First Crushes

[Vanillaphant]

Bonsoir, bonsoir. 😀

So I thought I’d ask about forum members’ first crushes - or first major crushes, if you prefer. Not about who they were per se, but about our attitudes towards them now, as adults – cos I think that’s a more interesting subject.

For instance, if your first crush was a celebrity, how do you feel about them now? If you were given the opportunity, would you want to meet them now? And do you think, because of the strength of those early feelings, you’d be more starstruck/tongue-tied than if you were meeting a more famous celebrity/a celebrity that you’ve come to admire in more recent years, or not?

And for those whose first crush was just an ordinary person – a classmate from one’s schooldays or whatever – did you ever bump into them as an adult? If so, how did you feel towards them? And if you didn’t… Let’s say you were to… Like if you just happened to spot said person from across the street… Would you feel the need to go over and say hello? Or would you leave them be? Also, has anybody looked up – or even entertained the idea of looking up (through social networking sites, for instance) – their first crush just to say hello? And if not, is it because of a fear of looking like a bit of a creepy muthahumpa? lol

Cheeyers! 🙂

 

[teamtickleguy]

Aaah the memories such a thread is destined to stir 🙂
Certainly I can related to a number of the scenarios you touch on

My first crush was in the last year of Primary School, circa 1993/4, so before the days of social media and when 11 year olds didn't really have a mobile phone or email address.

Background: The girl had only joined our year group in the penultimate year, but we quickly we took to each other, although I was far too shy to acknowledge the 'crush' aspect of my feelings in amidst a class of emerging teens keen to matchmake and put me in a position I would be terrified of.
On our last day at that school, in the knowledge we were moving on to different Secondary Schools, she ran up to me on the street afterwards and hugged me and said 'I love you'.

Now: I strongly remember that last encounter, such a strange thing to think that someone so young said that to you so many years ago. I remembered her fondly for years, always regretting that my young age/inexperience had prevented me from finding a way in which to stay in touch.

I can give a slight insight to what I'd have felt if I'd have bumped into her as an adult - during a local carnival, a girl that looked just like her and acted with the same mannerisms joined my group of friends briefly to speak with one of them before disappearing - my heart was absolutely pounding as I was half-certain it was her and gutted that a) she didn't recognise me and therefore perhaps had not remembered me as fondly as I had her and b) she ran off again so quickly without any chance to really interact with me.
However, I knew that my crush had many sisters, and it turned out that this girl was actually one of them.

The encounter did prompt me to look my crush up on social media and through Google - she was not on any social media, but I discovered on Google where she is now based and what she is doing professionally.

I did also contact two of her Sisters through facebook, to see how she was getting on and I was sad to hear that she'd had a fairly troubled time and they were no longer in touch with her. Indeed I recently found a photo online in which she did not look too well - certainly not the bouncy, fresh faced tomboy crush I knew from school.

This made me feel sad because a) it sort of removed the fantasy that we could meet again as older versions of the same people and the spark would reignite and b) it reveals a shallow aspect of my character, as this discovery has diminished my enthusiasm to make contact again.
If she did appear on social media, I would definitely say hello - I often look up former schoolmates on there, but to contact her after having eventually 'tracked her down' online at her workplace would certainly make me feel a little bit like a 'creepy muthahumpa'!


In terms of celeb crushes, my first was probably Cindy O'Callaghan, who played 'Carrie' in Bedknobs and Broomstics.
I don't tend to think of her at all now - even at the time, the film was fairly old, so I was aware she was much older than me and I didn't want to ever look her up in case I found photos of her much older and it spoilt the fantasy. The crush was more on the character she played rather than the actress.

Anna Chlumsky of 'My Girl' fame came next and at this point, with the internet emerging, it was easier to follow someone and discover more material featuring them and to find about more about their personal lives and other interests/activities - I still feel a bit soppy about her and would absolutely love to meet her and would actually probably feel affectionate towards them rather than starstruck, as their current 'state' is clearly far removed from the 'crush' version of them from my youth.

I'd be far more tongue-tied if I was to bump into a current crush such as Emma Watson because the instant image would be identical to the sort of images I see of her on a regular basis - I would be meeting my exact crush.
I'd prefer to meet her post-fame, regardless of what age she might be at that stage.

Cheers
TTG

 

[Vanillaphant]

Oh wow. That is an amazing reply, TTG. And a little bit heartbreaking! If there are any screenwriters on the TMF, they are probably taking notes from that post! lol

Thanks for contributing. 🙂


Hmm. Maybe we need a goofy story now - for the sake of balance lol. Anybody?

 

[milagros317]

My first crush was on Kim Novak, the actress, after seeing her in the film Bell, Book, and Candle when I was nine years old. Anybody who has seen the film can guess why.

No, I would not want to meet her today. She would now be 82 years old.

 

[Vanillaphant]

My first crush was on Kim Novak, the actress, after seeing her in the film Bell, Book, and Candle[/I ] when I was nine years old. Anybody who has seen the film can guess why.

No, I would not want to meet her today. She would now be 82 years old.

I can understand that - both the crush and the 82 year-old thing lol. She was very attractive, though.

 

[Libertine]

My first crush was on Kim Novak, the actress, after seeing her in the film Bell, Book, and Candle when I was nine years old. Anybody who has seen the film can guess why.

From a Wikipedia synopsis: During the Christmas holiday season, Greenwich Village witch Gillian Holroyd (Kim Novak), a free spirit with a penchant for going barefoot, has been unlucky in love and restless in life...

 

[milagros317]

From a Wikipedia synopsis: During the Christmas holiday season, Greenwich Village witch Gillian Holroyd (Kim Novak), a free spirit with a penchant for going barefoot, has been unlucky in love and restless in life...

Yes, that is why. Not only does she go barefoot in many scenes in the movie, but also many characters (including Kim herself) discuss the fact that she goes barefoot.

 

[Druidici]

My first crush was a childhood friend. She was a couple years older than me and I used to tickle her from time to time,especially her feet. I hear she works for a news station in Tennessee. Its been years since I've seen her and I probably wouldn't get together with her again,I hear she's kinda snobby.

My first celebrity crush would have been Adrienne Barbeau. Since Maude and Cannonball Run.

 

[trainman3004]

My first crush was the younger sister of a classmate. I was in third grade she was in second. I remember staring at her mesmerized LOL. Their family moved away that year, never saw her again. My first celebrity crush was Marie Osmond. Would still like to meet her and more importantly would love to tickle her goofy 😀

 

[teamtickleguy]

My first celebrity crush was Marie Osmond.

The mention of Marie Osmond sparks all sorts of interesting thoughts in my mind about crushes and chronology, but I'm not sure exactly how to articulate them.....

I had an immediate crush on Marie Osmond when I first discovered her in 1999, when I was about 16 years old - I saw an old video of her on TOTP2 (UK archive music show) singing 'Paper Roses' - the video was from 1973 when she was aged 14, but looked more like 19 - my assumption on seeing the video was that she was at least 19, possibly older.

It's strange to think that at the age of 16 I developed a crush on a 26 year old vision of somebody whom, in this vision, I'd presumed to be a few years older than me, but who was actually two years younger than me.........regardless of that, I was desperate for it to be a brand new video, but of course the reality was that Marie Osmond was actually around 40 years old and I'd developed an affection for something that essentially did not exist anymore.

When I watch that video now, I still have an instant crush on her.....I'm now approaching 30 and Marie Osmond of course remains 14 years old in that video. Should I feel guilty about that?! I don't know....

Interestingly, I find Marie just as attractive now, in her glamorous 50s, as I did when I first saw her in that video, when she was aged 14.
But, the difference now is that I just find her attractive in the physical sense.....it's not a complete crush, it's not exciting, it's not a fantasy and I have no way of relating to her anymore as I've not been exposed to any of her work.

Therefore, I presume this crush was a result of falling for a pretty face, singing a pretty song, featuring lyrics I Identified with.

It's also interesting to note how in the 1970s Marie was made to look older than her true age, but in very different ways to which young celebrities (and the general public following suit) are made (or choose) to look older than their true age today.


As ever,
Cheers,
TTG