Listen... everything isn't as black and white as some of us would like to think. I don't understand the "don't compromise" approach. A true relationship is about give and take, sharing, and putting each other first, unselfishly.
I keep reading- "Don't do it, man... If you compromise this one time, what else is she gonna demand?" And it just irks me a bit. That's where the trust comes in people. That's when you know you've picked the right person who will be honest with you- and you know the person isn't looking just to change and control you.
In a relationship, you are not going to always like the same things- and THAT is ok! You are not going to have the same friends, be into the exact same kinks, not always going to be in the mood at the exact same time- Sometimes it means getting it on even when you have that "headache", or going out to get her that ice cream that she likes when you JUST got home and you JUST sat down. It doesn't mean you become a former shell of yourself. It just means that SOMEONE is more important than you are. And that is ALSO ok... Because if you picked the right person, you are more important to them as well.
Again, just because I don't like the "type" of porn my hubby likes to look at, doesn't mean that I'm a bad wife, or a bad match, or that I'm overbearing... etc. And if he is understanding and doesn't watch it around me, it doesn't mean the compromise makes him less of a man, or a pushover, or a "sellout" or whatever!
It's called a relationship, people! Stay in one long enough and you are going to change. You are going to do things you would rather not do, and you best believe that it will be the same for the person you are with. For us, if there was something either or us was uncomforatable with, we talked about it. We discussed how to make things better, how to change things, how to fix things.... We grew- We evolved.. And that's just how it should be.
