Does Life change for you once you become older (18 years of age or older)?

[vampirecult]

What are your thoughts? Do you think that it does? In what ways? Why or why not?

 

[ticklkitten]

WOW.... I can't even explain, I am SUCH a different person now than I was at 18. Night and day....

 

[Stevereeno]

Life changes for you once you become older only if you want life to change for you. Life also continues whether you are prepared for it or not. Life can be a lesson people do not want to learn. My personal opinion on the subject matter is a person can change, but after behaving a certain way for so long (18+ years), it can be difficult to take on and act out a new behavior. Some people may say that they have changed, but there are instances when that person's behavior is not consistent with his/her words. When I was 18 years of age, I was a senior in high school. I am 22 years of age, and concluding my senior year in college. When I am 23, I'll be a grad student. My life has changed for me during the past 4 years, and will require more change down the road.

 

[brummie]

I'm 20, (nearly 21) and I am different to the person i was at 18, while not being a different person. I think its not so much the age that changes people, but the experiences they have gone through

I have always been a mature person, older than my age, but within that I have exapanded myself, and have tried to better myself. I have just completed university (just the results to wait for now), lived overseas on my own for 1/2 a year learning a new language from scratch, and become a youth leader. I think more than anything, it's the experiences I have gone through that have changed me and made me older, rather than physical age. Experiencing death, increasing responsibility, meeting and getting to know different kinds of people, and picking up new skills, are all the things that change people.

I think life doesn't change for you at 18, you change your life... if thats not to pedantic a point.

 

[Majestic]

My personal opinion on the subject matter is a person can change, but after behaving a certain way for so long (18+ years), it can be difficult to take on and act out a new behavior.

I totally agree with Stevereeno. I am 46yrs old now. When I was 18 I had my whole life ahead of me and plenty of time to accomplish anything I decided I wanted to do. So I partied, I worked, met a man I thought I wanted to spend my life with, had a baby, decided I needed a career, found one, went for it, got it, had another baby, decided the man I married was not someone I could happily spend the rest of my life with, although he is a terrific person and a good father, he had forgotten what it was to have fun so I got divorced, re-met a friend, fell in love, then found that my years of partying and throwing caution to the wind had affected my health. I was put in a position where I was given a choice. Give up the lifestyle I had been used to since I was 18, drinking, smoking, hangin' out in clubs to listen to the live music I craved, or..........eventually kill myself. Not a hard decision right? Wrong. At first I looked at my two beautiful children and knew that I could igive it all up cuz I wanted to be around for them. BUT, my lifestyle had been mine for so long I realized it wasnt all that easy. Im still struggling with it. I enjoy smoking but dont like the way I feel alot of the time. I love the taste of beer and only drink on the weekends BUT Im not suppose to drink at all and when you're an avid music lover and crave it after a long week of work and raising children, the idea of staying in all weekend, while your kids are at their fathers.........well you know where Im going with this. If I go to a club, I feel I have to drink to relax, so I drink, I smoke......then I get scared that Im killing myself. It's an endless cycle BUT only I can change it. I didnt mean to ramble on about myself but I couldnt just say "Yes, it changes"....Im not programmed that way. LOL.

Majestic

 

[QBWeaver]

Oh Life changes.... and later you'll be thankful it does.

Each day we learn new things. The things that were so incredibly important when we were 18 just aren't that important now. Priorities change. No more school - Onto a career. Family impacts all the partying and such. It's an amazing trip.

Change can be wonderful. For me it's been fabulous. I have a direction in my life now that fulfills me. I have a family and we cherish the time we have together. When we were younger we couldn't wait to be away from each other. Now we can't wait to be together! My son married and now I have a bigger family which has just added to the enjoyment of living.

Don't look back. There is SO much to life that you have yet to experience and enjoy. There will be rough times too but that's all part of the process. Just know that later in life you'll look back and be amazed at how far you've come!

Relax and Enjoy Living!

Jan

 

[steph]

Great answers~several things I LOVE about getting older...

You get to make your own money and you can do what you want with it.

You get a lot saner, more centered. The little stuff doesn't bug you like it used to.

You get WAY better at reading people, way more perceptive, your intuition sharpens by about 100 times.
XOXO

 

[natural tickler]

Yes, my life has changed, and I don't regret a thing. There is a process called learning, and it never ends. Two kids, a loving wife, crazy family and relatives, life could get any better right??


However, there is one thing I wished I could have back.......and that would be SLEEP 😛 Ever since the twins came along, that has been a precious commodity, to which I lack.

believe me when I tell ya that sleep is overrated 😛

 

[WorkInProgress]

I'm a very different person from who I was at 18. Then again, I'm a very different person from who I was at 38. (I'm 43 now.)

 

[Majestic]

After reading Steph's post I realized that I only focused on the negative in my post. I didnt mean to. That's just what went through my head after reading Stevereeno's post about living a certain way for such a long time. Im not going to say there arent things I wouldnt change if I could but alot of good things come with getting older too. Steph hit most of them on the nose. You learn to not sweat the small stuff, you learn to not judge other people before you get to know them and you learn to not knock what other people enjoy just because it isnt "your thing". Those are just a few things, there are so many more. So it's all good Vamp. Getting older doesnt mean growing older...maybe just smarter.

Majestic

 

[Limeoutsider]

eh

People change.

If your referring to the "18 makes you an adult" rule, I think that that is total BS...I mean, a couple hundred years ago at 18 that was....midlife crisis time? I think as the life span increases they make stupid laws to keep you dependent on people longer.

 

[steph]

Thanks sweetie!
I thought a little more on this and came up with something else...You start to look around you and figure out that money (and all the stuff you can buy with it) doesn't really amount to much. It's the simple things that bring you the most happiness...A walk alone on the beach, a glass of wine, good friends (tk and otherwise), a hug, a warm fireplace... Sappy I know but it's true... 😉

XOXO

After reading Steph's post I realized that I only focused on the negative in my post. I didnt mean to. That's just what went through my head after reading Stevereeno's post about living a certain way for such a long time. Im not going to say there arent things I wouldnt change if I could but alot of good things come with getting older too. Steph hit most of them on the nose. You learn to not sweat the small stuff, you learn to not judge other people before you get to know them and you learn to not knock what other people enjoy just because it isnt "your thing". Those are just a few things, there are so many more. So it's all good Vamp. Getting older doesnt mean growing older...maybe just smarter.

Majestic

 

[lightninbug]

Does Life Change when you get older?

I'd HAVE to Mirror Steph on this...
* You don't sweat the small stuff so easily
* Your gut feelings start to kick in to ring alarm bells when something's wrong
* You TRUST those gut feelings more & more
* Things seem faster
* Dangerous situations seem like adventure in retrospect
* The simple things mean SO MUCH MORE
* If Having Stuff is Important to you; you realize that you can always get more stuff down the road.

I now feel like the 1st 30 years is education
the 2nd 30 years is application
& after 60 is 'Cruise Control'.

The 52 year old BUG
😎

 

[steph]

Thanks buggiepoo ~darn you all for being so wise~you keep forcing me to THINK (something I desperately try to avoid on the weekends~Hee hee!)

Anyhoo, here's a couple of others...

Outer beauty fades but inner beauty is forever.

The older you get, the faster time flies by.

The only real competition you're in is with yourself. Don't waste time being jealous of others. Make friends with 'em, ask them to teach you their secrets 😉

A year from now, almost no one will remember what you were wearing when they met you. What stays with them is how you made them feel in your presence.

XOXO

 

[Tcklsh_Kandy]

Steph sweetie one thing everyone forgot to tell you . You become MORE TICKLISH TOO !!!!!!!!!

 

[steph]

(snickers)
And here I thought that was just me!
XOXO

Steph sweetie one thing everyone forgot to tell you . You become MORE TICKLISH TOO !!!!!!!!!

 

[Tcklsh_Kandy]

*Makes a note of Steph being more ticklish now that she's older 🙂

 

[steph]

(relieved to be living in Cali and not CT...) Hee!

Come on you, let's get out of here before the mods chase us off for derailing...
XOXO

 

[Tcklsh_Kandy]

There is always vaction babe ........hahahahahahahahahaha

 

[MrMacphisto]

Hey, I don't want to interrupt this rather sexy conversation, but um...

Vampirecult, the easiest way to explain adulthood (in the short time I've been one) is that you get to pay more taxes, you find out that most of school is intellectual masturbation with little practical use, and that meeting people is a lot more awkward outside of college. What makes college so fun is that people are already conveniently organized by age and interests, so relating to the people you run across is much simpler. In the real world, you begin to feel like an outsider if you're not married by the time you exit college. Of course, my perspective is as a single 25 year old in a Southern town known for a relative lack of a nightlife. Where I live, people get married young and spend their Sundays (and often Wednesday nights) at church. Needless to say, this is pretty much the exact opposite of my lifestyle.

In short, if you go to college, live it up, because you'll miss those carefree days the older you get. After college, you can either take the socially expected route of young marriage and raising children (and often subsequent divorce), or you can take the less expected route and marry later in life (or not at all). I prefer the second route, despite the recurrent alienation.

Anyway, please continue you two... 😀

 

[steph]

Lmao

Those were great Mr M!

I'm glad you brought it back, if one more guy PMs me and ask me to hose him down I'll blow my freeking head off... 😛
XOXO

 

[unclebill]

I`m a lot more sore when I wake up.

 

[MrMacphisto]

Thanks, Steph... lol

 

[lightninbug]

And above all...

You can listen to ALL this as long as you keep in mind that finding it all out for yourself makes the knowledge seem so much more Special.
BUG
also that QB & Steph'll never steer ya wrong.

 

[Haltickling]

The age of 18 is just a legal barrier, only because the line has to be drawn somewhere. Some much older people behave more immature than minors, and some younger teenagers are far ahead of their age.

My life has changed fundamentally several times over. Only change is constant, and remaining static means moving backwards.

Me, I'm getting to the metallic age: Silver in the hair, gold in the teeth, and lead in the bones... 😉