Fakers

[puretickling]

I'm feeling uneasy.
Why?

Because I am mad at fakers.
These are people who arrange to meet up with you then not respond back to you.

My last 3 fakers:
1. Someone wanted to get me tied and tickled in Houston but they bailed on me when I mentioned I only like to be tickled on my feet.

2. Someone arranged to meet me, but on the day of the meet, he never showed up at the motel, and I wasted $45 for that motel room.

3. Someone arranged to tickle me in my college, but he later blocked me from emailing him, calling him, and even messaging him on fetlife. It happened with no reason.

This has discouraged me from setting up tickle meets.

 

[Candygirl]

There can't just be "no" reason. I'm sure there's something you are not seeing, or accidentally leaving out. One person flaking out on you is understandable. But a string of them seems to be something that needs to be looked into the mirror for to find a reason. Not trying to call you out or start anything, just offering some insight from someone on the outside.

Let it be a lesson though. Let THEM pay for the room to begin with. If they want to meet you, and put their hands on you, it's a privilege, not a given. Don't waste your money on something that you are unsure about. #themoreyouknow

 

[Comfort Eagle]

You should probably have at least 1 "regular" meeting with someone before setting up a tickle date. Could just be they wussed out without necessarily a problem on your end or them being "fakers".

 

[C.A.B.]

Who knows what motivates these whackadoos to do what they do. Some of them just get off on hearing that you are into it and thats enough for their fantasy. You might just be unknowing jerk fodder. Try developing a platonic relationship without fetish involved to weed out the short attention span spank-monkeys.

 

[DontAskJusTckle]

1. Someone wanted to get me tied and tickled in Houston but they bailed on me when I mentioned I only like to be tickled on my feet.

How is that "faking," exactly? You've got your preferences. Is he not permitted to have his own?

2. Someone arranged to meet me, but on the day of the meet, he never showed up at the motel, and I wasted $45 for that motel room.

Maybe he got "cold feet."

3. Someone arranged to tickle me in my college, but he later blocked me from emailing him, calling him, and even messaging him on fetlife. It happened with no reason.

Yeah, when you get blocked like that, it's usually a sign you're pursuing someone too aggressively. The fact that you're after him on three different venues would be unsettling to almost anyone.

This has discouraged me from setting up tickle meets.

Probably a wise decision, I agree.

 

[chicago]

Typically when the only commonality is tickling and the only reason for meeting is casual play, there seems to be a lot more instances of getting stood up. Maybe, if you get to know people as friends first, they will be more likely to meet?

Also, I've found a lot of people are not who they say they are online, so likely they just want to talk about what would happen if they met up with you versus actually going through with it. Again, getting to know someone past the tickling thing can help you start to notice who is real and who is probably fake.

 

[Soda Bobinski]

I'm feeling uneasy.
Why?

Because I am mad at fakers.

Absolutely. Why wouldn't you be?

 

[ElFewja]

I just... I came here to make a real response, to actually discuss the matter... but then Soda puts up that pic and.. it's all I can think about. Why you do that to He Man!? WHhhhyyyyyyyy!?

Anyway, more on subject.

For one, I wouldn't straight up reserve a hotel/motel room before you've met the person. Additionally, there's no way in hell I would ever meet up with someone from the internet in a private -- as opposed to public -- setting for the first time. Hell, I'm still nervous to do it in a public setting half the time. I suggest setting up a meet at somewhere like a restaurant before you go anywhere else not only for your own safety but to express mutual wariness (if that made sense).

At any rate if you're going to try to meet up with almost complete strangers here then I recommend you prepare yourself for such encounters. People flake: they reconsider, decide reward to risk ratio isn't worthwhile, decide it's not worth their time or in their best interests.. whatever. They're also people, you know? Of course I'm just going to flat out disregard the idea of troll accounts because, well, nothing need be said about that. Check post history and the date the person registered to the forums before you contact, you know?

 

[milagros317]

I suggest going to a gathering rather than setting up a one-on-one tickling encounter.

 

[Soda Bobinski]

I just... I came here to make a real response, to actually discuss the matter... but then Soda puts up that pic and.. it's all I can think about. Why you do that to He Man!? WHhhhyyyyyyyy!?

That ain't He-Man. Those're Faker He-Mans.

You just got fizzaked the fuck out.

 

[porcelaindoll2]

I can speak from experience never ever reserve a motel/hotel room before hand. I had to learn this the hard way. All it took was one time and I never did it again. Although funny thing the Dom that stood me up finally did meet me and owned me for a while. He was a douchebag, so I ended it. Flakes and fakes are just apart of the lifestyle. "Just keep swimming" and going to munches/gatherings could help.

 

[Antarion]

Fakers?...

You're saying this like they owe you something, chief. All they did was have a chat with you. They owe you nothing. They have all the right to back out on you if they don't want to do something clearly sexual to you.

 

[chicago]

Fakers?...

You're saying this like they owe you something, chief. All they did was have a chat with you. They owe you nothing. They have all the right to back out on you if they don't want to do something clearly sexual to you.

I think the 'fakers' find it sexual too, otherwise, why would they agree to it in the first place?

 

[rhiannon]

All they did was have a chat with you.

Well, from what he's saying they were agreeing to a meeting. So there was somewhat more than a chat. Unless they didn't really and he talked them into something. But I'm amazed to see that also guys who are supposed to do the tickling flake out. Didn't expect that to be honest.

 

[Sandrock74]

Absolutely. Why wouldn't you be?

I was gonna say something on this but Faker just totally made me laugh so hard, I forgot what I was going to say. LOL!! Faker....

 

[Indigo Resolve]

I approach tickling just as I approach women.. just as I approach finding a job. It's usually long, tedious expressions of interest and credentials. Meeting up is very akin to the interviewing process and you can be dumped/denied at any time with or without notice. Only until a session actually happens is when you're hired. It's the nature of the business.

 

[Indigo Resolve]

Who knows what motivates these whackadoos to do what they do. Some of them just get off on hearing that you are into it and thats enough for their fantasy. You might just be unknowing jerk fodder. Try developing a platonic relationship without fetish involved to weed out the short attention span spank-monkeys.

Yup. It's a form of non consensual cyber. Complete waste of time for the party actually trying to make something happen.

 

[Antarion]

The fact that the other guys find it sexual too is even more reason why they should be able to back out at the drop of a hat.

 

[rhiannon]

The fact that the other guys find it sexual too is even more reason why they should be able to back out at the drop of a hat.

Amazing! I never met a guy before in my LIFE who backed out of something sexual!

 

[Antarion]

Maybe the fact that it would be Dude on Dude might be a factor...

 

[chicago]

Maybe the fact that it would be Dude on Dude might be a factor...

Why? His profile clearly states he's male so it's not like he's portraying himself as something else. Nothing wrong with m/m.

 

[Antarion]

Nothing wrong with m/m.

To you, maybe not. To them? Maybe. Saying that you have to be committed to tickling someone if you say you will is like saying that just because a woman said she'd have sex with you she owes you sex. That isn't cool.

 

[chicago]

To you, maybe not. To them? Maybe. Saying that you have to be committed to tickling someone if you say you will is like saying that just because a woman said she'd have sex with you she owes you sex. That isn't cool.

I didn't get that anywhere from this guy. I mean, I can understand the frustration behind wanting to have some tickle play and your partner ends up flaking out on you AFTER agreeing to meet up. Granted, in that type of situation, one should expect that there will be a lot of backing out at the last minute. It's happened to a lot of us who have met people online before. I mean, if a person was uncomfortable with meeting up, then they should be an adult about it and just say that instead of wasting peoples time.

 

[rhiannon]

To you, maybe not. To them?

Well, then they should make that clear right away and not after a meeting was set up. I also don't organize meetings with girls because I'm just not into girls. And I know that from the beginning!

 

[AlexisDay11]

I feel your frustration. Hopefully one of these times it works out for you 🙂