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[yeayeayea]

Hey, everyone.

I just started a new blog and I'm considering being as honest with it as I would be with a significant other. Or as honest as I would be with myself. I'm on something of a "quest for enlightenment," and open acceptance of 'what is' is a fundamental step. Ladies and gentlemen, my tickling/foot fetish definitely 'is.' I'm just afraid of the effects my honesty might have, especially so abruptly. I'm eager to break the barrier between private and public, but none of my closest guy friends or relatives know. The only people I tell are girls with whom I have some sort of romantic connection. Does anybody have any thoughts?

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Why not just come out with it, and then play it off as no big deal. Many people will get really nervous about telling people about their fetish, only to tell somebody and find out they really don't care. I'm not saying "Oh dude tell everybody you'll feel so free", I'm just saying that if you do tell people, in my own personal experiences, that it won't be a big deal if you don't make it out as a big deal.

My two cents.

 

[yeayeayea]

You're right, I've had that experience too. I was thinking of casually adding a link to the TMF in the links section or starting an entry with, "As some of you know, I have a fetish for tickling girls' feet," and then only mentioning it again when it comes up. I've learned my lesson about not making it a big deal--now it just comes down to pulling that off. Thank you for the advice.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Welcome.

 

[Coda]

That's a very admirable aspiration. Are you really talking about a blog that your average web-surfing friend might read? I'm sure that would have an effect on your relationship with your interests and your ability to talk about them.

I want to mention that I don't think that keeping one's interests private does not necessarily mean that they aren't perfectly comfortable with them. If you really want to see what it feels like not to disguise it, though... I'd be very interested to hear about the discussions you open.

 

[yeayeayea]

That's a very admirable aspiration. Are you really talking about a blog that your average web-surfing friend might read? I'm sure that would have an effect on your relationship with your interests and your ability to talk about them.

I want to mention that I don't think that keeping one's interests private does not necessarily mean that they aren't perfectly comfortable with them. If you really want to see what it feels like not to disguise it, though... I'd be very interested to hear about the discussions you open.

I am really talking about a blog that my average web-surfing friend might read. It would hopefully force me to be instantly comfortable talking about my interests. I do worry about various girls reading it and thinking, "so THATS why he kept tickling me!" and coming to the conclusion I was just using them for a thrill. Which, sometimes, regrettably, I was.

If I end up doing something like this--and I'd say the odds are about 50/50--I will definitely be open to sharing my experience on the forum and encouraging others to open up. I'd be willing to bet that the more comfortable everybody is, the more action everybody gets.

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

It would hopefully force me to be instantly comfortable talking about my interests.

I have some other thoughts, but wanted to address this comment first. This is something that I've trapped myself with (on other topics) in the past. The fact that you push yourself to do something doesn't automaticly mean you'll be comfortable...or like the results. If I may share some thoughts based upon my own experiences...

- If you feel that you want to be more open about it, that's cool. It suggests that you've accepted it more yourself to whatever degree. That's a good thing. Rejoice in that. A lot of folks continue to struggle with and hide it all of their life.

- Feeling that extra bit of freedom that comes with self-acceptance doesn't necessarily mean that you're ready for anyone and everyone to know about it...or to have to respond to any questions or comments they may have. It may be wiser to pace yourself a bit. It's rough to not jump in and go with the excitement of that. But, it's often better.

- Your announcement is brave, but may be more trouble than you're prepared for. You can acheive the same objective of openness without setting yourself up for trouble. Even changing the statement to something along the lines of, "I love tickling girls feet." would soften it enough to allow others to see a fact about you without the word "fetish" being used. We know it can be that to us...in the generic use of the word. But, many people freak just seeing the word. It conjures images that may or may not fit you. A simple statement can relate the information in a less threatening way.

- You introduced this idea as a quest for enlightenment. That's great. However, I'm not sure how I see sharing this with others enlightens you...other than possibly to who your true friends are and how they'll receive the information. If what you're seeking is inner enlightenment, others CAN play a role in that. But, it's ultimately up to you to see for yourself what you truly feel/believe inside. Keep that in mind as you search.

Whatever your decision ends up being, good luck.

 

[yeayeayea]

the word "fetish" being used. We know it can be that to us...in the generic use of the word. But, many people freak just seeing the word. It conjures images that may or may not fit you. A simple statement can relate the information in a less threatening way.

- You introduced this idea as a quest for enlightenment. That's great. However, I'm not sure how I see sharing this with others enlightens you...other than possibly to who your true friends are and how they'll receive the information. If what you're seeking is inner enlightenment, others CAN play a role in that. But, it's ultimately up to you to see for yourself what you truly feel/believe inside. Keep that in mind as you search.

You make some great points, and I really appreciate the insight! I will probably not use the word fetish, that's a great idea.

Sharing it with others enlightens me not by their responses but by allowing myself to no longer hide it. I want tickling to be a regular part of my life, not just something I 'sneak in' to an interaction or make excuses for. I want a girl to say to me, "I read your blog--I love being tickled! Your place or mine?"