First post from shy female long time lurker

[AffectionateDan]

I guess I missed a soap opera somewhere...

😕

 

[dtrell]

Nobody repeatedly badgered me, aside from a couple obligatory jerks. I responded to each PM I was sent because I thought it was the polite thing to do. I was being sincere, just because I made a complete fool of myself doesn't mean that I came on here with the intention to deceive anyone. I did make the first move and PM a couple people in the chat room, but I did want to get to know the people before I ever would have met them in person. Believe me I am sorry. Just be happy that I'm going, ok? I won't be bothering you anymore, and I am fully aware that I was seen as a slut. It's not the way I usually am perceived, but maybe other people just don't see me for what I am. I don't know how else to apologize to all of you. There were a couple nights that I know I came on here, but I don't really remember, and I refuse to make excuses for that (it was self induced). Look, I don't know what else to say.
Just be glad another loser is leaving the TMF. I can promise you I will never join anything like this again.
Giselle

please, its exactly the CONTRARY to what you are saying...to me its the OTHER people that come on here and DONT want to meet anyone that are absolutely useless and should get off here...the ones that whine and whine about "never" getting to get tickled, yet when they have the opportunity to meet someone on here they arent interested. you are one of the diamonds in the rough! if you truly wanted to meet people on here, how in the HELL could anyone call you a slut....what would that make you a tickle slut??? PLEASE! a slut is someone that has SEX with everyone. that is NOT what you were doing. please giselle, you are a RARE BREED on this forum as far as females go....please reconsider (that is if you are genuine...if youre not, well ill reserve comment.)

please rethink this...we need many more females like you on here. many many..........

if you do decide to leave, you can email me at [email protected] if you would like to chat further.

 

[featherfingers]

Giselle, I didn't get to know you very well but you seemed like a nice person and I didn't perceive you as a 'slut' or anything like that. You will be welcomed back with open arms but I wish you'd reconsider your decision to leave.

 

[steph]

doubt if you're still reading but

Oh my...this got ugly in a hurry didn't it? What the heck happened here? Anyone who called you a loser or a slut shouldn't get to you~these are strangers! You seem like a fine gal to me, but you could use a little self confidence hon~Why are you so hard on yourself? Wow. Well, maybe you'll come back, the place always needs more girls. Hope you find some peace wherever you end up...

XOXO

Hey Giselle, you were very kind to me. I could definitely tell that you weren't feeling well, but I also know the reason. I don't know if you were a "tease" or a bother to anybody else on here, but you were nothing but nice to me. Please don't say it was self-induced, because we both know that it was not. This girl was a nice person at heart folks, we all make mistakes. I didn't want her to leave thinking everyone here hated her, because I thought she was a good person.

 

[dtrell]

you said it honey....

 

[steph]

Do you know the story here babe? sounds like she could use a friend...

XOXO

 

[dtrell]

im trying honey im trying....

 

[featherfingers]

If she's truly gone, how do we help her feel better? Have you got her e-mail? Maybe we could all e-mail her and tell her we love her.

 

[steph]

I'm afraid your tough talk may have alienated her hon~she seems pretty fragile. Probably pretty young. S'a shame, really.

XOXO

 

[steph]

You can PM her but no email. Wonder if she's still here. I wish I knew why the change of heart.
XOXO

If she's truly gone, how do we help her feel better? Have you got her e-mail? Maybe we could all e-mail her and tell her we love her.

 

[tommytikl]

Re:

I guess I missed a soap opera somewhere...

😕

Yeah, what Dan said...

It is a shame that this happened..I guess this all happened in chat, I am never there.

Shame if she does leave, sounds like she got burnt pretty good by someone
Shame...

 

[BigJim]

I'm afraid your tough talk may have alienated her hon~she seems pretty fragile. Probably pretty young.

Yes, it is a shame. But it's largely a shame that's been brought about by her own naivety by the sound of it. A female coming onto a board (albeit a very nice and civillised one in comparison to many others I've known) largely populated by men who have never indulged in a sexually motivated activity that the board was created to discuss, and outright saying she wanted to meet guys and PM to their heart's content, is asking for trouble.

I'm not judgemental in the least and as far as I'm concerned, there's no such thing as a "slut" or a "tramp" (I'm a guy who believes in open relationships if all parties are informed and consenting), I'm purely talking about the undoubted deluge of replies and PM's she'd have received. Considering that some members are complete whackos (you know who you are!) it was possibly not the most discreet thing she could've done.

Giselle, if you're reading this, please don't be put off by one bad experience. If you feel embarrassed, then just re-join under a different name and start again. It's like plastic surgery on the internet. 😉 The only way you get to do things right in life, is by learning how not to do them the hard way. That means screwing them up, sometimes repeatedly, and moving on to what comes next. Believe me, I'm living proof of that maxim. It would be a crying shame love, if you let one thing you see as a mistake put you off staying around the community.

 

[Maria_Rose]

From what time I spent with Giselle (which wasn't that much) she didn't seem weak or naive deep down. I know she seems that way now, but I think that it's because of some things that have been happening to her (unrelated to the TMF). She's young but not that young (in her late twenties) hehe older than me so 😛, but anyone who could go through what she's been through is not a weak person.
She's been very much alone, and coming here was her attempt to make a friend who would understand her and maybe want to meet her and tickle play. She told me before all this happened that she regretted her first post because she realized how "slutty" (NOT what I would call it, but it was certainly an open invitation) it was. She's a very lonely person, I think that is what it all comes down to. I hope she's reading this, I got really mad at her over this thread and said some horrible things I shouldn't have. I wish you'd respond to my
e-mail Giselle. I'm worried sick about you, and I'm so sorry.

 

[BigJim]

Yah, open invitation is a good way of putting it.

As for being "slutty", I hope she doesn't worry about that in the least. People who condemn someone for that are too judgemental and narrow-minded most of the time to even worry about. If that is all that's worrying her, then I'll add my voice to those asking her to return when she's ready. I hope that is all that upset her. I suspected it may have been some of the less stable members.

 

[chrisheaven]

absolutely agree with Big Jim

 

[dtrell]

I got really mad at her over this thread and said some horrible things I shouldn't have. I wish you'd respond to my
e-mail Giselle. I'm worried sick about you, and I'm so sorry.

why in the world would you possibly get mad at her over a thread like this?

 

[ticklishscribe]

NOW WHY ARE YOU LEAVING.

You're such a fun and interesting person. And yeah, okay, extremely ticklish too. But you're more to me than that.

 

[Maria_Rose]

dtrell, you're one to talk, you seemed more disgusted with her than anyone.

 

[dtrell]

where in the world did you get that from?? all i said was i told baron to forget it because it appeared she was gone...i never bitched about it...i may bitch in general, but lately ive been keeping other comments about people on here private, and i never said a bad word about her.