We sorta worked something out. I talked to her about it. She doesn't really like tickling. We went back and forth on this idea that I should be comfortable with talking to her.. I told her I would never make her or force her to do anything that would make her uncomfortable. That's the whole reason I was uncomfortable. She sounded kind of scared of being tickled. She doesn't like it and she asked me to respect that. And I do..
But the problem is, I'm going to want to tickle her eventually.. She can't know and expect me not to tickle her ever. And I don't want to regret ever telling her. I know it can't happen for a while. Maybe even a long time. She and my boyfriend are the only two that know. And I can't tell anyone else. How do I cope with this?
A fear of mine with this is being left out. I imagine a scenario in the future at a party of hers being tickled by her friends. They will ask me to help and I'll just walk away respecting her boundaries. I know this is a bit extreme but I really wanted this to work.
I asked her if there was a way that this could work. I'm not a freak or obsessed about it. I told her about how I saw once that they use tickling for relaxing purposes. Gently and lightly during massage to relax muscles and encourage smiling. It's kind of like a therapy for stress and depression. She said it was okay.
But the problem is, I'm going to want to tickle her eventually.. She can't know and expect me not to tickle her ever. And I don't want to regret ever telling her. I know it can't happen for a while. Maybe even a long time. She and my boyfriend are the only two that know. And I can't tell anyone else. How do I cope with this?
A fear of mine with this is being left out. I imagine a scenario in the future at a party of hers being tickled by her friends. They will ask me to help and I'll just walk away respecting her boundaries. I know this is a bit extreme but I really wanted this to work.
I asked her if there was a way that this could work. I'm not a freak or obsessed about it. I told her about how I saw once that they use tickling for relaxing purposes. Gently and lightly during massage to relax muscles and encourage smiling. It's kind of like a therapy for stress and depression. She said it was okay.
