kucheeku
TMF Master
- Joined
- Apr 21, 2002
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I’ve recently been chatting online with a young (but legal–keep your minds out of the gutter) straight man who would like to be tied and tickled by another man. He is, however, very nervous about meeting up with a guy due, in part, to the trust factor. Trust is certainly a major concern for ANYONE wanting to meet for any tickling session with or without bondage. In a society where homophobia is still pervasive, though, this becomes a very strong issue with men who would like physical closeness with other men, but still fear repercussions from friends and family.
I shared my thoughts based on my personal experience and decided I would share them with you. The following is part of a response I gave to this inquisitive guy:
The important thing to keep in mind is that I want to give you every opportunity to think this over and make the decisions that are important to you. For anyone just starting out with exploring a fetish, the first step is a tough one. I remember being extremely nervous before first meeting a group of guys into tickling. However, once that was done, it was a great relief and a revelation. Guys into tickling guys are no different than others. And this is true no matter what orientation, background, religion, etc. comes into play. As long as a guy shows love, respect and compassion for the other guy he’s playing with, the experience will be a very positive one and can be shared confidently with others.
A number of guys who are either straight or not necessarily into the fetish scene know that I’m into tickling other guys. I’ve been more open about it to some people, depending on the circumstances. Not once have I had any of them consider me a freak and shun me. This is, I think, because I’ve let them know me as a person before telling them about my fetish. In fact, I’ve been able to tickle some of these guys on a regular basis (however, not in a bondage session). Tickling them without bondage or any sense that I want anything sexual from them has actually STRENGTHENED my friendships with them. These straight guys hug and kiss me when I greet them, and yes, in front of others including their girlfriends (who do not feel threatened by me).
Tickle play between guys happens all the time. The difference with us is that we feel a deeper sensuality in connection with that play. That’s why some of us will sprout a hardon when it happens. Does it mean you’re gay? Of course not. There’s no doubt if a woman massages me, I will probably get an erection. My body will react that way regardless, and many massage therapists will tell their patients this will happen. In most cases, the erection will dissipate when the massage continues.
Your body is not going to lie about what’s pleasureable, but your mind will decide what to do about it. If tickling leads to a hardon for the lee and he stays hard, I will simply ask if he wants to be relieved. Usually the answer is yes, but if he says no, I’m not offended. He just may not be psychologically ready for it, not a problem for me. If I provide a safe enough environment for him to eventually be ready, he may change his mind in the future.
The important this is to always respect the guy you’re playing with. Share that love for him and teach him to share it with others. One by one, we can change minds about m/m tickling.
I shared my thoughts based on my personal experience and decided I would share them with you. The following is part of a response I gave to this inquisitive guy:
The important thing to keep in mind is that I want to give you every opportunity to think this over and make the decisions that are important to you. For anyone just starting out with exploring a fetish, the first step is a tough one. I remember being extremely nervous before first meeting a group of guys into tickling. However, once that was done, it was a great relief and a revelation. Guys into tickling guys are no different than others. And this is true no matter what orientation, background, religion, etc. comes into play. As long as a guy shows love, respect and compassion for the other guy he’s playing with, the experience will be a very positive one and can be shared confidently with others.
A number of guys who are either straight or not necessarily into the fetish scene know that I’m into tickling other guys. I’ve been more open about it to some people, depending on the circumstances. Not once have I had any of them consider me a freak and shun me. This is, I think, because I’ve let them know me as a person before telling them about my fetish. In fact, I’ve been able to tickle some of these guys on a regular basis (however, not in a bondage session). Tickling them without bondage or any sense that I want anything sexual from them has actually STRENGTHENED my friendships with them. These straight guys hug and kiss me when I greet them, and yes, in front of others including their girlfriends (who do not feel threatened by me).
Tickle play between guys happens all the time. The difference with us is that we feel a deeper sensuality in connection with that play. That’s why some of us will sprout a hardon when it happens. Does it mean you’re gay? Of course not. There’s no doubt if a woman massages me, I will probably get an erection. My body will react that way regardless, and many massage therapists will tell their patients this will happen. In most cases, the erection will dissipate when the massage continues.
Your body is not going to lie about what’s pleasureable, but your mind will decide what to do about it. If tickling leads to a hardon for the lee and he stays hard, I will simply ask if he wants to be relieved. Usually the answer is yes, but if he says no, I’m not offended. He just may not be psychologically ready for it, not a problem for me. If I provide a safe enough environment for him to eventually be ready, he may change his mind in the future.
The important this is to always respect the guy you’re playing with. Share that love for him and teach him to share it with others. One by one, we can change minds about m/m tickling.
