are a lot of reasons a woman can/should approach a guy that have nothing to do with shyness. He may just be passing though and just not have noticed her at all. Maybe he wrongly assumes that "friend" she's with is actually her s/o. Maybe it's in the workplace and he fears the ol' sexual harrassment boom might be lowered. (I've passed on making an overt first move in that situation before.) Who knows? So I just think of it as she's more of a 'carpe diem' kinda gal. Fun, fun, fun! 😀

As for wondering if she's done it before. Hell, since she's over 18 I usually assume there's a LOT of things she's done before. My philosophy there is: don't ask, don't tell. lol So whether or not we click in the present is all that matters to me.

 

[AffectionateDan]

That's what *I'M* talkin' about!

Actually I like that, because that tells me she knows what she wants. I like a woman with initiative, ambition

Testify. I gotta go with my man, here. Self-confidence is attractive no matter *what* your gender is. Not a thing wrong with a woman who's confident, knows what she wants, and takes steps to get it. Yum. A lotta gals gripe that we don't pay attention or are insensitive or blah blah blah... send us clear signals like asking us out, and there won't be any communication breakdowns!

Wow...I'm a little speechless at this one. Who decides if the woman is "deserving" or not? I have no troubles with men wanting to ask me out, but whether I deserve it or not? Or, for that matter whether they deserve ME is a good question.

Yeah, I've gotta wonder if statements like that indicate a poor choice of words or a value system that treats women as objects, prey for a hunt and nothing else. What women *deserve* is to be cherished and protected, loved for who they are.

I do agree with you, tho. Men SHOULD want to go out of their way for a woman they like. Just like women should want to go out of their way to make her man happy.

Damned skippy! Wise words! Too bad not enough of us apply them to our lives!

I've had women ask me out and I've had women take me to bed. I liked it because it took all the awkward uncertainty out of the equation. Am I not paying enough attention to her? Am I being too pushy? Am I stalking? It's a lot easier to figure out what she wants when she just comes out and says it.

Are you listening, girls?

 

[maniactickler]

I prefer a middle of the road woman. the ones that are too shy tend to bore me to death and the ones that are too outgoing tend to be pain in the asses.

 

[lk70]

Are you listening, girls?

Eh? What's that?

 

[Redmage]

I'm a very dominant man, but I tend to move pretty slowly myself. If a woman takes the trouble to ask me I'm always flattered. I can't understand someone thinking that it's somehow more "dominant" to ask than to be asked.

 

[Deadsea7777]

What do you guys think?

I know plenty of guys who like a girl, but are too shy to ask her out. What would you do if SHE asked you out? Is it a turnon? Or do you dismiss her as "too dominant" ?

Personally, I don't see a problem with women asking a guy out. To me, it means she knows what she wants.

--T

Oh Tamia, actually is a treat, like be invited to taste a rare vintage Champagne, out of the ordinary, a woman with a rare bouquet.
Always interesting.