Do you treat people differently if you find out they are not ticklish?

[ViperGTS]

Some might think it's messed up, but I do.

Keep in mind, I don't give a damn if a guy is or is not - I don't do m/m tickling, so it doesn't matter.

However, if I find out that a lady is not ticklish at all (or is extremely against it...you know, one of those), I stop flirting with her or being overly friendly. I mean, I don't become a dick towards that person, don't get me wrong, but my interest in her in terms of close friendship decreases significantly.

Thoughts?

 

[xSamanthax]

I think you are short changing yourself on possible friendships. Especially with the "not ticklish" part. The "very against it" I can understand because you can't really form a genuine close relationship with someone who does not accept you for who you are.

 

[Wolf]

On the one hand..

I can see that, if a person does not have a particular trait that is mandatory in a prospective partner for you, not becoming overly friendly, as they're "out of the running", so to speak, isn't really surprising or out of line. When I was single, I wouldn't have dated someone who wasn't smart.
Of course, if you're not interested in a close friendship with a person just because you know they won't be fodder for sexual fantasy or play, that's awfully limiting, isn't it?

 

[Marquis De Sade]

Nah. I don't really care one way or the other. This is mine and I don't push it or wish it on anyone else. If someone else has it, fine, if not, whatever. I still have my own interest and that's the way it was before I met that person so it can stay that way for all I care.

I suppose it depends on your relationship with that person though. If you're a couple and tickling is your main sexual trigger and the other person isn't ticklish and your imagination isn't that powerful, then you might run into some problems.

I mean You here as in a general You btw. 😉

 

[Redmage]

I have a variety of kinks besides tickling, so the lack of that specific one doesn't mean much to me. However if I don't know that a certain person shares any of my kinks then I'm much less likely to find that person sexually interesting.

I don't know that I treat such a person differently, except I don't flirt with him or her. It's like discovering that a woman is a lesbian - no matter how "pretty" she might be, at that point flirting with her seems both pointless and rude.

 

[xSamanthax]

Well I guess I need to ask for clarification...

Are you talking about just friends?

Or romantic interests? Cuz it changes my answer, lol.

 

[tcklft]

If I wanna pursue a sexual relationship, she's gotta be ticklish. if she's not or if she hates being tickled, I stop flirting. If we're just friends he ticklishness doesn't matter to me at all.

 

[Mitchell]

I try not to do this. Finding out a girl is ticklish might enhance my interest in her, but that having been said, if she had all the other qualities of personality that I wanted, I wouldnt pass her up just because she isnt ticklish. Ticklish is one thing, but her personality and character is the most important thing, and whether she's compatible with me or not. I'd rather have a non ticklish girlfriend or wife who had all the qualities, then a very ticklish one, whom I had nothing in common with, and who wasnt right for me as a person.

Mitch

 

[Sandrock74]

I usually stop tying her up and won't chase after her if she runs out the door and down the street.

 

[kered]

Naaaah Viper, I treat everyone the same. With or without tickling everyone I like or I am attracted to has something in common with me because tickling isn't the only interest I have.

 

[Redmage]

Well I guess I need to ask for clarification...

Are you talking about just friends?

Or romantic interests? Cuz it changes my answer, lol.

Are you asking me? I have several non-kinky friends (though none that aren't at least kink-friendly). But even if someone is otherwise physically and emotionally attractive, I just don't respond to them sexually if I know they aren't kinky.

 

[xSamanthax]

Are you asking me? I have several non-kinky friends (though none that aren't at least kink-friendly). But even if someone is otherwise physically and emotionally attractive, I just don't respond to them sexually if I know they aren't kinky.

No sorry, was asking Viper, lol. I had initially read his question as being about people who are platonic friends, not lovers, or potential lovers.

I have similar views as you.

 

[drew70]

It's one thing to exercise preference and discretion when seeking a partner.

But to reject possible friendships based on a woman not fitting your ideal of a fantasy partner? Seems a little shallow to me.

It also seems to suggest you regard all women as objects that either fit your fantasy qualifications, or not. I don't imagine many women would react well to this mindset.
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[ViperGTS]

Well, let me elaborate a little bit.

If I am dating a girl and I find out that she's either not ticklish, or one of those that HATES tickling in all forms, I will break it off because we just don't "click."

But most people have friends that they are VERY close to - the kind of friend that you could pin down and tickle or otherwise be very close with (usually of the opposite sex of course) and it wouldn't seem wierd. If I find out that someone is not ticklish or is one of those people, I won't try to make her one of those super close friends.

HOWEVER - that doesn't mean that I refuse to be friendly with or "reject friendships with" someone who's not ticklish - I just don't usually get very close with them. I guess I almost see it as a quality, the same way one might view someone's personality type as a quality.

 

[slap'n'ticklee]

Naaaah Viper, I treat everyone the same. With or without tickling everyone I like or I am attracted to has something in common with me because tickling isn't the only interest I have.

Blimey, here I am again agreeing with you, second time tonight lol

I can't discount someone just because they may or may not be ticklish, I have school friends and other mates and I don't talk to them about being ticklish or such like, thats a bit harsh I think to not associate with someone if they aren't into it.

 

[ViperGTS]

It's one thing to exercise preference and discretion when seeking a partner.

But to reject possible friendships based on a woman not fitting your ideal of a fantasy partner? Seems a little shallow to me.

It also seems to suggest you regard all women as objects that either fit your fantasy qualifications, or not. I don't imagine many women would react well to this mindset.

You know, drew, I took you off the ignore list this one time to see if you could answer a thread and post your input regarding the thread's topic without making underhanded, sarcastic insults towards the OP.

Looks like I gave you too much credit, too soon. Back to the list you go.

Back on topic:

I can't discount someone just because they may or may not be ticklish, I have school friends and other mates and I don't talk to them about being ticklish or such like, thats a bit harsh I think to not associate with someone if they aren't into it.

I didn't say I don't ASSOCIATE with people who aren't ticklish or hate it - I just tend to not be as close with them, since the whole tickling thing is very important to me. If someone doesn't understand that or says it's "weird" or "freaky" or just generally refuses to look past it, that's a sign of a closed mind, and I don't get along well with people like that.

And to be honest....I don't think I have ever known anyone who is not ticklish at all...so I guess that doesn't matter, lol.

 

[Adam]

Actually, this is a damn good question, Viper. I will never discard a female friend just because she's not ticklish. I do lose interest if a girl I'm interested in romantically either isn't ticklish or is vehemently against it, though. It's just that I know myself so well and how important tickling is to me. The last thing I want to do is get into a relationship with someone that, deep down, I know I'm not going to be totally into. I don't want to hurt anyone so I find it best not to get too close in that case. Flame me if you must, TMF. It's just the honest truth.

 

[ViperGTS]

Actually, this is a damn good question, Viper. I will never discard a female friend just because she's not ticklish. I do lose interest if a girl I'm interested in romantically either isn't ticklish or is vehemently against it, though. It's just that I know myself so well and how important tickling is to me. The last thing I want to do is get into a relationship with someone that, deep down, I know I'm not going to be totally into. I don't want to hurt anyone so I find it best not to get too close in that case. Flame me if you must, TMF. It's just the honest truth.

I think you are short changing yourself on possible friendships. Especially with the "not ticklish" part. The "very against it" I can understand because you can't really form a genuine close relationship with someone who does not accept you for who you are.

That's what I mean. Like I said just before Adam posted, I haven't ever known anyone who wasn't ticklish, so now that I think about it, I don't think I would restrict a friendship with someone because of that. I guess the only experience I have ever had was with people who were vehemently AGAINST tickling.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

Just as long as you don't blatantly disrespect them or treat them like shit because they don't share the appreciate you do, then I say you're old enough to choose your friends and those you want to get close to.

We're all going to have folks that we don't mesh with for whatever reason.. tickling is just another reason. No big.

 

[drew70]

You know, drew, I took you off the ignore list this one time to see if you could answer a thread and post your input regarding the thread's topic without making underhanded, sarcastic insults towards the OP.

Geez, take it easy. I meant no insult. If you disagree with me, just calmly tell me why. Don't throw a freakin tantrum. Feel free to PM me if you ever want to talk about this.
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[maniactickler]

If its a woman i might be interested in romantically, if shes not very ticklish everywhere, then i lose complete interest in her.

 

[baldadonis]

Actually, this is a damn good question, Viper. I will never discard a female friend just because she's not ticklish. I do lose interest if a girl I'm interested in romantically either isn't ticklish or is vehemently against it, though. It's just that I know myself so well and how important tickling is to me. The last thing I want to do is get into a relationship with someone that, deep down, I know I'm not going to be totally into. I don't want to hurt anyone so I find it best not to get too close in that case. Flame me if you must, TMF. It's just the honest truth.

I 100% whole-heartedly agree with you. I just can't get into a relationship with someone who either isn't ticklish or isn't at least interested in it. Its just a waste of both our times, as I can't turn this part of my personality off in an intimate relationship.

In a friendship, however, tickling is a complete non-factor for me. I have many female friends I have known for years or decade(s) plus. Some of them I may have tickled at one time or the other, most of them I never have. Its really nothing that ever comes into my head when hanging out with most of my vanilla friends. I have such deep connections and histories with many of these women on other levels, that tickling is just not important to the relationship. That being said, if a good opportunity were to present itself to tickle one of them....

 

[xSamanthax]

Well, let me elaborate a little bit.

If I am dating a girl and I find out that she's either not ticklish, or one of those that HATES tickling in all forms, I will break it off because we just don't "click."

But most people have friends that they are VERY close to - the kind of friend that you could pin down and tickle or otherwise be very close with (usually of the opposite sex of course) and it wouldn't seem wierd. If I find out that someone is not ticklish or is one of those people, I won't try to make her one of those super close friends.

HOWEVER - that doesn't mean that I refuse to be friendly with or "reject friendships with" someone who's not ticklish - I just don't usually get very close with them. I guess I almost see it as a quality, the same way one might view someone's personality type as a quality.

It sounds to me like tickling may be one of the primary ways you form bonds in the first place? So without the tickling, it might be hard to take a friendship to a more intimate (not necessarily sexual btw) level?

That makes complete sense. I think everyone has certain ways in which they form/cement intimate connections.

 

[xSamanthax]

That's what I mean. Like I said just before Adam posted, I haven't ever known anyone who wasn't ticklish, so now that I think about it, I don't think I would restrict a friendship with someone because of that. I guess the only experience I have ever had was with people who were vehemently AGAINST tickling.

Yeah that is a whole different ball of wax there. I would feel the same way. If you are adamantly against a part of me...well, it's not going to much of a friendship, lol. And that extends to other parts of me as well. If you have an attitude about my spiritual beliefs, my causes, my family/loved ones....whatever...if it is important to me, then anyone who I call friend will be ok with it.

They don't have to participate, but I have no room in my life for judgment or other silliness.

 

[Bizkit]

Well, let me elaborate a little bit.

If I am dating a girl and I find out that she's either not ticklish, or one of those that HATES tickling in all forms, I will break it off because we just don't "click."

I agree,I hate to be that picky but it is what it is.The last girl I dated was totally not into being tickled.Maybe more than anyone I have ever dated before.For me it's like that's it,instant turn off.I had been fortunate years ago to find girls who were into or at least didn't mind being tickled(one in particular )Without that connection I don't even bother investing any time or emotion,it's frusterating at times.