Does Age Really Matter?

[Feathery]

I believe I read something here, that ticklers are like fine wine... they get better with age. Also, growing older is (usually) better than the alternative.

 

[The Sean Man]

Age does not matter.

It's just one more way our society classifies, segregates, and categorizes people.

 

[AffectionateDan]

Age can be irrelevant...

I think that the maturity of both parties has a lot to do with any age-difference relationship. You can't easily say that there's one rule or guideline that works for everyone. Hell, I know people who shouldn't be allowed to date humans, regardless of age.

Not saying I wouldn't date someone my own age...she just has to be young-at-heart as well. I know some 40 year olds who act like they're 16 and I know a couple of much younger women who have a wealth of maturity.

I'm gonna echo what my man Dave here says, for the most part. Age isn't just a measure of how mature a person is. I know people my age and people old enough to be my parents who act like freakin' children, and I also know people with what I call "old souls" who are young but mature for their age, wise and responsible far beyond the norm for most people of the same amount of years hatched. Age doesn't necessarily reflect personal experience, although it's an easy trap to assume that's the case. Meh. Personally, I've always preferred older women, because they've been around long enough to know what they want, out of life AND in the bedroom, and aren't going to waste time with games and foolishness to get what they want. And the things they *KNOW*...

Age can just be a number of candles on a cake. Doesn't necessarily mean anything about an individual. So, no; age doesn't matter all that much. It's different for every person. I get to know people based on who they are, not some arbitrary number. I'd have a lot less awesome friends if I limited my perspective like that.

 

[TicklishLurker]

Basically, the important thing to learn from this is that behavior, maturity, and other personality traits are not dependant on age, although they may be affected by it.

Well, in my limited experience that's just not true. The older men in my life have always been more mature - though they could actually appreciate my immaturity at times, seeing how I just wanted to have a little fun (like using short walls as balance beams) while the younger guys have always been immature and really they were jerks - like being so embarassed about my immature moments they'd give me huge lectures in public how I was embarassing them.

Anyway, when it comes to pure animal lust, I have to admit, I get totally turned on by older men. A little grey in the hair, some wrinkles around the eyes - arouses me the same way some women go wild over long hair or big muscles. Age is one area where I'm totally shallow. I'll take a man in his 60s over a man in his 30s any day of the week.

 

[DannyMc]

(Woman 25 - Man 40) ( Woman 40 - Man 65) (Woman 65- Man 80) ???????? ........... (Woman 25 - Man 35) (Woman 35 - Man 45) ( Woman 45 - Man 55) ??????? ........... (Woman 25 - Man 30) (Woman 30 - Man 35) ( Woman 35 - Man 40) ............. "The math in it" ........... Any difference for a good relationship ?

 

[TicklishLurker]

(Woman 25 - Man 40) ( Woman 40 - Man 65) (Woman 65- Man 80) ???????? ........... (Woman 25 - Man 35) (Woman 35 - Man 45) ( Woman 45 - Man 55) ??????? ........... (Woman 25 - Man 30) (Woman 30 - Man 35) ( Woman 35 - Man 40) ............. "The math in it" ........... Any difference for a good relationship ?

I'll tell you this, Danny - my grandparents on my dad's side had quite a large age difference. Grandpa Russell was a lot older then Grandma Russell - and the only ones who had a problem with it what her family. Her sisters kept telling her that he had a wife and family in another city and tried to break them up. It didn't work. They had a long and very happy marriage. If grandma hadn't gotten a brain tumor and grandpa hadn't got what was diagnosed as alhemizers (but really was more like lead poisoning) they probably would've been the type that died together holding hands.

 

[drew70]

Basically, the important thing to learn from this is that behavior, maturity, and other personality traits are not dependant on age, although they may be affected by it.

Pretty much sums up my feelings on the matter. My wife is a year older, and she's the oldest woman I dated. When I was 20, and in Okinawa, I dated a 17-year old local gal named Mayumi, and broke it off because I felt like I was robbing the cradle. She was a virgin and the thought of taking that away from her made me too uncomfortable.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Back in the day, I loved dating older women. In 1995, I was in a brief fling with a woman twenty four years older than I was...and I saw absolutely nothing wrong with this, other than having to explain to various and sundry individuals what attracted me to a woman older than my mother. Some years earlier, I went on a date with a woman even older than that.

Some women age like fine wine...they never lose whatever they had in the first place. It just gets better.

My last girlfriend, the one that precedes my wife, was nine years older than me...my wife's the aberration. She's nine years younger. A bit annoying to be with someone who thinks Pop Culture started with New Kids on the Block, but that's neither here nor there

I've never lost my eye for older women, really.

Came across one of our semi-regular customers today. She's a very prim, and proper African-American woman, with cafe au lait skin, a magnificent smile, and stunning eyes. I think she's not far from either side of 60. Every time I looked in her eyes, I thought, wow. Whoever she's with is one lucky individual...

 

[tickles]

one more thought......how many tickle web sites feature 40ish women..........and really these sites are predominantly put to gether by the men folk......so who do men prefer to tickle.....and see tickled..?
and personally.....I can see why...young women are beautiful....heck, I enjoy looking at them.........

 

[TicklishLurker]

I've never lost my eye for older women, really.

*sighs* This is why I can't find an older man. Because all the older men prefer older women. This sucks.

 

[DannyMc]

Not always true Jami ,I remember a movie I think it was called "Breezy" shows it can happen .

 

[TicklishLurker]

Not always true Jami ,I remember a movie I think it was called "Breezy" shows it can happen .

Well, I'll tell you Danny, between this thread and my own, I've given up all hope in finding The One.

I know I always said I'd purposely break the heart of someone who loved me because I feel I'm not even good enough for Jack The Ripper, but it didn't stop me from dreaming that someone would break through my defenses.

But I see now it's pointless and hopeless. *sighs*

 

[BellaRisa]

one more thought......how many tickle web sites feature 40ish women..........and really these sites are predominantly put to gether by the men folk......so who do men prefer to tickle.....and see tickled..?
and personally.....I can see why...young women are beautiful....heck, I enjoy looking at them.........

Sites use younger women because that's who answers the ads for models. No intelligent site owner is going to turn away a gorgeous and ticklish woman just because she's over 30, trust me. If the just-turned-40 Janet Jackson or 38 yr old Gwen Stefani were to have their pretty toes tickled on some mainstream clip that thing would be downloaded so much it would implode

Meanwhile, the oldest person I've dated was 38 yrs older. I was 27, he was 65. He was very, very young at heart with a killer british accent (being from Great Britain and all ), and we had a marvelous time together. We broke up eventually, due to issues that had nothing to do with his age. I have yet to date someone younger than myself, but I find that as I get older the mature, appropriately dominant gentleman are more numerous, so it's a definite possibility

Bella

 

[DaBunny]

I read a blog by a friend of mine on myspace and he asks this very question.

Obviously extremes like pedophilia and whatever Anna Nicole Smith does is wrong and disgusting, so leaving those out, what are your thoughts?

1. What's the age range of people that you've actually dated?

2. What range would you consider? I.e. how low, and how high, are you willing to go?

3. Does age matter?


The youngest person I've dated was a year older than me, and the oldest was 21 years older than me.

I would never be able to date guys younger than me and probably would find it difficult to date guys my age. Most of the ones I've dated have been in their mid to late 20s and I find that to be a good age for me.

Obviously, age does matter, but I don't think it's to the extent that society says it does.

Well, speaking as the 43-year-old who contacted the 18-year-old TicklishGiggle a couple of weeks ago, I'd have to say that age definitely does matter. 🙂 I think it's fair to say we were both pretty shocked when we found out how old the other was. And it pretty much put the kibosh on anything else happening. So take that data point for whatever it's worth.

Then again maybe I'm just a very elderly 43?

 

[Illtcklu]

3. Does age matter?

No!!!​

 

[Knox The Hatter]

I think if your disposition was a little better you would have absolutely no problem finding The One.

A complete waste of breath and persuasive energy, Mairead.

 

[DaBunny]

I'm 19 my friend.

My apologies. Still pretty much the same from my point of view.

And yeah, I do my best now not to talk to people that could have birthed me

Well, I'm afraid I'm not equipped to do that. But I must admit I was "She's easily young enough to be my daughter" pretty much to the excluded any other train of thought. So maybe a generational boundry of about 20 years is the limit?

Though I'd guess that fades as you get older. A 43-year-old dating a 19-year-old? Sorry, wrong answer. (At least it is for me.) But...add 30 years? A 73-year-old dating a 49-year-old? I dunno, ask me in 30 years. But that doesn't set off quite the same alarm bells.

 

[Deadsea7777]

Though I'd guess that fades as you get older. A 43-year-old dating a 19-year-old? Sorry, wrong answer. (At least it is for me.) But...add 30 years? A 73-year-old dating a 49-year-old? I dunno, ask me in 30 years. But that doesn't set off quite the same alarm bells.

That's very easy to answer, 43 is 2.26 times 19, however, 73 is only 1.49 times 49, and if we could ad another 30 years, 103 is only 1.3 times 79.
At 43 you are two times and a quarter older than the 19 years old, and 73 you are only a half older than the 49 years old, equivalent to 30 to 20.

And if it could continue to infinite it would arrive a time in which the difference will be negligeble.
10 years seems for me the longer logical gap for the same reasons. 20 to 30 is a half older, 40 to 30 only a third older, 50 to 40 only a quarter.
So 50 to 40 is equivalent to 25 to 20. Not a big gap.

 

[DannyMc]

When two people are adults the only thing age does is get in the way ?............ Is it that it comes down to what your comfortable with and what and who you enjoy ? ............ Does society set your standards or do you ?............. Can age catch up with your relationship and start to hinder it , or is love taking care of each other ? ............. " Will you still need me , will you still feed me , when I'm 64 "

 

[LindyHopper]

I'm generally in favor of the notion that age shouldn't matter, but I'd still think long and hard before settling down with someone who's not likely to survive past my retirement age. I would want us to be able to grow old together.

 

[devilsadvocate]

Originally Posted by ticklishgiggle
1. What's the age range of people that you've actually dated?
well its varied for me having always been rather mature for my age. at 17 i dated a 24 year old. she knew i was 17 because i told her and when she didnt believe me i showed her my drivers license. we went on about 10 dates but even though i acted more her age she found the seven yr age gap off putting. Being 22 at the minute my long time g/f is 22 but 6 months older than me. when i was 18 i dated a 16 yr old but it didn't work out because she was still quite immature for me.


2. What range would you consider? I.e. how low, and how high, are you willing to go? being 22 but a lot more wary now. probably lowest 19 and highest 29 i say 19 rather than 18 because over here when you hit 19 you realise there's more to life than beer. That helps with maturity. (as you can tell i quite like being able to have interesting conversations)

3. Does age matter.
Yeah it does unfortunately because we dont live in biblical times. it depends though. over here a 16 yr old and a 14 yr old = no whereas an 18 yr old and a 16 yr old = yes. but for me at the minute age does matter.

 

[Senbab]

I personally have a 5 year range. Any girl above that I cannot seem to find attractive. as for younger girls, it's only about 1 year.

I'm 18 now, and currently the oldest woman that I found attractive was 24. (in the sense of me actually going out with her, not just how she looks)


outside of romantic thoughts, ive seen attractive women as old as 50

 

[Senbab]

Basically, the important thing to learn from this is that behavior, maturity, and other personality traits are not dependant on age, although they may be affected by it.

agreed, I rarely see people act their age, in either direction.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

We all date people for different reasons whether older or younger. In my opinion I think there is three reason why a person would date outside their age range (which is normally a five years the most.) Either younger or older. They are psychological, sexual, and emotional.


Psychological: Some people date a person older because of certain gaps in their childhood they want to experience. A guy/girl may go for a older man/woman because of security. The person is usually a lot more grounded in life. They made mistakes and have learned from them. They have more of a sense of responsibility/wisdom in "taking care" of themselves and the person they are dating.

Going for someone younger provides a sense of freedom. The younger person has more energy and not as quick to make the other person "feel so old." Giving them a sense of a feeling young again.


Sexual: This has nothing with a relationship other than the fact that the person finds the older or younger person as "hot." Not really interested in a relationship other than just getting the experience of being with a younger or older person and as long as they are physically attracted to them age isn't an issue.


Emotional: This has to do more with seeing a person on a level of common interest. The person may also be "wise beyond their years" and consider younger or same age people as imature and foolish or on the other side, the person doesn't want to grow up and considers anyone older/same age as boring. The older/younger person sees the world the same way, reacts the same way, and considers fun with the same things, therefore there is an attraction.

Which one of these outweigh the other is up to the person making the decision. There is also a sense of societies' approval. Could that person be seen with a much older or younger person and handle the looks, sneers and comments from others.

So Does age really matter?? Only the two people involved can answer that.

 

[HisFlyinFingers]

I find that anyone younger than mid to late 20s just doesn't have the same ideals and viewpoints I do. They're still throwing frat parties and using random girls' bras for lampshades.

Now, I can't claim to know the people you meet on a day-to-day basis, but being 19 myself I find this statement ridiculous. Most of my friends wouldn't be caught dead at a frat party, for one. I'm not saying that you and I are compatible (we aren't), but that if you honestly live somewhere that you can't have an intelligent, mature relationship with anyone your own age, I feel very sorry for you.

As to my own preference, I just can't see having a relationship with someone who lives a hugely different lifestyle from me. Living in college now, it would probably be hard for me to date a high school student or a young professional who has finished graduate school. I wouldn't be against trying the latter (the former didn't work for me), but I feel like it's easier when two people can share challenges and achievements. I've never dated anyone more than two years in either direction, though, so maybe I just haven't met the right thirty-something.