YouNeverKnow175
TMF Master
- Joined
- Sep 30, 2002
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- 868
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Usually when I read people’s posts about being open with their significant other about being into tickling, I usually smile and think back to the days when I felt far more embarrassed about it and was terrified to admit it to my earliest girlfriends back in high school and college. Although in more recent relationships I still find it to be a leap of faith in some sense, to expose myself in that way, I feel much more confident because I’ve never had a girlfriend get scared off or think it’s that weird
I had something of a revelation this week, though, that I’m only really partially open with my girlfriend about my likes. We’ve been together for a year and a half, she knows I’m into tickling (and feet) and has been really accepting about it. At first, she did have some hesitancy because she was scarred by childhood tickling experiences and feeling powerless (like half the women on this planet, it seems), but she’s come to trust me and I’ve learned where the (current) limits are.
We’re all unique in our particular tickling-makeup....some of us are lers, some lees, some into bondage, others not, some into stories, some into heavy tickling, some into light, some into unintentional tickles like a pedicure, others who prefer all-out tickling.
I’ve realized this week that I’ve been relying on the TMF for certain aspects of my tickling fetish that I actually haven’t been comfortable sharing with my girlfriend, despite how confident and open I profess to be. I’ve been shy to explore certain things with her and now some level of insight or confidence has dawned that makes me feel like I would like to. Some examples:
For the most part, our tickling relationship consists of me playfully tickling her, and occasionally doing some short intentional “sessions” or contests. She will occasionally tell me true stories that have happened to her, though she doesn’t have or can’t remember all that many specifically. But that’s only a slice of what I actually really am into.....
I’ve always had a thing about chatting online with people about tickling - subtly bringing it up with female friends and learning about their ticklishness - or chatting on the TMF. So why have I felt so shy about including this in my relationship? I suddenly realized my girlfriend and I could chat online (even in different rooms in our apartment) about tickling, her experiences and stories etc, as a type of foreplay.....and I think it would be incredibly erotic for me.
Also, I love true stories and have shared some on the TMF and have recently written an occasional fictional tale too. But I’ve basically left my girlfriend out of it - in some way it’s been a bit of a madonna/hor complex, feeling like our relationship is too new and sacred or something like that. Suddenly though, I feel inspired to start writing up some of the true stories about my girlfriend, and creating some fictional ones as well......but not to share on the TMF (sorry guys), for myself and for her.
I know many folks role-play scenarios but I’ve never really done that. This, too, suddenly feels like something I’d love to try. I think it’d be fun, especially since we both have a small amount of acting experience. Since I love accidental tickles, I foresee some doctor’s office scenarios for sure.....some pedicure incidences, and lots of other creative possibilities....
I know this is long and I appreciate if you’ve read down to here. This is, I think, an important series of revelations for me and I’d love to hear what you all think - or if any of you have gone through your own journeys with this type of thing, too.
I had something of a revelation this week, though, that I’m only really partially open with my girlfriend about my likes. We’ve been together for a year and a half, she knows I’m into tickling (and feet) and has been really accepting about it. At first, she did have some hesitancy because she was scarred by childhood tickling experiences and feeling powerless (like half the women on this planet, it seems), but she’s come to trust me and I’ve learned where the (current) limits are.
We’re all unique in our particular tickling-makeup....some of us are lers, some lees, some into bondage, others not, some into stories, some into heavy tickling, some into light, some into unintentional tickles like a pedicure, others who prefer all-out tickling.
I’ve realized this week that I’ve been relying on the TMF for certain aspects of my tickling fetish that I actually haven’t been comfortable sharing with my girlfriend, despite how confident and open I profess to be. I’ve been shy to explore certain things with her and now some level of insight or confidence has dawned that makes me feel like I would like to. Some examples:
For the most part, our tickling relationship consists of me playfully tickling her, and occasionally doing some short intentional “sessions” or contests. She will occasionally tell me true stories that have happened to her, though she doesn’t have or can’t remember all that many specifically. But that’s only a slice of what I actually really am into.....
I’ve always had a thing about chatting online with people about tickling - subtly bringing it up with female friends and learning about their ticklishness - or chatting on the TMF. So why have I felt so shy about including this in my relationship? I suddenly realized my girlfriend and I could chat online (even in different rooms in our apartment) about tickling, her experiences and stories etc, as a type of foreplay.....and I think it would be incredibly erotic for me.
Also, I love true stories and have shared some on the TMF and have recently written an occasional fictional tale too. But I’ve basically left my girlfriend out of it - in some way it’s been a bit of a madonna/hor complex, feeling like our relationship is too new and sacred or something like that. Suddenly though, I feel inspired to start writing up some of the true stories about my girlfriend, and creating some fictional ones as well......but not to share on the TMF (sorry guys), for myself and for her.
I know many folks role-play scenarios but I’ve never really done that. This, too, suddenly feels like something I’d love to try. I think it’d be fun, especially since we both have a small amount of acting experience. Since I love accidental tickles, I foresee some doctor’s office scenarios for sure.....some pedicure incidences, and lots of other creative possibilities....
I know this is long and I appreciate if you’ve read down to here. This is, I think, an important series of revelations for me and I’d love to hear what you all think - or if any of you have gone through your own journeys with this type of thing, too.
