Does there need to be a passion?

[lk70]

A couple of threads here recently got me to thinking and last night a friend and I got into a discussion about 'lers (which he is one). He's not on this forum, so I just filled him in on the posts about teaching someone to tickle and whether to date someone who wasn't into tickling, etc.

He states that it is not possible to teach someone to be a 'ler- that it is something they must have a passion for. That they themselves have to get enjoyment from the process. That is- the process of patiently exploring the lee's body, making notes of the best spots (which he says can change depending on mood and other things) and taking the time to build a reaction. He claims that someone without the passion can tickle, but can't really be a 'ler in the way we think of it.

I'm interested in hearing other thoughts on this. For my part, I certainly think the experience is better when both parties share the same level of interest and for me, personally, there's not much point in trying to convert someone who isn't into it. On the other hand, I've seen a post here and there where people tell of bringing their partners into the fold and who say they have become out and out lees and lers.

So? Comments? Thoughts?

 

[toyou444]

My wife fits that description. She is not a 'ler per-se...but she does get enjoyment out of tickling me. She says her MAIN enjoyment comes from the fact that I like it so much to be tickled occasionally. I do think that afoter 12 years of constant tickling she has come to enjoy it beyind that too.

So in a way I DID teach her how to be a 'ler. I showed her the best places and ways to tickle me and when she got good at it I encouraged her to keep it up! But also she would have lost interest if there wasn't something in it for her also.

Now...if I could just get her to help me tickle some of her friends! LOL! Just kidding!

~ toyou

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

I think it's possible to be able to play and enjoy yourself without having that passion that your friend speaks of. Having the passion makes it a lot more fun and interesting, though. Perhaps it's because the things you do are more natural and not planned or forced. You can learn the physical aspects of being a ler without really being passionate about it. However, that passion leads you to use everything at your disposal for the enjoyment of yourself and your lee...making for a much more natural and enjoyable experience.

I'm much more of a lee myself. But, when I'm in the mood to play around with friends (or my hubby), I can really get into tickling and be creative with it. So, there is a definate difference from that to when I'm not really in the mood but want to keep a promise to play with someone. It's much more fun for all involved if that mood/passion is there.

Ann

 

[crydun]

I think it's possible to be able to play and enjoy yourself without having that passion that your friend speaks of. Having the passion makes it a lot more fun and interesting, though. Perhaps it's because the things you do are more natural and not planned or forced. You can learn the physical aspects of being a ler without really being passionate about it. However, that passion leads you to use everything at your disposal for the enjoyment of yourself and your lee...making for a much more natural and enjoyable experience.

I'm much more of a lee myself. But, when I'm in the mood to play around with friends (or my hubby), I can really get into tickling and be creative with it. So, there is a definate difference from that to when I'm not really in the mood but want to keep a promise to play with someone. It's much more fun for all involved if that mood/passion is there.

Ann

I agree Ann. I think that passion is better but I can also relate to what toyou said. I have friends that have piqued curiosities about the tickling world because I am so open about my love for it. They see that I enjoy it and want to support me. So it can go both ways.

 

[luvn2laf]

I'm not sure the passion has to be for tickling specifically. I think my bf's passion is for exciting me rather than tickling itself, and he's willing to learn new techniques to make that happen. He may never be a true 'ler in a tickling sense, but he does enjoy it in his own way.

 

[mytoesrticklish]

Passionate Tickling

I have to say that passion is a big part of my tickling experiences. My bf loves to tickle my feet and toes with patience and pride. He loves to take his time indulging his desires on my sensitive tootsies. Consequently, my experience is increased because I can feel his passion with "tickle talk" and his warm touch. I have never been tickled extensively by someone who did not love my feet, so I may be confusing the question of passion with simple foot love. Forgive me, if I seem off base.