forgotten to establish a "safeword" beforehand...lol it can truly be troublesome for the ticklee if you haven't🙂 and NO,,, yelling "SAFEWORD, SAFEWORD" does not constitute a legal and binding signal for the tickler to stop immediately, eventually maybe,,,lol
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Has anyone ever when in the midst of a tickling session,,,
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I've been really lucky in this respect. One, I tend not to need a safeword (preferring a more gentle touch) and two, I've been lucky enough to play with people who were really respectful and very experienced so they always ask about it long before we start. No one (that I know of) is into the sadistic aspect of it~they know me well enough to know they'd never get a second chance.
One of the tricks Jan taught us at the play party a couple weeks back was "red light, yellow light" etc. So even if you're really being gotten, you can still squeak out a "red light, RED!" 😉
XOXO
One of the tricks Jan taught us at the play party a couple weeks back was "red light, yellow light" etc. So even if you're really being gotten, you can still squeak out a "red light, RED!" 😉
XOXO
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Actually, all kidding aside, hollering "Safeword" IS a perfectly acceptable solution if one hasn't established one before starting play. And if you're of the mind that you don't NEED a safeword, that's fine too, as long as the tickler is sensitive enough to the Lee's needs/wants to know when they need to lighten up and/or take a break.
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Personally I've never had a woman I've tickled request a safe word during play except one but I guess it doesn't count because we talked about it before we met to play but on that wonderful day the tickling just started naturally with neither of us remembering this was something that she initially asked for. Things turned out fine. Not once in the five hours or so that we were together did she have to ask me to stop tickling her.
I think a lot depends on the sensitivity of the tickler to the needs of his ticklee and also the level of trust between the tickler and ticklee.
A good tickler should always be able to know when his partner needs a break to catch their breath, to replenish fluids or use the facilities. He/she should also know enough to change tickling techniques and the areas being tickled to provide a bit of variety for the ticklee which in itself is sometimes a break for them.
I think a lot depends on the sensitivity of the tickler to the needs of his ticklee and also the level of trust between the tickler and ticklee.
A good tickler should always be able to know when his partner needs a break to catch their breath, to replenish fluids or use the facilities. He/she should also know enough to change tickling techniques and the areas being tickled to provide a bit of variety for the ticklee which in itself is sometimes a break for them.
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I've always been very respectful and caring for my "ticklee"....so if I see any hint of discomfort or fear/ panic, I STOP and make sure she's okay and wishes to continue, and don't wait for her safeword. The safety of the lady I'm tickling comes first....if she's passed her limit or wants to stop, that's what I do (and a guy can tell when his ticklee is panicked or reaching her limit).
I want the tickling to be fun and enjoyable for my girlfriend....not torturous, so I err on the side of caution...always!
I want the tickling to be fun and enjoyable for my girlfriend....not torturous, so I err on the side of caution...always!
it was all in good fun... i loved it i'm just new at this and didnt even think to come up with that safeword beforehand..lol.... so when I started screaming it inbetween my giggles, we both had a great laugh. I wasnt in a panic necessarily...lol... just in a little over my head and knew I was toast!
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Welcome to the TMF, K71, and congratulations on your first posts. 😀 This is a wonderful place, have fun here.
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I believe the experience factor you have with the lee is important, because if you already know the limit, a safeword is unnecessary, because you know how far to go. Comfort is the most important thing. Besides, you can pretty much tell when someone is spent and needs a break, anyway. Anything past the breaking point to me is overkill, anyhoo😀
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Has anyone ever when in the midst of a tickling session,,,
...I saw this as the title to this thread, and I'm thinking, "well, what? Fart?"
You should know when to stop. Safewords are good, and wise, but if you've got a good, level head on your shoulders, you're gonna know when to stop.
...I saw this as the title to this thread, and I'm thinking, "well, what? Fart?"
You should know when to stop. Safewords are good, and wise, but if you've got a good, level head on your shoulders, you're gonna know when to stop.
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Knox,
I couldn't agree more. Fart was the first thing that came to my mind, too 🙂
Also, as much as I would like to, I honestly don't think I have ever tickled my wife for longer than 40 seconds. I can tell when she has had enough, and I always stop at that point.
Regards,
TK
I couldn't agree more. Fart was the first thing that came to my mind, too 🙂
Also, as much as I would like to, I honestly don't think I have ever tickled my wife for longer than 40 seconds. I can tell when she has had enough, and I always stop at that point.
Regards,
TK
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Here is my take on safewords:
The safeword shouldn't be used lightly. You shouldn't yell out the safeword just because it tickles too much. When I play, saying the word "break" indicates that it's gone on too long and that a break is needed.
The pre-determined safeword is used ONLY in the event of an emergency. Perhaps the ticklee is getting dizzy, can't breathe, is having chest pains or some other pain or discomfort. If I use the safeword, it's because there's something very very wrong.
My fear is that if the safeword is used often just because it tickles too much, then the tickler might not take you seriously when you say it. So I use the word "break" for it tickles too much and the real safeword only if there's a serious problem.
Just wanted to throw my 2 cents in.
The safeword shouldn't be used lightly. You shouldn't yell out the safeword just because it tickles too much. When I play, saying the word "break" indicates that it's gone on too long and that a break is needed.
The pre-determined safeword is used ONLY in the event of an emergency. Perhaps the ticklee is getting dizzy, can't breathe, is having chest pains or some other pain or discomfort. If I use the safeword, it's because there's something very very wrong.
My fear is that if the safeword is used often just because it tickles too much, then the tickler might not take you seriously when you say it. So I use the word "break" for it tickles too much and the real safeword only if there's a serious problem.
Just wanted to throw my 2 cents in.
what is the real reason for a safe word?
I always assumed it was used so the lee could sort of roleplay with it and say "NO not there. Stop it! I can't take any more" the fun pleading and begging and teasing that sometimes acompanies a session
Or the obvious use when filming the session. Like for a pay site.
I might be doing my first real session soon and to ease the mind of the girl I'm going to have a safeword but stress that it must only be used when she absolutly needs it (like freaking out-out of breath-can't take anymore needs it)
I'd always thought it would be fun to make the safeword something like supercalafrajalisticexpialadotios LOL
I always assumed it was used so the lee could sort of roleplay with it and say "NO not there. Stop it! I can't take any more" the fun pleading and begging and teasing that sometimes acompanies a session
Or the obvious use when filming the session. Like for a pay site.
I might be doing my first real session soon and to ease the mind of the girl I'm going to have a safeword but stress that it must only be used when she absolutly needs it (like freaking out-out of breath-can't take anymore needs it)
I'd always thought it would be fun to make the safeword something like supercalafrajalisticexpialadotios LOL
During my tickle sessions as a professinal tickler I always use safe words. It's always discussed prior to even meeting for the session as I'm totally into respect as well. It's about the ticklee's needs and wants and not my own. I always take great care to make sure everything is cool, there is no pain and he/she wants to continue.
When the safe word is said, everything stops until I get the green light.
Even though safe words are not used in my private life with the guy I live with, when we're tickling I know his limits without him having to say anything...now if I had him tied up, that may be a different story and the evil tickler will scamper out and ruin the whole thing lol
Sometimes it's hard, but you have to respect the lee and respect yourself in the end. There's me being honest lol
When the safe word is said, everything stops until I get the green light.
Even though safe words are not used in my private life with the guy I live with, when we're tickling I know his limits without him having to say anything...now if I had him tied up, that may be a different story and the evil tickler will scamper out and ruin the whole thing lol
Sometimes it's hard, but you have to respect the lee and respect yourself in the end. There's me being honest lol
I had this happen once..had the lady all tied up and ready to go and began "searching" and she was quite a laugher..I kind of got caught up in it all and realized after a cough that I forgot about our safe word, so I slowed to really light tickles, mentioned the Red for stop and yellow for slow down...she giggled her Ok, and then said..."Green light" and she giggled and laughed for quite some time...
We never did end up using our safeword that day...
We never did end up using our safeword that day...
