Frustrated

[JenB79]

I’m a 46 (F) 💯 ler from SW Indiana. It’s so hard to find a lee around here, or at least one that is a decent human being? Anyone else have the same problem?

 

[Madame_T]

Yeah, im also F 100% ler. Some people seem not to take that very seriously and try to pressure me to lee. I get that this is a fetish site but its no excuse to go and not treat people like human beings. There are a few good ones but its like finding a needle in a haystack out here lol

 

[natscott6282]

I’m also 100% ler and F and I get loadsss of ppl (men normally) pressuring me to lee

I dont live with the frustration of u guys tho as i dont rlly look for lees because my kind of tickling is extremely extremely thorough prolonged methodical tickle torturing which i cant do any more for obvious reasons

but i feel ur pain and good luck to you

 

[yinzer]

I'm a guy 'ler (tickling cis women only) and it didn't take me long on here to realize I'd have to travel and pay to get what I want. Going by this forum, there are way more guys that like to 'lee than I would have ever imagined. Still, I'm sure finding one right in your area isn't easy. What seems like a lot really isn't when they're spread all over the world.

 

[Doriansenigma]

Have you tried circles where guys are strictly into femdom? I know I’m a dude commenting here, but being 100 percent ler myself I found it extremely difficult to find a woman who excepted me. But when my wife and I started dating,I found out she was a 100 percent sub and had never really thought of tickling in a sexual way. Once I integrated in into other things she liked, 11 years later I’m happily married with a son. One thing I do know is there are alot of guys who are into femdom, so it might be worth a try for you.

 

[U.N.Owen]

Finding a partner is hard for a lot of people, period. I'm a male 'ler who'd also be happy to switch with the right woman... and I've gotten pretty much nowhere by age 50+.

 

[pshort20]

I’m a 46 (F) 💯 ler from SW Indiana. It’s so hard to find a lee around here, or at least one that is a decent human being? Anyone else have the same problem?

I'm a 40 (M) 100 Ler from Indy with the exact same problem.

 

[TickletoDeath1]

It can be hard to find the right people. I’m a switch and would happily be tickled for what it’s worth.

 

[JenB79]

It can be hard to find the right people. I’m a switch and would happily be tickled for what it’s worth.

Where are you located?

 

[ticklishfeet311]

I’m a 46 (F) 💯 ler from SW Indiana. It’s so hard to find a lee around here, or at least one that is a decent human being? Anyone else have the same problem?

Yes, I’m having the same problem myself. I’m trying to find a girl to tickle my feet for hundred bucks per hour, but it seems like it’s hard to find girls on here and super frustrating. Sometimes I don’t know what to do. I like my feet being tickled, but by girls only it’s super frustrating.

 

[brotherted]

Here's the bad news for all of us lers: There will simply always be more lers, i.e. not enough lees. I've been in this space for a minute, and as much as we hate it, it's not going to change.

That's the reason any ler has one primary, critical skill to become superb at if they ever want to be happier in this regard: Convincing, persuading or seducing normies into trying lee experimentation that they didn't arrive at by themselves.

And it's far from one-size-fits-all: The "I hate to be tickled" people should get a persuation campaign very unlike the "Being tied up is cool, but I've never wanted to be tickled" people. So it's a multi-faceted game to master... but it's well worth it.

 

[MindOverWhatMatters]

I always thought I wanted to be a tickler when I was first finding my fetish. Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t hate tickling more people, but coming into my realization of enjoying the lee side of things as a male has been nothing short of profound for me.

I genuinely love being tickled and honestly don’t get to feel it as much as I’d like.

Though I’m married, my wife doesn’t share my fetish, so I’ll get tickled every once in a while if I ask for it, but I would honestly take being tickled daily if I could.

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

I’m a 46 (F) 💯 ler from SW Indiana. It’s so hard to find a lee around here, or at least one that is a decent human being? Anyone else have the same problem?

I completely understand I’m in the same boat. I absolutely love tickling and being tickled it’s always been apart of my life

 

[Elyos]

As always – it's about getting to know people first. Many do still have the idea that exchanging a few texts will lead to action, which is lunatic.
For myself, I do never take risks and have to get a good connection with the person. If I don't feel comfy and do not feel any chemistry then it will never lead to anything.

I am sure most of the ppl do think like me in that regard, and are rather safe than sorry. After all – it's about networking and building real connections & friendships.

 

[piyr]

As always – it's about getting to know people first. Many do still have the idea that exchanging a few texts will lead to action, which is lunatic.
For myself, I do never take risks and have to get a good connection with the person. If I don't feel comfy and do not feel any chemistry then it will never lead to anything.

I am sure most of the ppl do think like me in that regard, and are rather safe than sorry. After all – it's about networking and building real connections & friendships.

This. I've ALWAYS ONLY had a desire to engage in tickling with someone I really like. It takes time, effort, and being at the right place in your life to be able to make a close connection with someone, tickling aside.

OP, I don't know how close of a relationship you need but even finding a general aquaintence who is a decent person as an adult is hard enough. Not that I think there's a shortage of decent people, in fact I believe most people are decent, but as I said, it's hard as adults to connect with each other. Add in the restrictions of having to be a lee x miles from SW IN makes it even more challenging.

Tbh, there may only be a couple people, if that, in your geography who you'd want to share the experience with who also want to share it with you. What are the chances you meet each other? Posting here is a good start but I think social media and forums miss most of the people. When a tree falls in the woods, a couple squirrels hear it but most don't.

 

[yankeerose]

Yeah, im also F 100% ler. Some people seem not to take that very seriously and try to pressure me to lee. I get that this is a fetish site but its no excuse to go and not treat people like human beings. There are a few good ones but its like finding a needle in a haystack out here lol

Yeah, im also F 100% ler. Some people seem not to take that very seriously and try to pressure me to lee. I get that this is a fetish site but its no excuse to go and not treat people like human beings. There are a few good ones but its like finding a needle in a haystack out here lol

You don't have to change to appease anybody the only thing that matters here is what makes you happy if anybody wants to follow along then they should do so with respect to who you are not try to change you into something you don't want to be you keep doing what makes you happy

 

[yankeerose]

I’m also 100% ler and F and I get loadsss of ppl (men normally) pressuring me to lee

I dont live with the frustration of u guys tho as i dont rlly look for lees because my kind of tickling is extremely extremely thorough prolonged methodical tickle torturing which i cant do any more for obvious reasons

but i feel ur pain and good luck to you

You also don't have to change to make anybody happy you do what makes you happy whoever wants to communicate with you should do so with the expectation that they are choosing to follow you which means they either Follow by your rules or they can move on. I agree with you with the extreme an advanced level tickle torturing right about situations like that because it's the only way you can really experience it but not everybody likes to read about stories

 

[Wallball]

I’m a 46 (F) 💯 ler from SW Indiana. It’s so hard to find a lee around here, or at least one that is a decent human being? Anyone else have the same problem?

Male lee, Ohio, 49, travel all the time for work, would happily drive to submit to your tickling, Jen. I'll send you a DM!

 

[stoopid]

I’m M, in the Midwest, and would love to be tickled by a F. My problem is ‘family commitments’ if you understand. This just won’t be in the cards for me.