"Girls" on the TMF

[Artoo]

There's a sense of detachment and of less accountability when chatting to people online, particularly in the fetish/kink world. My guess is that many people just don't think it through to a reasonable outcome; even if the opportunity of play comes along, it just isn't going to register with some people that they'll get found out in person.

As for me, I make no bones about the fact I pretend to be a woman sometimes. 😛

 

[Jagermeistered]

Give up and move on...that is bullshit....

Personally..I would make sure all of my friends know who this person is just for safety's sake. not for revenge, but to prevent them from becoming victims....

He has broken several laws by using the ID of others and could very well be brought up on criminal charges...

At the very least I would report him to his internet provider and let them deal with him for his actions....

Providers don't take kindly to those who open them up to lawsuits...they usually take action quickly when the evidence is presented to them...

Now, I can agree with you on this point.

 

[darkscar]

That's why i don't trust people on the internet lol. You don't know who they really are.

just for the record I'm a dude!

 

[Barney Stubble]

I messaged them via Facebook, but because of my privacy settings, they can't respond to me unless they are friends with me. So I'm leaving it up to their own discretion. I won't know how they deal with the situation, I'm only relaying the message.

and to ticklenv - this isn't about revenge. This person is using another person's identity for his own gratification. If it were me, I would hope that someone would notify me.

I would too, but if I received such a notification I would definitely want to respond to the notifier. If I was blocked from doing this it's unlikely I'd take the warning seriously.

 

[tickledorange]

Internet rule 30: There are no girls on the internet

 

[rosewood]

I know this isn't quite the point of the thread, but I don't like that you somehow need to 'prove' you're a girl on here

Admitting you're a woman attracts all kinds of unwanted attention/creepy PM's as it is, and the only real way to prove it is to (1) meet a member in person who will vouch for your, (2) post a picture (seems a little unwise), or (3) call people (the most reasonable option).
...I dunno.

 

[Big_Dogg85]

I know this isn't quite the point of the thread, but I don't like that you somehow need to 'prove' you're a girl on here

Admitting you're a woman attracts all kinds of unwanted attention/creepy PM's as it is, and the only real way to prove it is to (1) meet a member in person who will vouch for your, (2) post a picture (seems a little unwise), or (3) call people (the most reasonable option).
...I dunno.

I think we can all agree on that and that everyone's privacy, particularly that of the many female members here, must be respected and enforced. I believe everyone, at initial contact and at face value, believe that people are who they say they are as would be expected of general/initial communication and interaction over the Internet. The issue arises when the conversation moves beyond general interaction to something more in-depth, where being something or someone that isn't what you described initially becomes a problem. It's perfectly fine on the Internet when you're trying to protect your anonymity but within the parameters of a conversation that could lead to RL interaction, doing so is a violation of trust. ("You said you were this but you're really not...what else are you hiding?" kind of thing) I can't tell you how many cases I read when I was studying for my law degree of sexual predators who would use the anonymity of the internet to pretend to be someone they weren't in RL in order to commit their crimes.

I agree that women do not or should not need to prove that they are women due to the fact that they want to protect their privacy and anonymity, as should be expected of course, but because of those few people who have pretended to be women in order to get certain things, tickle or BDSM play for example, if someone (anyone, not necessarily a woman) wants to take interaction further they have to be prepared to open themselves to the opposite party(ies). I believe if said interaction is what you want then you shouldn't have anything to hide. Ronald Reagan puts it simply...Trust, but verify

Me, I'm dishonest, and you can always trust a dishonest man to be dishonest. Honestly, it's the honest ones you have to watch out for.
-Johnny Depp

NOTE: This would be an excellent thread topic to begin separately so if further discussion on this sub-topic occurs, technically a.k.a. thread derailment, mods please feel free to move it as necessary.

 

[socktickler86]

I know this isn't quite the point of the thread, but I don't like that you somehow need to 'prove' you're a girl on here

Admitting you're a woman attracts all kinds of unwanted attention/creepy PM's as it is, and the only real way to prove it is to (1) meet a member in person who will vouch for your, (2) post a picture (seems a little unwise), or (3) call people (the most reasonable option).
...I dunno.

She's a girl, GET HER!!!!!

I agree though, it is silly that you have to prove yourself to people. However, if you want to meet someone eventually or as some people do here, cybertickle, I think it is a courtesy for both parties to be honest and if need be divulge certain things about themselves. If you're just looking to talk to someone, then who cares. I mean sure it sucks to be talking to a liar but at the same time, that can happen in any internet interaction. People need to learn to simply deal with it and learn to never invest too much in any online friendship or what have you.

 

[leafstk]

Some things never cease to amaze me

 

[Cavum]

I'm curious about this. Why would pretending to be a girl work when trying to get play? Don't you think your play partner might conceivably catch on to your scheme once you show up with, like, a penis??? Understandably, online role-playing is one thing, but when the goal is to meet in real life, doesn't honesty, which builds the trust, which leads to play, seem like a more successful approach?

Thoughts?

SS

It's like you say. It's all about the online role-play thing. I had 2 "girls" trying to hook up with me here in Norway.

The first "girl" seems pretty real the first month. We chatted alot and made alot of plans, but as time went by I got more and more suspicious. When I suddently realised it was a dude I wanted my revenge. I played along and tricked him to give me his adress. I told "her" I could send him several hours of home made tickling videos. I guess that was to much of a temptation for him to let go. When I got the adress the detective work began and I found out his full name and phonenumber. So...I called the bastard. I sayd to him "hello Linda" (that was his "name"). He went all silent and then hang up. The day after all the info about his was deleted from the online phonebooks. But I wasn't finished with him yet. I reported him to the police for identity fraud. I had screenshots and chat logs, so he got a serious warning from the police. Fun times! ;D

The second "girl" was a bit to eager so I just knew it was a dude right away. I did the same thing here. Told "her" I would send home made videos and BLAM..I got the adress. Again I found a phone number and several names living on that adress. So I called the number. A elder woman picket up and I asked for the "girl". She told me noone by that name lived there. I asked then if someone around the age of 21 lived there, and it did. A DUDE! At that time I was the leader of a BDSM community for young people (16 - 26), so I presented me as the leader for that community and told her about the situation and what the "girl" had done. After several minutes of talking I suddently realised I was talking to the guys MOTHER 🙂rowfull🙂. I told her about the identity fraud and that he would be reported to the police if he didn't appologised to me. A day went by and a VEEEEEEERY humble guy called me and sayd sorry. PWNED!!

So to all you "girls" out there...do your best shot!

 

[TropicThunder]

Great story Cavum. 😀 That's brilliant.

For me, it was as easy as plugging the guys e-mail into Facebook. And there was all of his information, and the pictures he was using right there on his friends list, along with the fake name. in mere minutes.

 

[socktickler86]

It's like you say. It's all about the online role-play thing. I had 2 "girls" trying to hook up with me here in Norway.

Remind me never to accept any tickling videos from you!

 

[TropicThunder]

Remind me never to accept any tickling videos from you!

Why? are you pretending to be girl?

 

[socktickler86]

Why? are you pretending to be girl?

 

[Cavum]

Great story Cavum. 😀 That's brilliant.

For me, it was as easy as plugging the guys e-mail into Facebook.

ooh!! This was before Facebook came! Just looked up the bastard and I found him! MOHAHAHA!!!

The difference ain't THAT big?? haha

Remind me never to accept any tickling videos from you!

I share with honest people 😉

 

[sasaxrah]

My guess is that men pretending to be women get off on this idea. Literally. So they can pretend to be a woman, have some great material to buff the banana to, and either continue with the original person or move onto another.

Offers to meet up are probably either part of the fantasy or a way to continue the relationship/conversation.

How's that for armchair psych?

 

[socktickler86]

How's that for armchair psych?

Publish that shit.