Give me your opinion please

[Brutus]

Ok folks, I’d like to get your opinion on something if I could. There’s a gal who I regularly tickle at work. In fact, it’s on a daily basis now and I pretty much have carte blanche to tickle at my discretion. And for those who haven’t read my account of some of this in the True Stories section, she’s one of those smart-alecky types who knows what ‘trouble’ her mouth will get her into with me and purposing goads me into doing it. It is important to note that she’s married and I’m not looking wreck any marriages. Anyway, I couldn’t help but wonder if she was into being tickled. But then another thought crossed my mind as well; how possible is it that this woman simply enjoys the attention she gets from me via tickling as opposed to being into it? I hope I explained this well enough. Basically what I’m asking is: how possible is it that someone would happily tolerate tickling solely for the sake of the attention they got out of it without actually being one of us?

 

[TickledToDeath]

Ok folks, I’d like to get your opinion on something if I could. There’s a gal who I regularly tickle at work. In fact, it’s on a daily basis now and I pretty much have carte blanche to tickle at my discretion. And for those who haven’t read my account of some of this in the True Stories section, she’s one of those smart-alecky types who knows what ‘trouble’ her mouth will get her into with me and purposing goads me into doing it. It is important to note that she’s married and I’m not looking wreck any marriages. Anyway, I couldn’t help but wonder if she was into being tickled. But then another thought crossed my mind as well; how possible is it that this woman simply enjoys the attention she gets from me via tickling as opposed to being into it? I hope I explained this well enough. Basically what I’m asking is: how possible is it that someone would happily tolerate tickling solely for the sake of the attention they got out of it without actually being one of us?

The possibilities:

1). She does not get a whole hell of a lot of attention at home from the husband.

2). She is into tickling and the husband is not.

3) She and the husband do not share the same playful sarcastic sense of humor and the playfulness and tickling it gets in return?

4) A combination of any and or all of the above.

That and she likes you and your "personality".

Don't mess with a good thing. Let it all progress on its own and let her be the one to elaborate on the "situation"....OR you can just ask her next time you tickle her after one of her "wisecracks".....'I bet your huband has lots of fun with you like this all the time....'!
The response will tell all or at least enough to satisfy your inquiring mind.


TTD

 

[Redmage]

This sort of thing is always tricky at work. And the fact that she's married too? I hope you both know what you're getting into.

 

[Bugman]

This sort of thing is always tricky at work. And the fact that she's married too? I hope you both know what you're getting into.

I have to agree with Redmage here.In the long run i can see nothing good coming from the whole thing.

 

[Brutus]

Clarification

Guys, I appreciate the input so far. However, I've been doing this sort of thing in workplace for years now. I feel I'm pretty congruent with how to handle myself in the workplace and whether a woman is into my advances or not. I still don't recommend anyone doing it, that's for sure. Having said that, yall are kind of missing the point of my post. I'm just curious what the likely hood could be of someone tolerating being tickled for nothing more than the attention it provides as opposed to being into it as one of "us".

 

[LindyHopper]

I hate to burst your bubble, but...

I'm just curious what the likely hood could be of someone tolerating being tickled for nothing more than the attention it provides as opposed to being into it as one of "us".

Quite good, if you ask me. Most women who aren't "into" stupid jokes, football, or Thai food will gladly tolerate then for the sake of men they like. As long as she isn't actively opposed to being tickled, she can simply enjoy the attention. When non-tickle-enthusiasts do this, it's called "flirting."

I think a tickling fetish (or any fetish) can easily lead one to jump to conclusions about the opposite sex. It might be a difficulty in viewing the topic neutrally, or perhaps it's just wishful thinking. In any case, it kind of reminds me of when men post here asking, "Since she wears gets pedicures and wears sandals all the time, does that mean she has a foot fetish?" In short, the most likely answer is no. 😉

 

[Bugman]

I'm just curious what the likely hood could be of someone tolerating being tickled for nothing more than the attention it provides as opposed to being into it as one of "us".

It could be one,or both as TTD said.In either case i still agree that it could turn out to be quite ackward if you should have a falling out with this person at some time.....

 

[steph]

I'm not worried about you. I get "gotten" at work by certain friends all the time. When you're good at pulling this kind of thing off, you know it, you feel it in your bones. Maybe she just likes your touch or likes to be touched.
XOXO

 

[Stugots]

of course there are women who will just flirt for male attention and a self-esteem boost and men will misinterpret it as an indicator of interest. Are you looking for a reason to stop messing around with your co-worker or something?

 

[Brutus]

Futhermore...

Stugots: I'm not looking for any reason to do anything to be honest. It's just that initially I thought for sure this gal was into tickling. Then I stepped back, took off my rose-colored glasses and wondered how possible it could be that she simply liked to be tickled for the attention.

Steph: I'm glad you're not worried for me. I do feel it in my bones as you so deftly put it. Too bad we don't work together. 😉

Post log: After more emailing with her at work today, I'm now sure she's into tickling. Unfortunately for me, I was just too busy today to get around to having any fun with her.

 

[steph]

LMAO! Those like us CAN kind of sense each other in a crowd, can't we? 😉

You seem to have a really clear sense about what you're doing and why you're doing it. And, you don't want to see anyone get hurt. You're just having a little fun with her. So relax and enjoy it, play smart but try not to overthink, ok babe? (Musters up her best attempt at shooting him her "serious" look...) It's a thin line mefinds...
XOXO

Steph: I'm glad you're not worried for me. I do feel it in my bones as you so deftly put it. Too bad we don't work together. 😉

Post log: After more emailing with her at work today, I'm now sure she's into tickling. Unfortunately for me, I was just too busy today to get around to having any fun with her.