do you think that sometimes we are really worried of confess our kink?

[Paultickler]

I mean I've never had the chance of speaking of my tickling fetish with people, maybe because I'm too afraid of, but for what I had read here it doesn't looks like the big deal.

 

[doctortickler]

To be very honest I've never had a problem in talking as I feel that it is a very natural thing to like and do to people! Both my freinds and family know that I like to tickle my girlfreind, that is when I find one, been single for way too long!!!! I understand how you feel, but trust me there are a lot worse kinks out there than tickling eh!

 

[wishfoot88]

i recently outed myself and it went quite well.
i mean, someone shouted it out for me, but people know and do not mind....
but be careful who you tell, someone i thought that i trusted shouted my fetish out in front of people who so not know me and will not understand.

but from what i have heard, it is a pretty painless procedure🙂

 

[Adam]

Absolutely. It has always been hard for me to admit I like tickling. Innocent or not, I imagine it just sounds weird to the unenlightened.

 

[Tortuga]

I used to but now I just freely admit it. Course it's easier when you have other fetishes and other kinks so it kind of just leans into a variety of things. Normally I just start with "I love kink" and that just leads it on to questions, which I answer freely. I always got scared from being rejected or outed about this whole thing, but you just kind of have to get the kind of attitude that you don't care what other people think of you. You are who you are, you like what you like. If they can't accept you for you then are they really worth it?

 

[tcklft]

I've never had a problem discussing my desires, but then I'm a horny ol' sod. Plenty of folks here have confessed a fear of being outed, but I fail to see what the problem is. If your SO isn't into your fetish, deal with it or move on.

 

[romefalls86]

I've always been afraid to tell people about my fetish, well until I met my present spouse, I told her about it, maybe a few months into talking and it didn't bother her.

Now we are engaged and she is starting to develop the itch for the tickling and enjoys talking about being tickled. We share the same name and she comes on here now

 

[Cy/MiG]

Yes, yeah, sure, why not, absolutely, of course...

I'm speaking for myself, of course.

 

[DownUnder]

To the guys who "have no problems admitting it": do you voluntarily bring it up on conversations? Or you have "no problems admitting" when you are asked directly?

For me, that's not something I'd ever bring into a conversation. Like other aspects of my sex life, it's private business. If I'm asked "do you like tickling?", I have no problems saying yes. But if I'm asked "do you have a tickle fetish?" by someone, I'd have a harder time saying yes.

 

[Bman21]

Ive never actually told any of my gf's about my tickle fetish, although I'm sure they were able to figure it out. I like Tortuga's idea about opening with "I like kink"

 

[Bugman]

I've been to NEST the last two years,and we stayed at different hotels both times.In both cases i had staff and other guests ask me what was going on and i explained it,even told some of them about the TMF.

Nobody thought we were weird or creepy,and a few were downright intrested in learning more about it.Hell some of them may be lurking here for all i know.

Sometimes i wear my 2008 NEST pin on my shirt collar,just to see if anyone asks about it.So no,i don't care who knows anymore.I spent too many years doing that and i can't be bothered about what anyone else thinks.

 

[ticklebunny 2]

I think being afraid that one will not be fully emotionally or totally understood in any circumstance or whether one is in a fetish kink forum or whether not an active participating member that contributes or not-I think it just comes with the territory. I think one never really does not lose the fear and social phobia of others and espec the "vanilla" world discovering their hidden secret passions for tickling or whatever other passions one might be intensely passionate about.

I think losing one's fear is very hard and very difficult. So yes I do think that sometimes many times depending on personal circumstances and things-whether we feel we have emot control of our surroundings or whether we have emot control of one's choices and one's life-that yes many times sad negative thoughts can consume a person that has a love of tickling-thoughts of fear that others and especially those "vanilla" might not and would not understand -think or see one as strange or a freak of nature-fear others after hearing this confessed by person-or whether person gets accidentally outed-that others or "vanilla" person or one's partner may not be accepting and may reject one and not choose to unconditionally accept and love the person-because of the passion the person with love of tickling or other kinks shares with that person or in most cases one's partner-that sadly may or may not share one's passion for tickling or other special intense loves and kinks sexually.


But I guess it boils down to that you got to do what it is best for you -yes it is great and wonderful to wish to please others and great to try to do what you can for others and those close to you-especially your partner. However in the end you got to be true to yourself-you got to decide in the end whether or not it be in your best interest or not -whether you emot trust to share such a personal intense love with another person-trust that person will do their best to try to understand and not judge you and be there and love you no matter what. This especially goes when sharing one's love and passions with one's partner. It is a risky and tricky business. It is something that needs to be done in my view; slowly and gently-casually and cautiously, not something you just blurt out-takes time. You gently and slowly test the waters and see how things go and then take it from there, decide whether it be best to go to the next level-then you decide from there whether it is time and best to share that passion and share one's inner fires and inner desires and inner secrets with a person or not. First you see if that person can be emotionally trusted and go from there, not something you do lightly-serious matter least in my opinion it is.

So yes I do think we do worry about confessing our kinks, think it is not something strange and not something unusual, something natural. We all want to be loved, accepted, cared for, cherished, desired, and we all want to feel special. We all want to feel love and be unconditionally loved and accepted and cherished for who and what we are-in addition to that-only natural we want our kinks and passions not only openly accepted and appreciated-favored-if we can ultimately we wish our passions to be returned back to us-and encouraged and fully
and tenderly embraced. 🙂🙂

 

[3xPIN]

Worried: no.
Concerned: yes.
I do not believe that my kink is "None of your business". I do, actually; but not in the conventional way. Not because "I don't want you to know" cuz I am embarrassed or ashamed. I think it is no one's business because they have a right not to know! I don't want to know everything about everything and I think you should have the same luxury. But, I tell any woman with whom I may be interested or vice versa. That is an issue of trust and understanding.

 

[Artoo]

If I'm asked outright, I'll not lie.
I'm not worried about telling people, though I don't rub my fetish in peoples faces. Ergo, I'll only tell people if they want to know, or if it comes up in conversation.

 

[Wildben]

i've never been asked, and if i was asked.. i'd lie, through my teeth.
my ex new about it and she was cool. but if my friends found out i would not be happy. i love my friends but we all take the piss out of each other, i wouldn't want to give them the ammo.
i'm perfectly happy with it being a secret, certainly don't feel "worried". i delete my history, i keep tickling relationships seperate, and its all good!

 

[DownUnder]

If I'm asked outright, I'll not lie.
I'm not worried about telling people, though I don't rub my fetish in peoples faces. Ergo, I'll only tell people if they want to know, or if it comes up in conversation.

I think that's a rational approach to it all.

Beats certainl folks who shove their alternative (or even what they think is "mainstream") lifestyles down other people's throats.

 

[Tiger.Lily]

If I'm asked outright, I'll not lie.
I'm not worried about telling people, though I don't rub my fetish in peoples faces. Ergo, I'll only tell people if they want to know, or if it comes up in conversation.

Yeah, what he said.

 

[Paultickler]

Yeah, what he said.

you're really gorgeous, did you know that?