Ever been with somebody who really should have figured it out?

[LD_Tickler]

Anyone ever been in a situation like this? Where the clues are all right there but nobody picks up on it? It's funny to think about in relation to how paranoid some people are about being discovered.

 

[chicago]

I probably drop hints that I'm completely unaware of if I'm really attracted to someone, but ultimately, I like to just tell the person I'm with. You can never be too sure about how much they've figured out themselves, no matter how many hints you put out there.

 

[LD_Tickler]

Well in this case, my relationship with her is strictly "friends with benefits." I tend not to come right out and say it unless there's real emotion and trust between us, some kind of long term relationship.

This is too casual to be that open, in my opinion, though I don't think I'd care much if she did figure it out. I'm just shocked that she hasn't.

 

[chicago]

Is it possible she has and is just playing along? That's always a suspicion of mine for some reason.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

No. He was too fucking dense. But if he had been a little more perceptive, I would say this applies.

 

[LD_Tickler]

Is it possible she has and is just playing along? That's always a suspicion of mine for some reason.

It's possible, but given how much our previous conversations have been saturated with "I know something you don't know" and "I'm going to discover your secret" kind of talk, I can't imagine why she wouldn't have proudly stated it and spent the rest of the day boasting.

 

[TheTickleMonster]

lol.. eh, it doesn't matter if they don't figure it out lol, as long as you get to tickle them 😛

and you're lucky, i could use a friends with bennefits thing 😛

 

[Perduabo]

Nope. Its too much a part of my sexual makeup to pussyfoot around and try to be subtle with.

I've been upfront about my tickling fetish with everyone I have been involved in. If they disapprove or do not want or make at least a token effort for me, then I can't date them. Its just too ingrained for me to change my behavior patterns for someone. I wouldn't expect it from them.

 

[Soda Bobinski]

Anyone ever been in a situation like this? Where the clues are all right there but nobody picks up on it?

The reason for that , I think , is that for most people who aren't us , the idea that tickling can be something that causes sexual arousal just never crosses their minds ... until they're finally presented w/it , of course.

 

[Tiger.Lily]

You're tickling her during sex and she doesn't get it yet?

 

[rhiannon]

I'm with mtTicklemonster here....why is it important that she knows if she lets you do it? 🙂

And if you tickle her all the time, she probably does know! No guy ever told me "Hey, I like sex". It was always kinda obvious! 🙂

 

[LD_Tickler]

The reason for that , I think , is that for most people who aren't us , the idea that tickling can be something that causes sexual arousal just never crosses their minds ... until they're finally presented w/it , of course.

I hear you, only she's been looking for the thing I wouldn't tell her, so I'm surprised she hasn't considered it.

You're tickling her during sex and she doesn't get it yet?

Well it's not like I'm letting loose with reckless abandon. I mostly pass it off as just teasing her when we're having sex with bondage.

I'm with mtTicklemonster here....why is it important that she knows if she lets you do it? 🙂

It's not, I just find it interesting that, even when she knows I have a "secret" fetish, tickling is so far from her mind that she doesn't put two and two together when it's staring her in the face.

 

[rhiannon]

It's not, I just find it interesting that, even when she knows I have a "secret" fetish, tickling is so far from her mind that she doesn't put two and two together when it's staring her in the face.

Maybe she has and just doesn't feel it's necessary to say so. 🙂

 

[c7_assassin]

My last girlfriend was always dying to know why I never let her use my computer without my supervision. She was a bit vanilla, I don't know how she would have reacted to my clip stash (probably somewhere between and 😱...)

But I think every girl I've been serious about probably knew about my kink. When you tickle a girl's feet during doggy-style I think that's a pretty obvious clue... But I never actually came right out and said "By the way, it turns me on when I tickle you."

Of course, not telling them meant I never got to experience the 'lee side of things... 🙁

 

[TheTickleMonster]

The reason for that , I think , is that for most people who aren't us , the idea that tickling can be something that causes sexual arousal just never crosses their minds ... until they're finally presented w/it , of course.

i think that's very well put..

 

[LD_Tickler]

Maybe she has and just doesn't feel it's necessary to say so. 🙂

Bragging rights are not something that my friends and I forego 😉

 

[Sweet Sunshine]

The reason for that , I think , is that for most people who aren't us , the idea that tickling can be something that causes sexual arousal just never crosses their minds ... until they're finally presented w/it , of course.

Perfectly said!!! That is just what I was thinking.

Also, someone mentioned that they wished they had a "friends + benefits" thing. It's not all it's cracked up to be. I have a friend that I did this with and as much as you don't want feelings to come into play, unfortunately for some of us they do.

 

[waitin2btkled]

Yes

A few weeks ago, was with a girl who I found out likes tickling and i told her I like it as well. We met up, tickled each other for a quick minute or two between making out. When she had to leave, i kept grabbing her sides as she tried to put her shoes on which lasted almost 2 minutes. She then leaned back and said "Whoa, that shouldn't still be up?" Talk about thinking of the nastiest thing to get it down.


That almost happened a second time with her. What is most annoying is she doesn't even have a computer at her house. Time will tell with this one....

 

[Lea28]

That's the down-side of it...

My last girlfriend was always dying to know why I never let her use my computer without my supervision. She was a bit vanilla, I don't know how she would have reacted to my clip stash (probably somewhere between and 😱...)

But I think every girl I've been serious about probably knew about my kink. When you tickle a girl's feet during doggy-style I think that's a pretty obvious clue... But I never actually came right out and said "By the way, it turns me on when I tickle you."

Of course, not telling them meant I never got to experience the 'lee side of things... 🙁

Pls trust this... if you tickle a woman during sex and she seems to like it, and you know she does, and she does not reciprocate that's just selfish or lazy or wayyyy too inhibited. No fun for you! She's missing alot of fun too 😉
Lea