Do you respect limits? Do you check on your lee, are affectionate and do you practice aftercare?

[Doriansenigma]

I’ve noticed by reading a lot of posts throughout the years that there is a strong emphasis on sadistic tickling…but as a ler do you make sure to check on your lee to make sure they are okay? Do you cuddle after or spoil them in some way to make them feel safe? Do you practice aftercare? I hope to hear from both men and women on this one.

 

[WickedTouch]

I’ve noticed by reading a lot of posts throughout the years that there is a strong emphasis on sadistic tickling…but as a ler do you make sure to check on your lee to make sure they are okay? Do you cuddle after or spoil them in some way to make them feel safe? Do you practice aftercare? I hope to hear from both men and women on this one.

Yes, definitely. In a sadistic or intense session I do monitor and check in with the lee. It's one of the reasons why I like to get to know someone a bit first and understand how they process things, understand their limits, and divide fantasy from reality. Aftercare is a thing specific to each individual, and I try to give them what they personally have conveyed they want or need. Regarding limits and boundaries, anyone who does not respect those, at best, is exercising negligence and poor judgement, and at worst is being outright abusive. Sadism is on a different personality dimension than selfishness and regard for others. I can be sadistic in that I can get pleasure from others' (consensual) suffering, but I am simultaneously caring and considerate.

 

[TickleMantis]

I’ve spent the last 25~ years writing sadistic, merciless and often times utterly depraved tickling fantasies -but it is only ever fantasy. In reality, I’d never wish the heinous acts that occur in those stories on an actual living person.

I tickle my partner, and have tickled those before her, but I’ve done my best to watch and listen for the cues that it’s nearing the line. I’d like to think I’ve never gone over those limits, though admittedly I expect I have once or twice, albeit unintentionally. Not an excuse, just an explanation/observation.

Point being, I’ve always drawn a hardline between the things I fantasize about and the things I’ll actually do. In the real world, I care about the people I’m spending that time with and don’t want them feeling anything less than safe and cared for.

 

[milagros317]

Point being, I’ve always drawn a hardline between the things I fantasize about and the things I’ll actually do.

 

[duderino84]

I tickle torture -- but I've never tied anyone down, and any partner that I've been with has experienced my tickling voluntarily, with a smile by the end. So while I don't feel like I have limits, I doubt I'm pressing on theirs.

I think affection/ aftercare they're pretty satisfied, but they know when it's game on.

 

[Doriansenigma]

I’ve spent the last 25~ years writing sadistic, merciless and often times utterly depraved tickling fantasies -but it is only ever fantasy. In reality, I’d never wish the heinous acts that occur in those stories on an actual living person.

I tickle my partner, and have tickled those before her, but I’ve done my best to watch and listen for the cues that it’s nearing the line. I’d like to think I’ve never gone over those limits, though admittedly I expect I have once or twice, albeit unintentionally. Not an excuse, just an explanation/observation.

Point being, I’ve always drawn a hardline between the things I fantasize about and the things I’ll actually do. In the real world, I care about the people I’m spending that time with and don’t want them feeling anything less than safe and cared for.

I have some non-con fantasies too but being able to tell fantasy from reallity is important, I’m super attentive toward my wife when I tickle her, because in spite of the nature of my fetish Im not looking to cause genuine distress.

 

[natscott6282]

never even use to think of limits but once I learnt about them I stopped tickle torturing

 

[Soles_Scream]

I’ve noticed by reading a lot of posts throughout the years that there is a strong emphasis on sadistic tickling…but as a ler do you make sure to check on your lee to make sure they are okay? Do you cuddle after or spoil them in some way to make them feel safe? Do you practice aftercare? I hope to hear from both men and women on this one.

My store is built around safe consensual tickle play. However, with models I do not practice physical aftercare as one might normally do in a kinkster scenario. I keep things playful, but every now and then a model will end up in subspace. In those situations, I give them something to drink, snacks, or whatever they request afterwards which is generally some form of nourishment. I create distance between myself and them in those instances other than giving them things they might ask for.

I've noticed that distance seems to cause models to snap out of it faster.

 

[Miss_Gigglish]

I’ve spent the last 25~ years writing sadistic, merciless and often times utterly depraved tickling fantasies -but it is only ever fantasy. In reality, I’d never wish the heinous acts that occur in those stories on an actual living person.

I tickle my partner, and have tickled those before her, but I’ve done my best to watch and listen for the cues that it’s nearing the line. I’d like to think I’ve never gone over those limits, though admittedly I expect I have once or twice, albeit unintentionally. Not an excuse, just an explanation/observation.

Point being, I’ve always drawn a hardline between the things I fantasize about and the things I’ll actually do. In the real world, I care about the people I’m spending that time with and don’t want them feeling anything less than safe and cared for.

I have read some of your stories I think, they were insane 😀

But I also like that you know what is fantasy and how tickling needs to be done in reality. In fantasy, a ticklee would have no problems taking how much ever sadistic tickling is dished out. But in reality, a hell lot of panic overcomes the lee and one cannot remain in that phase for too long.

 

[Miss_Gigglish]

I tickle torture -- but I've never tied anyone down, and any partner that I've been with has experienced my tickling voluntarily, with a smile by the end. So while I don't feel like I have limits, I doubt I'm pressing on theirs.

I think affection/ aftercare they're pretty satisfied, but they know when it's game on.

This is so good! As long as the ticklee leaves with a smile, they are going to come back for more. I like this approach 🙂

 

[wolfman40]

I always like to meet play partners beforehand for a coffee for obvious safety reasons! And to establish, do's and dont's, likes and dislikes.

I'm a bit of a feeder, so I always bring water and a ton of snacks along.

I'm quite tactile, so I enjoy things like cuddles and hugs after play, back strokes, and even just stroking hands.

My favourite thing, if there is that connection there, is grabbing a drink and fries afterwards, or if it at event, just hanging at the bar with friends.

Another important thing is checking in on the next day, are they ok, feeling droppy?

It's the little things..

 

[duderino84]

My store is built around safe consensual tickle play. However, with models I do not practice physical aftercare as one might normally do in a kinkster scenario. I keep things playful, but every now and then a model will end up in subspace. In those situations, I give them something to drink, snacks, or whatever they request afterwards which is generally some form of nourishment. I create distance between myself and them in those instances other than giving them things they might ask for.

I've noticed that distance seems to cause models to snap out of it faster.

So you think I should pull out a bag of cookies when I hear "you tickle me all the time!"? 😆

 

[duderino84]

This is so good! As long as the ticklee leaves with a smile, they are going to come back for more. I like this approach 🙂

You'd think it would be an easy deal for those women complaining about "being lonely" or "need to find a BF" but it's never this straightforward 🤷‍♂️