Embarrassed...Mortified even!!

[Sweet Sunshine]

Hi Everyone!

All my life even a mention of the word tickle leaves me embarrassed...

I HATE being at family gatherings and having the kids running around tickling everyone, or listening to people threaten to tickle my child. I can't STAND it!
I'd say it even makes me angry...

I do LOVE my fetish and it's something I enjoy when I'm with the right person.

It took me YEARS to even be able to say the word "tickle" in front of someone and even now, I can't always do it. Plus, I wouldn't say it in front of family, ever!!!

What is this about??? Can anyone relate?

Sweet Sunshine

 

[Dialon]

I relate to that alot, i dont like saying it around anyone either D: I dont really get embarrassed, its more of a different feeling when i say it or something, but i usually go ahead and say it anyways, ive learned not to care too much about that kind of trivial stuff.

 

[-Hari-]

Yeah I get the same thing, not quite as bad now tho.
Its often really hard to view a fetish as the inoocent thing it is to other people.

To us, the word "tickle" siginifies our fetish and taps in to private feelings, to others its just "tickle" a word for an action.

Its taken me a long time to be able to trust that other people dont hear the word tickle and think sex, fetish, etc.

And after a while, saying it doesnt seem so bad, but I still get very shy about it.

I figure it gets better over time if you will it to.

 

[Aimee]

Ugh, I know what you mean.
When I'm around my nephew and they are tickling him or they say, "Go tickle aunt amy!"
I want to run and hide under covers. ESPECIALLY if my mom says it ... I get the worst pukey feeling in the world. Bleh!

And even when I'm with my friends who KNOW about my fetish I can hardly stand to say it or hear about it. One time my friend was telling me my fetish is not weird and she started singing "Tickling isn't weirddd ... ticking isn't weirddddd" and I almost punched her in the face. haha

 

[EvenSteven]

Ditto, Sunshine

i'm with you, Sweet Sunshine. This is a very personal fetish for me and i can only begin to open up with others who share the fetish. i suppose that's part of what makes it so special.

 

[marcusb]

The thing to remember here is to everyone else it's just innocent fun.

Getting angry over it? Mmm. See above statment.

 

[Adam]

I get the same way. I get that "ugh" feeling all over. Angry, not so much, but I certainly feel a bit icky. You are definitely not alone.

 

[Sweet Sunshine]

mammers09, isn't the mom thing the worst???

Also, just to note about the comment I made about being angry....I find the ONLY time I ever get angry about it is when it involves my son. I've actually yelled out, "Leave him alone!!!"

This all sounds so silly to me, I'm trying to understand it....I hate feeling this way.

 

[Adam]

mammers09, isn't the mom thing the worst???

Also, just to note about the comment I made about being angry....I find the ONLY time I ever get angry about it is when it involves my son. I've actually yelled out, "Leave him alone!!!"

This all sounds so silly to me, I'm trying to understand it....I hate feeling this way.

Frankly, I find the anger as it pertains to your son to be understandable. I think I'd be a bit peeved as well.

 

[SwitchShane]

I definitely get that feeling.

I don't like being around when kids are tickled, or how about when you're watching tv with relatives and a tickling scene happens. It often wonder if it makes others feel the same way.

It is so sexual to me that it is disturbing to see adults doing it to kids, echh!

Echh!

~Ms. Shane

 

[marcusb]

Obvioulsy, I don't know the situation when you yelled to leave him alone, but if was innocent fun stuff going on and he didn't appear to be upset by the activity that sounds a bit over the top.

I understand the fear and embarrassment but tickling is playful fun to most people (and maybe to your son too). The taboo is in your head my dear... not sure how to suggest you deal with it. Unfortunately, we have a double meaning for the activity--that can be hard to seperate.

Also, just to note about the comment I made about being angry....I find the ONLY time I ever get angry about it is when it involves my son. I've actually yelled out, "Leave him alone!!!"

This all sounds so silly to me, I'm trying to understand it....I hate feeling this way.

 

[rhiannon]

I know the feeling. But you just have to learn to understand that it is totally innocent and not-sexual for most other people.

 

[Sweet Sunshine]

I'm well aware of that marcus, thank you. I didn't say anyone was hurting him, I'm just asking if others feel the way I feel.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

To us, the word "tickle" siginifies our fetish and taps in to private feelings, to others its just "tickle" a word for an action.

I was watching a movie the other day where this guy was talking repeatedly about getting hit with pie, his various experiences getting hit with pie, and what kind of people do and don't get hit with pie. At first I thought nothing of it, then I was reminded of someone who had once told me they had a hitting people with pie fetish, and I thought about how awkward it may be for them to watch that scene with family or friends or something. I looked at my coworker and thought, she could have a pie fetish and be totally uncomfortable watching these scene with me, and I'd have no idea.

It was a pretty interesting 30 seconds -- I kind of felt like the shoe was on the other foot.

But yeah - I can relate to the OP. Family and tickling just don't mix for me. Even though it's not always sexual, it's always kind of....intimate? And even when it's playful, it's just not something I'm comfortable with when it comes to family.

 

[Sweet Sunshine]

I think for me I find it more "private" than intimate. I am totally able to separate tickling from being sexual....most times I hate that tickling turns sexual because of the person I am with, when I just want to leave it as pure innocent fun.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I think for me I find it more "private" than intimate.

That's what I meant 🙂

 

[c7_assassin]

Yeah, whenever I see anyone tickling someone else I feel like I should avert my eyes, like I'm being a pervert. Almost like I'm watching them have sex.

In fact, I've actually watched people having sex, and it didn't embarrass me like tickling does. How messed up is that?

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

Yeah, whenever I see anyone tickling someone else I feel like I should avert my eyes, like I'm being a pervert. Almost like I'm watching them have sex.

In fact, I've actually watched people having sex, and it didn't embarrass me like tickling does. How messed up is that?

That's because it's expected and acceptable to be interested in sex. Look at how many people watch porn.

 

[Lord Doctor]

I'll say don't worry too much about it first, because the following [load of crap] is too damned long.

I can understand this, most of us probably can. I can hear it without much reaction or embarrassment these days but I can't say it... unless I'm half pissed and I think that those I'm talking with have an interest in it beyond the "norm".

Many of us go through this at some stage, at some level. It's that nagging little part of ourselves that tries to tell us we're messed up for this interest, this craving we have for a good tickle (on either end of the fence).

I sometimes think it's about associations: times in our lives, what tickling is generally associated with in general society and a subconscious fear of being labelled as some sort of monstrous thing, because of those associations.

Or maybe it's a fear of ridicule, as though tickling is in no way serious and we're a bunch of clowns who don't take life seriously.

There are endless reasons.

But here's an observation

It's sort of interesting that the general response (among those I've known for years) when people talk about whips and oil is a wink and when someone talks of tickling, most people cringe in shame - EVEN those who are not interested in it, not even remotely!

I wonder if those who are the most able to say, or tolerate hearing "tickle" are not ticklish.

 

[kis123]

I'm well aware of that marcus, thank you. I didn't say anyone was hurting him, I'm just asking if others feel the way I feel.

Yes I do.

I've always had trouble saying the word "tickle" or holding dialogue about it. Although tickling isn't hard core sexual for me, I'm not too crazy watching anyone tickle my kids. I even got a little tense when my daughter tickled my son; that was a control issue rather than a sexual one. I went through that in my marriage when the ex would use tickling as a way to win arguments; still creeped out over that I guess.

But I do know how you feel but try to come to terms with it as best possible because most see tickling as a fun social kind of thing.

 

[indivision]

I sometimes get uncomfortable if the word is mentioned or if the subject comes up. Though, I do feel a little imbalanced if the person talking about tickling is an authority figure, is very authoritative, has a very strong personality, etc. Tickling for me is such a light-hearted thing that it seems strange if such people talk about it.

For example, back in college, a professor of mine once mentioned tickling. I can't remember the context, but tickling was briefly mentioned. She (the prof) was a very strong-willed woman with a very strong personality, and she could be a little tempermental at times, too. It seemed weird to hear her talk about tickling.

 

[tommytikl]

mammers09, isn't the mom thing the worst???

Also, just to note about the comment I made about being angry....I find the ONLY time I ever get angry about it is when it involves my son. I've actually yelled out, "Leave him alone!!!"

This all sounds so silly to me, I'm trying to understand it....I hate feeling this way.

I believe its because for you( and others who get that "icky" feeling) is that you can't separate the fun kind of tickling from the sexual feelings you get from tickling. For those whose sexuality is tied to tickling so strongly,a simple display of tickling of a minor is tantamount to inappropriate sexual touching of a minor.

I think that is why you/those who get the icky's react so strongly because tickling is a sexual private thing, and you are seeing it out in the open.

 

[Tickler Bart]

The word 'tickle' or any variation of the word gets me VERY uncomfortable around 'vanilla' people. There are times that I DO get pissed off because, then I say to myself, 'THEY KNOW! I DIDN'T WANT ANYONE TO KNOW! NOW IT'S ALL FUCKED UP. DAMN IT!' Then I cannot look at these people or be around them, which makes matters worse because then they see that something is wrong & THEN they start prying into my personal biznez (I know how to spell business, just wanted to spell it funky).
However . . . since going to NEST & the Tampa Foot Fetish Parties for a few years, I can talk about it a LITTLE more freely, but at work . . . that's a different story.

 

[TicklerChampion]

Embarrassed? Not so much, but hey that's me. I see "tickling" as a whole as fun. But then again it all depends on who I'm with. If I would be with a signifigant other(when I get one, lol) then it would be more in the range of being private I suppose. With friends I guess it fall more along the lines of being playful fun. Family... hmmm I'd file that under weird.

But being embarrassed about it is and ok reaction. Don't sweat it. Anger though, hmm, thats an odd one for sure. Just keep that in check.

 

[TexasTicklin]

Hi Everyone!

All my life even a mention of the word tickle leaves me embarrassed...

I HATE being at family gatherings and having the kids running around tickling everyone, or listening to people threaten to tickle my child. I can't STAND it!
I'd say it even makes me angry...

I do LOVE my fetish and it's something I enjoy when I'm with the right person.

It took me YEARS to even be able to say the word "tickle" in front of someone and even now, I can't always do it. Plus, I wouldn't say it in front of family, ever!!!

What is this about??? Can anyone relate?

Sweet Sunshine

Are we related? LOL
I feel the exact same way.

I *still* can't really say the word tickle, and it even embarrasses me in front of my husband, who is an active participant in my fetish. LOL.

I was raised in an enviornment where there was *no* tickling. None. Ever. I guess this accounts for my sort of shame at talking about it.

As far as your child being tickled, you have a right to feel that way. IMO, I think it is unacceptable for a stranger/remote family member to put their hands on a child like that. It can easily be misinterpreted, even if it is innocent. My youngest child is tickled occasionally, as babies often are. 🙂 Personally, I feel that as a child ages it becomes inappropriate even for a parent to tickle, although I respect that some people may not feel that way.

I still think we are related!