Friends with benefits

[Imlatino]

Basically I was wondering how to get back the "benefits".

Okay so I have this friend. Well she was usually just a friend but one time we just randomly started doing all these awesome things.

Like she knows I have a foot fetish so one time we were at a friends house watching a movie and since there was no room for the bed I lay on the floor.

She is laying on the bed but near me. During the movie she puts her foot down and let's me do stuff to it while my friend was like 4 feet away!

Then after the movie my friend goes to the restroom and my "benefit" friend lets me kiss her feet and then as I am laying down on the bed she puts her sole on my lips.

Then after that she never did anything like that again!

 

[GQguy]

Ummmm. What's in it for her dude? Is she attracted to you? Just sounds like a boring night with nothing better to do to me. If a woman is attracted to you she'll want you to do more to her than just kiss her feet. Dogs do that. If she's not attracted to you then be the guy she's attracted to. The "benefits" will come once you make her feel great.

 

[TickleToy4You]

Maybe it freaked her out. I mean i'm sure that was her first time having her feet kissed and stuff. Also, don't focus on getting the benefits back, but worry more about getting her trust and friendship back. What benefits too? Tickling benefits or did you two ever hook up?

 

[ndj101982]

Well, friends with benefits is not really something that lasts. Anytime you have somebody that lets you "do" things to her it's because she likes you. My advice is that if you get along with her and she lets you do fetish things to her, ask her on a date 🙂

Seems to me like that was her way of saying she's into you. By doing that and not talking to her afterwards about it in private, and even suggesting you two hang out and go to a movie or something sometime, it may have made her feel a bit like you are into the fetish and not into her. If she feels that way of course she isn't going to let you keep doing things to her feet.

 

[AmericaRocks]

And that's the trouble with friend with benefits. It's confusing for both parties involved, and usually doesn't last.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

Did you say anything about it afterwards? Maybe she thinks you were weirded out by it. And no, doing it once does not let her know you want to do it again.

 

[love feet]

Did you say anything about it afterwards? Maybe she thinks you were weirded out by it. And no, doing it once does not let her know you want to do it again.

true!

 

[TKL_Rebel]

Well, friends with benefits is not really something that lasts. Anytime you have somebody that lets you "do" things to her it's because she likes you. My advice is that if you get along with her and she lets you do fetish things to her, ask her on a date 🙂

Seems to me like that was her way of saying she's into you. By doing that and not talking to her afterwards about it in private, and even suggesting you two hang out and go to a movie or something sometime, it may have made her feel a bit like you are into the fetish and not into her. If she feels that way of course she isn't going to let you keep doing things to her feet.

this would be your best bet my friend!

 

[Imlatino]

Yea its just that I wasn't sure she liked me. I talked with my cousin a couple of months ago and she said that my "benefits" friend said we went out and we actually didn't.

The reason I didn't ask her out is because I had a girlfriend at the time.

Then we kind of departed since we went to different colleges and we don't really see each other.

I would of loved to ask her out after I found out that my cousin said we went out. The bad thing is that she has a boyfriend and they have been dating for almost a year.

I just graduated (thanks) so I have more time to hang out. She did invite me to a party and to a club later on this semester. I am not sure what to do.

Should I sneak around with her? But I don't want to cause trouble with both of them..I think I should just play it safe and if they ever break up, I will ask her out.

 

[BMoreTklr]

So many variables in this whole equation with gf's and then bf's involved. Don't even know where to begin on this one

 

[Brock Samson]

This looks like a 'cut and move on' scenario. She is with someone else. I don't think you would have appreciated it if your girl at that time had been sneaking around and blowing some other dude behind your back, so maybe you shouldn't be shooting for a love triangle here. Later on, if she is single, go for it, but don't become the reason for them breaking up. That only leads to 2 places: Jerry Springer and Maury Povich!