ever think....

[trifalcon4]

that maybe we over-complicate our fetish?

 

[john getty]

How do you mean?

 

[DEEPSHOTONE]

Yes...

 

[Cy/MiG]

Probably. But that doesn't make our 'fetish' any less complicated.

 

[marcusb]

I think people do ALL the time... and the word "fetish" is the biggest reason. I think it's grossly misused around here.

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[No_Style]

🙄

I think people do ALL the time... and the word "fetish" is the biggest reason. I think it's grossly misused around here.

very true🙄

 

[trifalcon4]

fetish, passion, hobby, kink... i imagine its whatever you make of it.

what would you describe tickling, to you, if not a fetish?

 

[john getty]

fetish, passion, hobby, kink... i imagine its whatever you make of it.

what would you describe tickling, to you, if not a fetish?

desire, fixation, preoccupation . . .

I've just looked in the thesaurus.

 

[marcusb]

Cuz people get stuck on "the word" fetish. Most here truely do not have a fetish, by defintion. They have normal sex lives and like tickling. So, tell your partner/friend/lover/pal/whatever you like to be tickled... why throw the word in there? Why do you need a "special" label for your interest?

I mean... do guys who like boobs run around saying they have a boob fetish? No. They just "like tits". See?

fetish, passion, hobby, kink... i imagine its whatever you make of it.

what would you describe tickling, to you, if not a fetish?

 

[trifalcon4]

sigh. it certainly doesnt feel so much like a fetish/kink these days given the huge number of people on the forums. on the one hand i think it must be awesome for someone just discovering they like tickling more than "normal"

but on the other it definitely doesnt make me feel like i've got something unique going on anymore 😉

 

[Juhnetiks]

By definition, a fetish is something that has to be present for complete sexual gratification.

So really, it depends on what kind of tickle enthusiast a person happens to be.

If someone really likes being tickled, but doesn't need it to get off (whether fantasizing or actually getting/giving it), then it's just a kink or they "like" it.

However, if someone absolutely has to have some kind of tickling in their sexual endeavors to get off and feel satisfied, whether they have to think about it, get it, or receive it in some way, shape or form, then they have a tickle fetish.

...but I agree that it could be brought up by saying you like to be tickled, rather than you have a tickle fetish. It sounds a lot less taboo and could be eased into easier that way.

=]

 

[rhiannon]

I do not think that the word "fetish" is the only "problem" about it. I was very very young when I already knew that tickling was something that I liked more than others. Back then I didn't even know I liked to be tickled, it just aroused me seeing other getting tickled. I got an orgasm thinking about tickling before I knew what sex or an orgasm even was.

And all that time I instinctively felt embarrassed about it. Even when I knew about sex and kinks and everything, even when I knew I was not alone with this preferrence, I was still embarrassed, because it was not what everybody liked! People who are different usually get isolated, especially when they are in a certain age frame.

When I grew older, I got more confident about myself, who I am and what I like, and I lost that embarrassment. But then, I am a lee, which is not so much a problem than being a ler. When you are a ler, you have a second problem, namely that you basically like to torture people, and that is generally frowned upon.

The secret is letting people know that never anything would happen against their will.

 

[trifalcon4]

Agreed. And for a ler, or someone who has ler tendencies, I think there's the issue of "I love to torture people, but do I have self control?". Likewise for lees there can be the same issue.... "I love being tortured, but do I still have self-control/can I set boundaries for myself"

 

[helplessandhappy]

Well it's definitely a fetish for some of us. I've never once orgasmed without focusing intensely on something related to tickle torture. Like Rhiannon, I experienced this long before I even knew what sex or orgasms were. To me, tickling and sex are the same thing, or rather, tickling is even MORE sexual than sex. I definitely can't separate the two, and I feel sick at the thought of tickling anyone I wouldn't want to strip naked and fuck. It just can't happen with the way my brain is wired.

I used to consider it a paraphilia, and there were times I've tried to deny it because I never thought I'd find anyone to share it with. But if I'm being totally honest, I was always kidding myself. It's a fetish. I can't have a satisfying sex life without it.

 

[ArchNemesis]

You're right, we do over complicate it. In the end, all any of us really wants is to cum. I mean as far as the sexual part of our lives, that is. All any of us really cares about is cumming, getting off, getting a momentarily relief from horniness. For me, cumming is just like taking a piss, I just want relief. And for me tickling just happens to make it a lot easier for me to cum. Not all that complicated.

 

[trifalcon4]

Well it's definitely a fetish for some of us. I've never once orgasmed without focusing intensely on something related to tickle torture. Like Rhiannon, I experienced this long before I even knew what sex or orgasms were. To me, tickling and sex are the same thing, or rather, tickling is even MORE sexual than sex. I definitely can't separate the two, and I feel sick at the thought of tickling anyone I wouldn't want to strip naked and fuck. It just can't happen with the way my brain is wired.

I used to consider it a paraphilia, and there were times I've tried to deny it because I never thought I'd find anyone to share it with. But if I'm being totally honest, I was always kidding myself. It's a fetish. I can't have a satisfying sex life without it.

Some of seems to be this way... it's part of our sexuality, part of our identity. I often joke about how "vanillas miss all the good stuff". Not sure if that's completely true, but I'm pretty sure we're in different worlds (so to speak).