Dose anyone else have this curse?

[ineed2betickled]

When ever I have the chance to have sex I always have the same problem of not being able to get "it" up, unless tickling is involved. This problem arised only a few hours ago to me, and has been a major problem in the past, resulting in a very frustrated female. I would rather not have to admit my obsession for tickling to every girl im trying to have sex with. But it seems to be the only solution.

 

[ndj101982]

I can relate. Although I never had a tough time getting "it up," I used to have a tough time finishing off. I never had to actually incorporate tickling, but what I used to do is envision my gf tied up and being tickled while I was having sex in order to cum. I used to imagine her being tickled by these two other hot girls that worked with me, and I would picture them teasing her verbally and the whole nine yards. Almost like a tickle video going on in my head while having sex. Try creating a mental scenario of a tickling situation while having sex, or before sex, and see if this helps.

 

[LD_Tickler]

I've been there. Sometimes vanilla sex isn't going to do it for me. Such is the nature of having the fetish.

It could also just be nerves. You might be so worried that you can't have vanilla sex that you're giving yourself performance anxiety.

 

[Lorelei]

A lot of people think Viagra is only for old dudes who can never have an erection, but that's not so. Viagra can be prescribed for any difficulty even if that difficulty is only occasional. I had a friend about 40 who was having difficulty only because he was in a new relationship and found that nerve-wracking... I suggested he get some Viagra just to give him that extra "push" for the first few weeks... he was happy that it helped. Seems to me it would be appropriate to use Viagra to give a little "push" for some ticklers too.

A partner doesn't have to know about the Viagra. The user takes it about 60 minutes before they plan to be penetrating. Best way to do it is visit the bathroom, take the pill, then go out there and make out with them for an hour before starting intercourse. Most gals are quite happy to have a guy willing to do foreplay for a whole hour first.

Just my 2c

 

[Jerzeys23]

yep, the mental imaging like ndj is th only cure, and LDs right baout the anxiety, might not always work tho and u have to be ok with that, thats allyou can do

 

[darkscar]

seems like its one of the down sides of having a fetish like this. some people just cant get turned on unless they used or visualize there fetish. i have always worried about that happening to me lol.

 

[MaleTickleeDC]

Yeah, my problem is largely with staying excited during sex, and getting the "umph" to finish it off. I also find that I have to imagine one of my tickling fantasies in order to go all the way. It's really irritating, and if I actually had someone to have regular sex with, I would probably try to de-condition myself away from tickling, by weaning myself off of the clips, fantasies, pics, etc, and trying to get turned on again by plain, old vanilla sex.

No reason that we can't have it all, so to speak, if we meet a girl who is into tickling of course.

 

[spike246]

Yes

My fetishes include tickling female feet and a fetish for female feet. Im afflicted with the fact that I cant sustain any kind of sexual relations without them. While I enjoy these fetishes and have sought ways to satisfy them ive been unable to maintain a relationship. Would literally have to hit the jackpot on this and find the right gal who would be able to cater to these needs. It has created somewhat of a void in my life but I have accepted it.

 

[nobody271]

Yeah it's completly normal for people like us. I had to almost condition myself to focus and think about some of my favorite fantasies while I do it. If you're with the right person a combination of "regular stuff" and fantasies can usually do it for me. My advice would be to relax at first and not think about anything but to "finish it off" try to focus on your favorite fantasy. Good Luck!

 

[dskodj]

it comes with the fetish, its nothing abnormal, i am the same way. ive said it a zillion times on this forum over the years and ill say it again...be proud of yourself and what turns you on, etc and others will accept you for who you are. never change for anyone, cause the right one will come eventually.

it's a waiting game. until then, just proudly deal with it. it sucks at times, but hey, it's who you are! 🙂

 

[darkscar]

Ironically you wait so long, you finally find someone when your an old man, but die of a heart attack wile doing it....

 

[WayTooD]

You know, for the first time in many years I am starting to question if I actually have a fetish. Don't get me wrong I love feet and tickling, but I don't NEED either of these things to be present to "get it up." When the clothes start coming off I'm ready. Hell, many times even before that.

I am sorry to hear that though, because I could definitely see this creating an awkward situation. My only advice would be find a very cool and understanding woman and open up to her about it and hold on to her. But I've always been a one woman guy anyway.

 

[mustang]

That was a major concern for me as an adolescent before I had my first sexual experience. Before I had sex, my only outlet was to masturbate fantasizing about tickling girls' feet. I didn't know if I could perform otherwise. To my great relief I had no problem with getting it up when the time came, because I am completely hetero and get a boner just making out with a girl. The one problem that has never been resolved is that I only have deeply gratifying orgasms when I am masturbating while tickling a girl's foot. I have no problems having an orgasm. They just aren't really gratifying unless I am tickling the girl's feet. That is why I have said before that the worst thing about having this fetish is that it is sexually frustrating.

 

[WheresThe Clip?]

A lot of people think Viagra is only for old dudes who can never have an erection, but that's not so.
Just my 2c

Well speaking as an old dude, without Viagra my lady (the most non-ticklish person in the solar system) would have moved on to pastures new by now.

If only she would reciprocate and sniff some laughing gas every now and then