gaining self acceptance

[saratk]

I know some of you on here are very open with your fetish and interests, and I so look up to you for that, I'm really working towards that. To do that I think you need to not ignore negative feelings you're having, and work through them. Does anyone else who is a ler feel really creepy or predetory when acting on a tickling fantasy, even if done to someone who's a partner etc? That's what I struggle with, the thought that what I'm doing is weird etc. And for lees, do you ever feel self conscious on how you're reacting to being tickled? Is that ever on your mind?

I spoke with someone about some of these feelings, and they said something to me that was kind of helpful for the feeling of being a predator, and that is that it's all about who you're matched up with. That some people really like the take charge, passionate, taking control kind of person, and even if they aren't really into tickling, seeing you do that and be passionate about it will be a turn on for them because they feel desired and they are seeing you enact a fantasy on them. Does that make sense or help anyone? Anyone have other thoughts on this?

 

[Numbah-1]

I feel like that alot. Actually last night lol I was watching netflix and a character got tickled and I started to think "what if someone hears this and thinks something weird." Youre friend was right though, it does have alot to do who youre with. Looking back on it now I had a friend who was super ticklish and she didnt seemed overly bothered that I was border line torturing her lol She talked like she got tickled alot.

A few months ago I asked on TT if there was any way to get over a fetish because of the way being a 'ler makes me feel. A couple things Karen, Chicago, BlackDragon, and others reminded me of is that its a social bonding experience and we shouldnt feel bad for liking it a bit more. I brought up the whole "tickle torture" thing too. They added that its not like its non consensual, and models are willing to get paid to be tickled. I'm pretty sure 'lees enjoy getting tickled as well lol

 

[TheTickleMonster]

For me I am okay with not being open with it. I don't think it's anyone's business. Maybe if I was with someone, then they can know... but not just normal people in my life. No one needs to know. But of course since I'm a ler, that's pretty easy for me because I can just tickle people, but as a lee, they'd probably have to ask for tickling... Don't feel like you're obligated to tell anyone. I know it might seem like you're hiding something and people should know so when you tickle them they know why.. but they don't. And you're not a bad person for liking tickling. And I'm sure hiding it might make you feel like a sexual preditor since you might tickle someone sexually but they don't know it's turning you on, especially if you're not in a relationship with that one, but don't let people make you feel bad about it.

and yeah, it's after 2 am and I'm tired so I'm sure I'm not getting what I really want to say to sound right...

 

[TicklingTips]

I've found that the more confident I become in all aspects of life, the easier I find it to talk about tickling with prospective play partners. I'll say this - the same social skills that get you a job, or friends, or sex, are what will get you tickling. So if you feel shy about talking about it, or predatory, you need to develop your confidence to the point where you accept yourself and your tastes, and that others may like or dislike them.

You'll get to a point where sure, you may not grab random people on the street and tell them you have a tickle fetish, but you're comfortable with yourself when talking to prospective tickle partners. And that puts them at ease.