Extramarital Tickling

[tiklir]

Being married to a woman who hates being tickled and not being very ticklish if at all, has been challenging to say the least. However I have met a woman who has found herself in the same role but reversed.
Her husband has little interest in this interest of ours, the same can be said of my wife. But our spouses are very supportive of us. Our first actual encounter took place last evening. We met in a public place and found a secluded area to "play" in. Her husband was a fine gentleman who even helped scout out areas for play.
I tickled her nyloned pretty feet for well over an hour to both of our delight, and she laughed pleasurably, not screaming or creating a scene. I was very impressed with the selflessness of her husband, as she is a very attractive young lady. My wife also being so loving and supportive to allow this to take place.
I wanted to share this with others in the group who find themselves in similar situations. There is hope for us...but this did not happen overnight. We have been chatting for many months , slowly building trust and a relationship as friends. Also being up front with our spouses. Before anyone responds with the question, no sex is involved. Just pure joyful, playful tickling. It was a delightful evening, the start of hopefully many more.

 

[TKLDNSNE]

I think that is awesome. I have had this fetish ever since I was a small boy. My wife is more of a Ler than a Lee. Which makes it hard on me. She is cool though because she will reverse rolls with me. I know she would have no problem meeting others into tickling. I am sure she would even go with me to a gathering sometime. Gongrats on our spouses being so cool.

 

[stloldg]

I agree your hit the lottery, my wife don't like to be tickled and don't like to be part of my fantasies. She want to know about them so she can shoot them down. She said that tickling is sexual and is cheating.

 

[isabeau]

I agree your hit the lottery, my wife don't like to be tickled and don't like to be part of my fantasies. She want to know about them so she can shoot them down. She said that tickling is sexual and is cheating.

ahhh sounds exactly like my husband. and no way in hell would he let me meet someone to tickle me with him present. you are lucky that you got spouses that let you do it. and nothing i say to him will convince him otherwise than that it is sexual. and also he has no interest in it himself

isabeau

 

[sole seeker]

tiklir and NSNE you guys are very lucky. My wife is not crazy about tickling, although she will allow it from time to time. I just wish she enjoyed it. I'm sure she lets me tickle her to keep me from straying into another, tickle-based relationship.

Sometime back, I worked with a guy who said that his wife wasn't jealous if he found another woman sexually stimulating, because he was faithful. In his words, "she doesn't care where I work up an appetite, as long as I come home to eat!"

 

[drew70]

Extramarital sex is wrong, unless the spouses are okay with it, i.e. swingers. Extramarital tickling is different in my opinion, depending on the nature of it. If the two are alone in a hotel for example, that's pretty risky. Things tend to get out of hand. Even if no sexual activity occurs, it still "looks bad."

But tickling or being tickled at a gathering for example, should not be considered cheating. There's no sexual contact, at least at any of the gatherings I've been privileged to attend. This is just my opinion, so feel free to disagree.

 

[Bagelfather]

Extramarital sex is wrong, unless the spouses are okay with it, i.e. swingers. Extramarital tickling is different in my opinion, depending on the nature of it. If the two are alone in a hotel for example, that's pretty risky. Things tend to get out of hand. Even if no sexual activity occurs, it still "looks bad."

But tickling or being tickled at a gathering for example, should not be considered cheating. There's no sexual contact, at least at any of the gatherings I've been privileged to attend. This is just my opinion, so feel free to disagree.

It is cheating, just not the same intimacy level as sex. What if you, or your spouse, were to go out and just kiss other people. I am not talking about a peck on the cheek, I am talking full french toungue tango. Is that cheating? Would you feel hurt if your spouse did that regularly and didn't tell you?

It's not sexual, there is no sexual contact, so why would tickling be okay and kissing be wrong?

I think a lot of people here are justifying something in their own head to make it right in their actions. If you have consent then it is not cheating.

I know some people who have consent to play with others so long as they tell their partner. What if you did play but didn't tell the partner, that is cheating. If you feel that it is worth the risk, and is not serious enough to warrant someone being upset that is your choice. Just don't be all "I didn't know" when he/she comes to you and confronts you on the issue of cheating. Don't lie to yourself to justify your own actions.

You are not only hurting yourself, you are hurting someone else. That is a selfish act. I am not innocent in regards to cheating or being cheated on in my life, but I recognize it as such.

(this is not directed at the person I am quoting, it is a general coment)

 

[phfttklr]

It's only cheating if there is affection involved. It can't be cheating if it's just tickling because then you are saying that all tickling involves affection on an intimate level and therefore, subject to investigation if you tickle children. There is, for some or most people, a seperation between sexual and playful tickling. I'm sure a lot of tickling that goes on at the gatherings are only on a playful level.
French kissing and tickling are on two completely different levels. I've playfully tickled people I have no interest, sexually, in and never french kissed anyone I was not sexually interested in. You can't even remotely use that as an anology.

Would it be considered cheating if one were to hug someone of the opposite sex?
What about same sex tickling? Is it cheating if two males or two females were to tickle each other? It's still tickling and there are gay relationships so...

Hell, my last relationship, my ex g/f hated me even mentioning a female friends name, let alone hug or tickle someone else. ( that's why she's an ex 😉 ) Consider yourself lucky tiklir.

To me, it all comes down to feelings and honesty. If tickling is purely sexual to you and you're hiding it, then that's cheating.



" Define IT " - William J Clinton

 

[LoveSoles81]

I could never be in a relationship with a girl that wasnt into tickling

 

[drew70]

It is cheating, just not the same intimacy level as sex. What if you, or your spouse, were to go out and just kiss other people. I am not talking about a peck on the cheek, I am talking full french toungue tango. Is that cheating? Would you feel hurt if your spouse did that regularly and didn't tell you?

It's not sexual, there is no sexual contact, so why would tickling be okay and kissing be wrong?

I think a lot of people here are justifying something in their own head to make it right in their actions. If you have consent then it is not cheating.

I know some people who have consent to play with others so long as they tell their partner. What if you did play but didn't tell the partner, that is cheating. If you feel that it is worth the risk, and is not serious enough to warrant someone being upset that is your choice. Just don't be all "I didn't know" when he/she comes to you and confronts you on the issue of cheating. Don't lie to yourself to justify your own actions.

You are not only hurting yourself, you are hurting someone else. That is a selfish act. I am not innocent in regards to cheating or being cheated on in my life, but I recognize it as such.

(this is not directed at the person I am quoting, it is a general coment)

I've heard and considered this line of thinking before. I don't agree with your kissing analogy, because the type of kissing you quite hilariously describe (full French Tongue Tango) seldom occurs outside of a sexual relationship. One would be hard pressed to pass such kissing off as plutonic. Tickling on the other hand occurs between friends...relatives...and among children. While some my get off on tickling, it's not a sexual act unless it's deliberately made to be, such as tickling of the private parts, or mixing tickling with stroking, etc.

Some people view any kind of tickling as sexual. To them, the act of tickling is a sexual act, and they are either completely unwilling or incapable of seeing it in any other context. It's been my experience that this is the type of mindset that generally fosters the "tickling is cheating" notion. Thankfully, my wife doesn't subscribe to this notion. Tickling isn't sexual for her, though she loves to dish it out. If I were to have sex with another woman, or even simply to indulge in full French tongue tango, my wife would be crushed, and my marriage would likely be over. Yet she won't hesitate to coerce her female friends and relatives to tickle me, because she knows I love it so much.

In short, cheating might be defined as "breaking the rules." If there are no rules regarding tickling, there's no cheating.

 

[isabeau]

welll i just asked my husband if he would consider it cheating if a female tickled me, and he said yes. i cannot win.

isabeau

 

[TicklishSinner]

wow, that is awesome that the spouses are so supportive...my husband is into tickling, but i think if he werent im not so sure he would allow me to endulge even if he were apart or anything.

 

[TickledToDeath]

If it is done on the sly.......without the knowledge and or approval of the husband/wife/significant other, then it is cheating and wrong.
IF the green light is given, knoledge and approval clear and present, I fail to see anything wrong.
Key is totaly approval and knowledge and then it is up to the players to KNOW what to and not to do and make DAMN sure no lines are crossed and ALL is clear and understanding.